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This is what I told her in reply:
I understand your concern about me not telling you things. It’s an important conversation that definitely needs to be had between us. But I think at this particular time the bigger issue is the health of your dad.
Hi Vladimir,
In July we had not broken up. It was just that since mid May she started being distant. During this distant phase she only gave me a happy birthday text and phone call for formality sakes.
In mid August we broke up, I tried to chase her back for a couple weeks but since September 1 had been doing NC and going through a self cleansing.
From my point of view I only answered her text when she recently initiated contact. This is advised by some pages on this site rather than ignoring. Yes going to the hospital was a tough call but I didn’t tell her or see her as I didn’t want her thinking I had any other motives for going.
My family knows of the breakup as they use to be in very constant touch with her. So when she got quiet it was obvious.
Dont know if her family knows or not.
I replied I will make a prayer for him and she said thank you.
I went to see her father at the hospital with my parents. He had a bypass surgery. I pray for his health. She was not there but later she messaged me saying she didn’t know my family and I went to the hospital and why didn’t I tell her.
I replied back saying I just wanted to see him.
She texted back saying as usual I do not tell her anything.
Hmmm? HELP!!!! No contact has been 25 days. I do not think I have necessarily broke it but I do not know how to answer her now.
UPDATE:
She texted me last night “I don’t know if I should tell you but a part of me thinks I should. My dad had a major heart surgery today. I know we are not talking but I thought of you a lot today”.
You should read the article about rebound relationships on this site. It’s completely normal for him to go in a rebound so quickly. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you and only you. Actually the fact he denied the girl making it official and posting the relationship on social media proves he might have only done it to get away from the sadness of being alone and broken up.
Can you explain why you stopped giving him attention at all?
In the meantime yes do NC.
