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Are you sure he has stopped talking to his ex?

Hello, I read your entire story. Look, I’m a guy but my recent relationship was my first and I am in my low 30s. It lasted for over 4 years and I never once thought about having cold feet and seeing if the grass is greener on the other side. To me it just seems like a convenient excuse. If she truly wanted you she would never think about how her love life might be different with someone else.

I have read that sometimes women give one reason for ending a relationship whereas the truth behind the breakup is totally something else. Sometimes they might not want to tell you the truth because they do not want to hurt you. For example, suppose they are just not into you anymore etc.

Anyways, give her some time and see if she opens up to you and possibly considers reconciling.

You will need to do no contact for at least a month. Work on improving yourself and refreshing your mind with activities. Then see how you feel about her nearing the end of no contact.

Just tell him hey, with some time you have reflected on your past relationship and you understand where there might have been a broken link. Tell him you have gathered your thoughts and are committed to trying to improve yourself and how you handle situations. See what he says.

It’s great you are focusing on yourself. I remember I did that as well during no contact. I did join a couple online dating sites but didn’t really talk to someone. I felt I wasn’t in the right place. So I started to focus on hanging out with friends which I had not been doing prior and also going to the gym. I know she joined online dating sites when she first broke up with me and was talking to guys. Then during the patch where she started talking to me and met up with me twice I think she probably stopped talking to other guys. My guess is she is talking to other guys again now. She will probably come home for the holidays and be in the area. Maybe she will want to meet up and talk things. But who knows.

I think you have a good chance with your situation. It is my belief that it is much more common for a guy to flip on his original breakup decision and reconcile than if a woman decides on the breakup. Just keep going on the NC. Will you be ending it sometime this month?

Hey there, I definitely think Patricia has given you good advise. What I will add is that you definitely should do no contact. Have you tried going on walks (indoors in malls if it’s cold where you are), working out and other activities to clear your mind?

@xicana17

That is a good sign for you! I hope he contacts you again and you get a face to face meeting with him. Let us know what happens.

I messaged her sending her a photo of the library I have been studying at over a week ago. She did not reply. I also called her the next day and she did not pick up. She has not contacted me at all. But she has viewed my snaps on Snapchat the past week. I miss her a lot. I still always carry the smallest of hope but maybe I shouldn’t do that.