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She doesn’t look hurt though that’s the thing and I’m not sure how all this can be easy for her.
His social media actions are a way for him to i guess vent and look for some kind of attention. Like i said before you guys were dating for years and spent the holidays together I’m sure so this year he must’ve felt lonely because you weren’t there this time. I feel like home saying that could mean that he misses you and the fact that his friends are checking on you and everything is also a good sign of that possibility.
Well if his friends are being that way and saying things like that then i feel those are good signs. If his friends feel that way then eventually he will feel the weight of his decision faster. You’re doing a good job keeping up with NC. I would look at it as your efforts are finally starting to show results. Idk about my situation, because at the moment i feel all hope is lost for me, she’s stopped viewing my stories on social media and she looks happy when she posts on social media so I’m not sure if i should sit around wondering about her anymore. I know i miss her and still want the relationship to work but at this point i feel my chances are dead.
If you really need your things back then you should definitely get them back, but if you want to keep NC and are not ready to contact him then i have read that some people will actually rebuy some of those items just so that they do not break NC.
That’s the plan, i don’t really care anymore. Like it’d be nice if she came back but if she wanna be like that then is there a point? Like we didn’t do anything to them so why are we being treated like shit?
You’re absolutely right but it’s sad because they are being childish and we all grown adults.
Well you’re getting the same reaction so just let him continue to be childish. I’m still stuck in the same position with my ex and I’m not sure if i should continue to pursue her or just flat out move on. I know I’ll always love her but sometimes that’s not enough. She continues to ignore me and seems uninterested in anything i say or do so what’s the point? Last time i spoke to her she just ended up messaging someone else on her phone and was laughing and stuff in front of me but the following day she was just sitting alone looking sad. I believe she’s playing mind games with me but i refuse to play.
Yes that’s true but i just hate the fact that they are treating us this way and acting like the time we had with them meant nothing.
I’m already feeling that to be honest. I will definitely feel much better soon and once i am I’m not sure if i can look at my ex the same way anymore. I no longer feel anxious, depressed or scared to lose her because I’ve already lost her so what is there left for me to fear? If she wants to be childish then it’s on her.
I will look that up.
That’s good that he stopped being childish. Maybe now he’s starting to realize that it doesn’t matter what he tries and until he reaches out to you he won’t get you back.
Yea i have a feeling she’s done with me, but i can’t be bitter towards her or anything cause in the end even if i refuse to wait for her i still love her but that will only be there for so long as well up until i can’t love her in that way anymore. Hopefully she wakes up and realizes she made a mistake but i just can’t sit back anymore and just wait on her, it’s not worth the pain and suffering that i would have to go through just to possibly be treated like that again. By the time if she ever decides to come back i May end up even rejecting her because at this point I’m not sure if i really want her back anymore. I know I’ll still love her but idk if i could put myself out there for her to hurt any longer.
So i broke NC i reached out and she only wanted to return something back to me. I saw her at work and talked to her but she didn’t seem to want to talk to me. She was on her phone most of the time texting or something and smiling in front of me and she was saying a lot of outbof character things probably playing mind games with me. That being said after i broke NC i felt my fear, depression, and anxiety leave me. Even if she knows she can come back when she wants to i decided that I’m no longer going to sit back on the sidelines and wait for her. If she comes back great if not then I’ll be fine. I hope you’re doing well in NC.
Hopefully it’s better this year. I’m already starting to feel better and accept the idea that I may never get her back sadly. I’m still hopeful but at this point it’s whatever happens happens.
I stopped expecting it as well so hopefully they will realize on their own soon. That’s good that you’re having fun. I was stuck working on New Years sadly. Hope everything’s been going well for you.
Happy new year to you as well. Yes sadly we do have to enter the new year with the BS from 2018 but hopefully it gets better for us.
It’s ok i also did not get a New Years message, at this point I’m not even hoping for it anymore. If it happens it happens.
I understand the feeling. When i don’t see her i feel better but when i do see her i feel pressure and i feel very anxious. I just want her to at least talk to me but it’s all up to her. You could always have his friends pick up his stuff for him.
You should start looking for the job. Make yourself better by starting there. Gym is a good way to work on yourself as well.
We could but what exactly are your hobbies like? It’s not a bad idea but then again we don’t know much about each other except what we are both going through, but i guess a list i can give you would be:
1) find a job
2)go to the gym
3) pick up a new hobby or reconnect with an old hobby that you enjoyed before dating your ex
4) try to go out at least twice a week with friends that you know you will be happy around.
All of these sound doable for now.Maybe so but when she told me she was slightly drunk but that gave the the courage to do so. Idk when or if that time will ever come. It’s just the way she’s been acting or so when i see her around tells me otherwise and it makes me depressed. I’m hoping you’re right though.
Just hold onto them for now or put them to the side so you don’t think about it. When he’s ready to contact you for his things back then have it ready but I’m sure he will use it as an excuse to see you and figure out what you’ve been doing or something.
Glad it worked out for them in the end then.
It’s the same for me, I’m always the first to text and last to text usually and it’s unfair that i have to put in all the effort. It seems like she doesn’t want to or something or is afraid to but I’m not entirely sure. I’m getting the feeling that she doesn’t really care about the relationship anymore tbh. I do remember the courtship because i was invited to her cousins wedding (me and him are friends) and i went with her and her family and stayed with them. She was all over me at the after party and after and told me she’s liked me for 5 years but wasn’t sure if i felt the same way. She snuck into my room and we talked about it and that’s how it started, because she was the one that told me. She was the one that initiated it and the relationship but was the only one that had a say to end it. We were just really good friends before and now it’s like nothing now. No contact, no hellos or anything it’s like I’m invisible to her.
I would wait for him to contact you about his things, like i said if he intends to come back then that’s his reason for reaching out to you, but if you do contact him then text is much easier. Everyone has a phone now so getting an email about meeting up to me is strange.
So to update, i see her in the break room at work. She’s still avoiding me, eye contact and everything…she’s still sitting there by herself and idk if I’m still having any effect on her. I want to go up and say hi but i know i shouldn’t do that. Idk if she’s expecting me to reach out or not but it’s just not fair because why does effort have to be shown just by me?
