NLSad

I wouldn’t worry too much about what he’s doing to be honest. That was the mistake i made for my ex and it just kept digging me down the hole deeper. So just worry about yourself for now. If he comes around then he will, the process could take time but by then would you really want him back? Have you been feeling better about the entire situation? I know at this point now, i feel better about mine and honestly now I’m noticing that my ex really lost out because I’m seeing that other women are showing big signs of interest in me. Not that i want to date any of them but it does make me feel better. Also, a lot of people tell me that the new guy she’s with has absolutely no goal in life and blows all his money on frivolous things, and to top it off he uses plenty of drugs so yea good job for her haha. I’m pretty sure at this point no matter what your ex does it doesn’t bother you as much anymore because he keeps playing these games, so the best thing to do in this situation is to step back and not play his little game with him. Just do what you have to do to make yourself happy and when he sees how happy you are without him he may come running back quick.

So i just found out today that she is now dating that guy officially now…at this point I’m sure all hope is lost and there’s nothing i can do to change that..as much as i want her back and love her i doubt there’s a chance I’ll get her back ever. Idk i just feel so much more depressed about it, it doesn’t hurt as bad as i thought it would but the pain is there…idk i guess i need some kind of advice or something…

Also my ex is starting to really act out of character. She’s been posting on social media a lot as far as her stories go portraying herself as something she isn’t. Which is a turn off for me because I’m like why you flexing something that you’re not?

I also lost my grandmother recently so i understand what you’re going through. Mine happened the week after my breakup so everything just stacked harder for me. It’s true that them suffering the whole time is hard to watch and now they can both rest but they would want us to be able to stay strong and remember them for the better times we had with them rather then being remembered for their suffering. I feel this kind of pain is worse because i have also lost my dad 10 years ago and I’m still feeling that pain as well. It just makes me think that yea while I’m still sad about the breakup, there’s other people that mean a lot to me that I’d rather much not lose at the same time. Just think of what they would tell you if you’re ever going through anything, because even though they are no longer with us does not mean that the lessons that they instilled with us will disappear and that’s what you want to hold onto. I feel that’s how you keep them alive. I understand that you’re most likely very upset about it but I’m sure that your nana loved you very much and would want nothing more for you than to live a happy life. So allow yourself to grieve the loss and try your best to do what you can to live that happy life that she would want for you.

yea it’s sad, they don’t deserve it but that’s how we feel.

He could reach out eventually but remember whenever you feel comfortable and ready you have the option to contact him as well.

I know and I’m very thankful for having “met” you (i say it in quotes cause we met but not met haha)…i know thinking of going down that permanent road isn’t the way to deal with things, I’ve thought it through already, i was going to do it on Christmas Day when nobody was around me (my whole family left out of state without me because i had work) but i knew them coming home to a lifeless body of mine wouldn’t do them any good. I’m happy to have the chance to vent to someone that kind of understands what I’m going through, our situations are similar but we are getting different things, maybe i should’ve stuck to NC maybe a difference would’ve been made. Sometimes i think maybe i reacted too late…but the text she sent me today were total opposites of what she told me the night she left…for starters she made it seem like the love that was there was one sided and hers was purely out of infatuation…hearing something like that hurts…and then her giving me the same reason which is she’s lost feelings for me sounds like shit because i know there has to be something that I’ve done wrong…i feel like I’ve fallen deeper into the hole and now I’m just laying down in it….i was hoping for a better result and i understand that people say they will not give relationships another chance before but maybe my case is just one of those that’ll be the ones where i don’t win, where i don’t get the girl in the end, that this is it for me…i don’t have a chance in hell..i understand that maybe one day I’ll feel better, I’ll be out of this hole that I’ve apparently jumped into, that maybe one day she will realize what she’s done perhaps and maybe in some kind of movie ending or something that i do get her back but i have to be realistic that right now there’s no chance and i have to accept it…my friends have noticed that I’ve been acting out of character, that my outlook on life has changed because of this experience. They know I’m not the type to just lay down and take a loss and stay there but I’m stuck right now…it’s like I’m being bound down by chains and it sucks…i feel like i have too much love to give and i gave it to the wrong person and now idk what to do with it all..I’ve resorted to writing down music because it helps me escape the depression, anxiety, fear but when i have writers block or something i end up being stuck in the same negative thought process…

Even though I’m struggling with my situation i hope you’re staying strong in yours and you get back what i couldn’t or at least fall in a better place than i am in right now.

It’s been almost 3 months since we broke up…I’m not entirely sure if it’s a good thing or not…it very hurtful and idk what to do anymore honestly…I’m very shaken and I’ve been contemplating suicide a lot lately…i texted her today and i was told she has no intention of trying the relationship again, she lost feelings for me and etc…i know i did absolutely nothing now and she made that part clear..it’s not going well for me overall though…I’m really not sure what to do now but focus on school and everything else…I’m still up venting to my friends and everything but it isn’t helping…thank you for being here for me to vent though and i do see your point but my situation is starting to become more grim everyday…i don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore and it’s getting darker..