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@TravelBug The mornings are the hardest for me too. The ache in my chest is so strong that I have to force myself out of bed. The rest of the day isn’t too terrible.
I think this is the perfect time to re-start NC. Who knows why he stopped? But since you are travelling, this is a good time to just not contact him. When you get back, I would see if he contacts you. If not, then keep going with the program as usual.
I still haven’t heard anything from my ex other than the package with no note. I really wish I could have gone over to her mom’s yesterday when I was invited because I never know if I will be invited again. But it is probably good that I had other plans.
That is heartbreaking, and I completely understand why you feel hurt. But I really think the best thing you can do is limited contact just what is required for the kids. Also, let the kids see you doing nice things for yourself and getting healthy. I know you want him back, or you wouldn’t be here. But right now, try to focus on getting you emotionally good.
This situation is so hard because of the history and the kids.
Hi Vanessa,
I was a little clingy in my relationship as well, and I still have hope. BUT you need to give him some serious space. And you and I both need to figure out how to not go there in terms of getting upset and being clingy.
But I like to think there is always hope.
Wait, so are you broken up with her now? Is she back with the father of the child? I have heard of cases of rebounds becoming the permanent boyfriend, and I have heard of cases where it didn’t work out.
I would do no contact if you don’t hear from him. He knows you are on vacation, and sometimes people won’t contact a person as much on vacation as they might if you were just home.
I would definitely not text back right away if he does contact you. But I don’t think answering would hurt.
I got a package from my ex. We had ordered shirts together at a game we went to, but they were being shipped to her. In the meantime, we broke up. I got my shirt in the mail yesterday. She didn’t include any note, and it broke my heart.
If you don’t want him back, then talk to him. If you do, then tell him that you need your space, and to please don’t contact you for a while. Don’t tell him a length of time. And if he contacts you after that, ignore him for 30 days.
I completely understand. I always feel extremely anxious when I don’t hear from my ex, but then as soon as I do, I feel amazing. And it doesn’t even matter what is said really. But from what I understand that is because you are easing the withdrawl. It is like if you were on drugs and trying to get off of them. You feel like you just need one more time. You do it one more time, and it works. Until you need it again. It could be different for you, but that is how it is for me.
It is so hard. I read your post where you tried to explain your sudden change of feelings for your best friend. That is something that is very hard for me to understand. Is how she was so into me one day, and it vanished overnight. I miss mine too.
Exactly, what is the point? I know that I want my ex back, but the only thing I can really do is try to make my life the best it can be with her. I understand NC and re-attraction, but the key part of it is making sure that your life is good so whether or not you get your ex back, your life is still great.
I use to always say if it is meant to be, then nothing you do can ruin it. I don’t know if I believe that anymore. But I certainly don’t think one “Thanks!” text can make or break. You know?
Have we heard from anyone who actually gets their ex back permanently? I would like to hear those stories. I do have one friend from whom that happened. They were broken up for maybe 2 months?
You will probably need to wait until closer to time and decide what is best then. Probably are going to miss her birthday, but if you get back together there will be plenty of future birthdays.
I think it is good news! Have fun on your vacation and come back a person who is relaxed. Maybe some of the sadness will lift.
I have given up hope. I broke NC after 7 days, and she was pretty cold. Said some mean things to me. It is so hard. So, I guess I am still in NC permanently. I still want her back.
