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@dopierk sounds good to me 🙂
just thought provoking did you think about putting, “how are you doing?” instead of hope you are doing well? or do you think that is too much or a force to try and get him to reply.
Also… what about “hey you” instead of hey. Sometimes it’s the little words that grab people’s attention. 🙂
But only go with what you’re comfortable with.
YOU GUYS.
He responded and it was really positive! I was not expecting this at all. I’m in shock. Slow and steady, maybe I can do this after all.
Me: the text
Him: Thanks for the great news! I have been doing well, how are you?
Me: I’ve been good, did some acting for USC recently.
Him: Oh nice!
One hour later
Him: everything else going well?
This was almost 10 pm so I decided not to respond right away, I was out.
How should I respond in the morning? Should I say a little bit about what’s been going on and ask what’s new with him? Or should I just say something positive and end the convo?
I’m just so shocked. You have no idea… To go from him not talking to me… to him responding with exclamation points, asking me how I’m doing and initiating further conversation. Wow, I guess he doesn’t hate me after all. 😀
thats amazing 😀
thats such a good sign he responded an hour later, so he was prolly re reading those text a lot and felt like he had to keep the convo rolling haha so great 🙂
I don’t want to get ahead of the game here but I think a brief inside on good stuff you have going on will be good, and asking him whats new with him, its a really good intro into casual talk again. really excited for you 🙂
I’m just going to be short and sweet and end this convo in the am. I’ll reach out again in a week or so.
Sounds good to me 🙂
Your intuition usually knows whats best when your feelings aren’t controlling the direction haha but coming here, or any where else for that matter is always a good buffer for impulse and emotional decisions , the road to ex recovery is long patient one you been doing really good 🙂 not that its over but been sticking to your guns even in tough times
So I have this letter I wrote to my ex, literally took like 2 weeks to write this thing, and i sent it to a mutual friend of ours thats her closest friend right now, he said he was touched by it and everything and he understands a lot about the way i was acting during the relationship from his view on the outside after reading it. Sure she will be touched by it and all that good stuff and want to reach out. He though I should send it this monday, because I’m sending her some money with the gifts i got for her and a few of our other friends.
But my friend was telling me, the rebound relationship isn’t really working out and the guy doesn’t show interest really in her like she wants but she is still kind of pursing it. So that made me think “cool perfect time to swoop in” haha but now I’m thinking should I just wait till that situation all the way fades out?
the letter was more of a clearing thing for me, just because I owned up to a lot about the relationship and was honest about stuff we didn’t talk about etc and was like I’m good and moving on but no harm no foul, not have any bad blood about us. So rather it made her come back or want to be in contact I’m not really worried about. But our friend telling me about the rebound not working, and saying she still ask him how I’m doing time to time makes me think maybe I should hold off on that little longer?
So I sent my ex the money she needed, and a little letter (well not so little honestly) and the gift I got her, also the key to the apartment I still had. She told my friend that I sent her the money, but she didn’t mention any of the other stuff to him, neither did she reach out to me. But today (3 days later) she sent me a package with clothes I had left at the apartment, and a gift that she got from vegas a long time ago but I never took with me. Not completely sure what to make of it and I’m trying not to read to deep into it i guess, because I actually do appreciate the clothes because I needed them and never asked just forgot they was there, but she didn’t send a lot of other things, like my cologne I left which is her favorite of mine, or my backpack that I let her use for school or any gifts, necklace, earings ect. So i guess thats looking too deep but it got me in my emotions a lot and I’m feeling less emotional as I type this, but confusing I guess, and weird she mentions that to my friend but says nothing in detail
Sorry I’ve been MIA, Holidays and all… mosis, how are you doing? how did the letter go? 🙂
Ras217, if you are still around…how are you girl?
Yeah its all good how was it? 🙂
The letter didn’t really do much as far as getting us re connected. Neither did I hear from her on my birthday either, which had me a little disappointed for a few hours but I got over it. My friend says she took the key to the apartment I returned (it has a special design on it) but she attached it to one of the gifts, which was a key chain and she replaced her old key chain with the new one I got her and she carries it around with that key. Also the letter I wrote (half expected to be thrown away) she keeps at the top of her night stand still, my friend went and saw it while visiting. I was trying to make sense of it at a point but I’m letting it go now. Was some weird energy when I was back around our mutual friends because they was having to pick and choose how to hangout with both of us without us both being in the same group. But if she really wanted to talk or anything she would have already so I’ve given up on that, and the letter made me feel a lot better about letting it go and I’ve kind of started putting distance in information about my life to our close mutual friend because Im realizing him playing middle friend is actually more damaging than good.
We might end up working together at the same place again soon, so that’ll be a thing i guess when it happens haha But putting a lot of effort into getting over the old fantasy of what could of been back in the past and focusing on whats to come in the future
That’s interesting that she keeps the letter on her nightstand. maybe she is still conflicted over her feelings for you?
I’m glad you have made peace with everything. Who knows, maybe you all will reconcile in the future. But you are right its important to focus on the future.
Hi guys!
I’m doing really well. Things with my guy are going well. I’m not anxious or fearful that he’s going to leave again. We’re going to a wedding in GA in a few weeks, so that’ll be fun!Dopierk – what’s new with you? Any updates? Any new news??
@dopierk yeah I think its weird, but it seems she is having fun again and being independent of relationships in general not just with me so its cool to see. I would just drive myself crazy obsessing over it though.
Has anything changed with you? Not just in relation to your ex but for yourself personally.
@ras217 sounds like y’all are taking it slow and its working out , thats really great 😀mosis – she definitely still cares. If she didn’t, that letter would be in a garbage. Any thoughts on just talking to her about giving it a second chance?
I wouldn’t say we’re taking it slow, we’re just living. 🙂 It’s definitely working out! We’ve always been very open with each other and it’s paid off.
@Ras217 yeah just living is better wording 🙂 thats really cool, glad y’all didn’t let a good thing go to waste! Is he feeling better about his own situations now you think?And we don’t talk still currently,so I honestly wouldn’t know where the conversation would come from. Ive basically been living in a different city since the break up, but ill be moving back so we will prolly start running into each other again. I know she is happy though right now without relationships, with me or anybody else (or she tries to make it look that way). Its cool seeing that she was happy though and doing for herself.
All in all the next 6-7 month i will be around a lot more often now and I figure we will run into each other, maybe that conversation will come up if we are on friendly terms again. But yeah she still has a lot of my stuff apparently that could have been thrown away or shipped to me, etc. But my friend said she doesn’t bring me up to him anymore really for advice when I send stuff or contact, and I don’t really talk to him about her anymore either, because like i said I think he was crossing the wrong wires between us playing middle man.
But my job gives me the option to transfer to where she is basically, which i have debated, because it might come of really bad or really good i don’t know haha or another location that i don’t really want to work so I’ve got a good 2 weeks to decide.
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