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eel doesn’t really seem that big a deal to me, is this the first time you have said no to him? i don’t see the harm in hitting him up though to see whats up with him. Sounds like y’all left it at a dead kind of point after the no.

You should feel the way you feel, it just sounds like the lovey stuffy isn’t his focus right now but may be a phase. How long you are willing to wait it out kind of depends. If you feel like you can’t take it off your mind or view it different you have to talk about it with him and let him know that. You might be scared he will want to break it off but if y’all wanna stay together you have to let him know he is kind of going back in his word in a way.

But I say give it a few weeks and kind of focus on yourself and what you have going on. You may be putting too much energy and dependence on him again. Like I said it’s completely understandable but you might have to
Wait it out and give him space for a bit without mentioning it’s bothering you and see if changes, if not I suggest talking about it again.

Well you have to talk eventually about that, for months I had to leave my Gf Monday-Thursday most weeks to work and spend time on weekend which we also worked together. I didn’t think she thought too much or it effected her to much because she never said that, I was focused on our future and building something of a career to take care of her and the kid so maybe he is thinking abou you

yeah very true 🙂 as it happens you have to let it out in the moment, after the moment passes you either bottle it up or let it go, but letting it go def is a happier route, until a situation happens again and you are free to talk about it then.

only have a talk if its really just killing you and you think you are gonna do it, then have the open talk but focusing on letting go is good. Unless he does something just CRAZY you know haha but some little stuff won’t matter in a few weeks if even a few days 😛

Just if you still feel the need to say something, which I’m sure you will lol

Just gonna let you know it really isnt a good idea lol if you keep bringing it up, it comes off annoying at a point. And he will likely take offense. I understand him wanting to go alone though, because if you are there I’m sure he can work and you be okay with just being around him. But if my girlfriend is around i wouldn’t be able to keep myself honest and work without feeling the want/need to entertain her. So sometimes if its work it makes sense for him to do it alone. Its also hard to navigate, if he has to make random trips while he is out there and meet people ect. Maybe best course is to accept it, and then just be sweet about it and let him know you wanna go on a trip just you two when y’all get a chance 🙂

but his mind is clearly made up, it was best for him to do it alone, so there really isnt any changing his mind on that, its only problems at the end of that road. When any person has their mind made up, provoking them to see it your way is always bad way of motivation.

Don’t get lost in feeling like you have to keep bringing it up because it didn’t go the way you wanted, focus on the positive. Also it was a good step towards communication that you brought it up in the first place

Not gonna lie, its kind of a fail lol! but not completely bad, sounds like you just didn’t know how to go about it without getting “too serious” or attacking, and jealous prolly wasn’t the word, maybe “disappointed” would be better, because for some reason people remember jealous and it sticks in the mind in a negative way.

But I only say its a fail just because you kind of made it about that one event and not really about how it makes you feel in general if he doesn’t really consider you when it happens. Some trips it really is best to go alone, but its good for him to kind of do all the text/calling to let you know he misses you etc and maybe try to do something special when you get back, but guys don’t get it while in the moment. But to bring it up again without him bring it up would come off nagging and problematic to him so I guess it would be best to drop it at this point until the situation comes up again in the future

@Ras217 yeah just living is better wording 🙂 thats really cool, glad y’all didn’t let a good thing go to waste! Is he feeling better about his own situations now you think?

And we don’t talk still currently,so I honestly wouldn’t know where the conversation would come from. Ive basically been living in a different city since the break up, but ill be moving back so we will prolly start running into each other again. I know she is happy though right now without relationships, with me or anybody else (or she tries to make it look that way). Its cool seeing that she was happy though and doing for herself.

All in all the next 6-7 month i will be around a lot more often now and I figure we will run into each other, maybe that conversation will come up if we are on friendly terms again. But yeah she still has a lot of my stuff apparently that could have been thrown away or shipped to me, etc. But my friend said she doesn’t bring me up to him anymore really for advice when I send stuff or contact, and I don’t really talk to him about her anymore either, because like i said I think he was crossing the wrong wires between us playing middle man.

But my job gives me the option to transfer to where she is basically, which i have debated, because it might come of really bad or really good i don’t know haha or another location that i don’t really want to work so I’ve got a good 2 weeks to decide.

Yeah its all good how was it? 🙂

The letter didn’t really do much as far as getting us re connected. Neither did I hear from her on my birthday either, which had me a little disappointed for a few hours but I got over it. My friend says she took the key to the apartment I returned (it has a special design on it) but she attached it to one of the gifts, which was a key chain and she replaced her old key chain with the new one I got her and she carries it around with that key. Also the letter I wrote (half expected to be thrown away) she keeps at the top of her night stand still, my friend went and saw it while visiting. I was trying to make sense of it at a point but I’m letting it go now. Was some weird energy when I was back around our mutual friends because they was having to pick and choose how to hangout with both of us without us both being in the same group. But if she really wanted to talk or anything she would have already so I’ve given up on that, and the letter made me feel a lot better about letting it go and I’ve kind of started putting distance in information about my life to our close mutual friend because Im realizing him playing middle friend is actually more damaging than good.

We might end up working together at the same place again soon, so that’ll be a thing i guess when it happens haha But putting a lot of effort into getting over the old fantasy of what could of been back in the past and focusing on whats to come in the future