NC on a hard situation need help

I also lost my grandmother recently so i understand what you’re going through. Mine happened the week after my breakup so everything just stacked harder for me. It’s true that them suffering the whole time is hard to watch and now they can both rest but they would want us to be able to stay strong and remember them for the better times we had with them rather then being remembered for their suffering. I feel this kind of pain is worse because i have also lost my dad 10 years ago and I’m still feeling that pain as well. It just makes me think that yea while I’m still sad about the breakup, there’s other people that mean a lot to me that I’d rather much not lose at the same time. Just think of what they would tell you if you’re ever going through anything, because even though they are no longer with us does not mean that the lessons that they instilled with us will disappear and that’s what you want to hold onto. I feel that’s how you keep them alive. I understand that you’re most likely very upset about it but I’m sure that your nana loved you very much and would want nothing more for you than to live a happy life. So allow yourself to grieve the loss and try your best to do what you can to live that happy life that she would want for you.

Hey, so it’s totally understandable for you to feel the way you do. It’s been months since the breakup and for you to feel detached is fine it’s showing that you are slowly being able to move on from him. If he is saying all of this to all these people then you did a good job in doing NC and everything and it’s paying off. I few months ago you probably would’ve jumped at the idea that he’s goings around and doing what he’s doing now and you probably would’ve broken NC just to text him to confirm but now that time has passed you can see that you can move forward in life without him and that’s good for you because it probably doesn’t hurt you as badly anymore. Just be patient for now again and now it’s time to figure out what YOU want. Aevaluate if the relationship would make you happy at this point and you will find your answer. You’re also right the breakup is not your fault so do not let him come back thinking he is doing you a favor.

Everything has been up and down for me. My ex has been going around with the new guy and I’m sure she is dating him now at this point. It does hurt me still because sadly i do still want her back but I’m getting over her slowly. Some things are starting to look up for me though however, i sent one of the songs i wrote to a professional and he thinks i have talent for writing but i still have more work to do (writing really helped me stopped worrying as much as to what she is up to). I’m not saying that I’m moving on or ready to get into another relationship at this point but i did meet someone new in nursing school and she seems very interested in me but I’m not looking too much into it because I’m still stuck on my ex.

See everything is working out for us somehow and right when we least expect it. In the end it’s their loss. I know the guy my ex is talking to as well and he doesn’t seem to have anything planned for his life so if that’s what she wants then ok :).

It does seem like our ex’s are changing but it’s not like it’s for the better but whatever they think makes them happy right?

See i told you he was probably interested haha. But you should do what you feel will make you feel better. Don’t force anything and take your time with it all.

I wouldn’t worry too much about what he’s doing to be honest. That was the mistake i made for my ex and it just kept digging me down the hole deeper. So just worry about yourself for now. If he comes around then he will, the process could take time but by then would you really want him back? Have you been feeling better about the entire situation? I know at this point now, i feel better about mine and honestly now I’m noticing that my ex really lost out because I’m seeing that other women are showing big signs of interest in me. Not that i want to date any of them but it does make me feel better. Also, a lot of people tell me that the new guy she’s with has absolutely no goal in life and blows all his money on frivolous things, and to top it off he uses plenty of drugs so yea good job for her haha. I’m pretty sure at this point no matter what your ex does it doesn’t bother you as much anymore because he keeps playing these games, so the best thing to do in this situation is to step back and not play his little game with him. Just do what you have to do to make yourself happy and when he sees how happy you are without him he may come running back quick.