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  • #110772
    NLSad
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    She doesn’t look hurt though that’s the thing and I’m not sure how all this can be easy for her.

    His social media actions are a way for him to i guess vent and look for some kind of attention. Like i said before you guys were dating for years and spent the holidays together I’m sure so this year he must’ve felt lonely because you weren’t there this time. I feel like home saying that could mean that he misses you and the fact that his friends are checking on you and everything is also a good sign of that possibility.

    #110834
    AMadFoolCry
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    Hiya no updates

    How are you?

    #110835
    NLSad
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    I’m not doing well…i received information that my ex is now on a dating website and I’m not sure what to do…i feel very heartbroken at the moment..i tried to find something to keep my mind off things so i turned to writing down music (lame i know) but now I’m just crushed…idk what to do..

    #110848
    AMadFoolCry
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    Well finally that’s something after weeks of her acting indifferent I kmow it doesn’t sound good but think of it as her way of trying to get you out of her mind turning to those dating websites but everyone she will try to engange into will somehow remind her of you. I don’t know how it works since my ex is my first bf but I know dating again immediately after a breakup is disastrous or even it will turn to rebounds. You can do it I am here for you always stay strong don’t let her know you are being affected. You are not lame if anything you are expressive.

    #110851
    NLSad
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    It’s been almost 3 months since we broke up…I’m not entirely sure if it’s a good thing or not…it very hurtful and idk what to do anymore honestly…I’m very shaken and I’ve been contemplating suicide a lot lately…i texted her today and i was told she has no intention of trying the relationship again, she lost feelings for me and etc…i know i did absolutely nothing now and she made that part clear..it’s not going well for me overall though…I’m really not sure what to do now but focus on school and everything else…I’m still up venting to my friends and everything but it isn’t helping…thank you for being here for me to vent though and i do see your point but my situation is starting to become more grim everyday…i don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore and it’s getting darker..

    #110852
    NLSad
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    I really thought i was doing better up until now..i ended up breaking down for the first time ever in front of my friends…

    #110853
    AMadFoolCry
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    Ok let us not talk about her let it all out my friend scream at a seaside at night just don’t ever think of suicide you are loved many people cares about you. I do care about you are a great friend to me honestly your emotional capacity is so big you have so much love to give.

    #110856
    NLSad
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    I know and I’m very thankful for having “met” you (i say it in quotes cause we met but not met haha)…i know thinking of going down that permanent road isn’t the way to deal with things, I’ve thought it through already, i was going to do it on Christmas Day when nobody was around me (my whole family left out of state without me because i had work) but i knew them coming home to a lifeless body of mine wouldn’t do them any good. I’m happy to have the chance to vent to someone that kind of understands what I’m going through, our situations are similar but we are getting different things, maybe i should’ve stuck to NC maybe a difference would’ve been made. Sometimes i think maybe i reacted too late…but the text she sent me today were total opposites of what she told me the night she left…for starters she made it seem like the love that was there was one sided and hers was purely out of infatuation…hearing something like that hurts…and then her giving me the same reason which is she’s lost feelings for me sounds like shit because i know there has to be something that I’ve done wrong…i feel like I’ve fallen deeper into the hole and now I’m just laying down in it….i was hoping for a better result and i understand that people say they will not give relationships another chance before but maybe my case is just one of those that’ll be the ones where i don’t win, where i don’t get the girl in the end, that this is it for me…i don’t have a chance in hell..i understand that maybe one day I’ll feel better, I’ll be out of this hole that I’ve apparently jumped into, that maybe one day she will realize what she’s done perhaps and maybe in some kind of movie ending or something that i do get her back but i have to be realistic that right now there’s no chance and i have to accept it…my friends have noticed that I’ve been acting out of character, that my outlook on life has changed because of this experience. They know I’m not the type to just lay down and take a loss and stay there but I’m stuck right now…it’s like I’m being bound down by chains and it sucks…i feel like i have too much love to give and i gave it to the wrong person and now idk what to do with it all..I’ve resorted to writing down music because it helps me escape the depression, anxiety, fear but when i have writers block or something i end up being stuck in the same negative thought process…

    Even though I’m struggling with my situation i hope you’re staying strong in yours and you get back what i couldn’t or at least fall in a better place than i am in right now.

    #110860
    AMadFoolCry
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    I don’t wanna judge someone I don’t met but right now she is acting like an entitled crappy person. You deserve the world and I know right now nothing makes sense but it will down the road.

    I think there is progress but it is only a breadcrumb my friend posted our drinking sesh and a few minutes later he posted on my day a screesnshot of the song “Back to you” with the caption “Oh no no I just keep on coming back to you.” but I didn’t view it after an hour or two he blocked his my day again from me. I know not much but yeah I don’t even care anymore whatever he posts I won’t settle for less unless he msg me again I won’t reach out.

    #110861
    AMadFoolCry
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    Having met you in a time like this is God send all of my friends are like not helpful at all. You’ve been much more of a friend to me than them.

    #110863
    NLSad
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    I do wish i were as strong as you are. And yea she is being a crappy person but that’s the person I’m stuck on sadly. Even after all that i still have nothing but love for her and still want her back. It seems like she’s moving on though sadly because she went on a date with that guy today and it broke my heart to be honest.

    I understand where you’re coming from and keep up the strength to keep NC don’t be like me and soldier on. Just keep ignoring his social media for now and you’ll get your results in time. Hopefully you’re feeling better about yourself.

    Well i wouldn’t say your friends aren’t helpful, it’s just they don’t understand what you’re going through but you will see better days for sure. I know it sounds hypocritical coming from a guy whose been contemplating suicide more everyday but you will. I know i will too but right now I’m not seeing it.

    #110867
    AMadFoolCry
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    yeah I can relate sadly even after everything I can still truly say that I still want another chance with him and still loves him.

    I wish my results will get more bigger than just breadcrumbs but I know that might not even happen who knows.

    #110869
    NLSad
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    yea it’s sad, they don’t deserve it but that’s how we feel.

    He could reach out eventually but remember whenever you feel comfortable and ready you have the option to contact him as well.

    #110881
    AMadFoolCry
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    My grand nana died I am such in a bad place right now.

    #110882
    NLSad
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    I am so sorry for your loss…you have a lot to deal with and I’m sorry that happened. You should focus more on your family situation rather than your ex though for sure. If you need to vent then just do so.

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