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Yes it is the same guy. And I will follow your advice. Thank you @patricia12
Hi.
Thank you for commenting, appreciate your words.
I did quite number of NC’s and he kept coming back only with words and each time it happened after when I started to feel myself better and powerful, and each time left me up in the air, so this worn me out. A year passed away like this and it is ridiculous really.
But in the end it was me that I let him behave that way. So I’m going to stop this going.
I would like to hear about your story if you like to tell.Unfriending or unfollowing him during NC is kinda breaking the NC rules, I think because thats sort of a reaction and see he is checking on you on social media too. Anyways don’t panick you should just keep doing the NC, it’s very very hard but you should stop stalking on him.
@octopus2016 Thanks for taking your time reading my post which I believe you did understand. I read all of your posts, I guess you’re in love with him but I’m sure your silence kills him thats the best respond, and these guys sounded kinda same to me, I’m guessing great manipulators at the same time charming attractive in some way and very smart, its like they can get any type of women they want but they make you feel as if really special. This goes on and on.
Anyway, now I feel this urge again to check what hes been upto but I just came here to write and its been only one day. I’m not going to do it.
I’m going to move to another city where my sister and one of my close friend live in, maybe I will start working there for sometime, for a change..And I also should find myself other things that might stir up my interest.
It does really suck when you care for someone and you even realise and know his mistakes but still giving them chances, it’s not that they are smart or we are stupids its cuz you do care and try to make them see what it really is, but if they are not able to see it after sometime they take advantage of you if you don’t talk in their language you know so just try hard to stick with your decisions firmly whatever you feel is right for yourself
Hello Ras217,
It looks like hes taking you for granted as he knows that you will take him back without realizing how he really does feel for you. And you not replying to his birthday text, he might have hurt or took it as a matter of pride since it sounded as if he thinks like hes getting whoever he wants to, so that’s why maybe he took your pics off of his fb page.
Try hard to be patient and let him realise how he does feel for you and don’t give in easily till you feel that you see that real action from him, be firm and let him do what he should be doing for you and both instead of this back and forth thing that he doesn’t know what he wants.
Don’t do or say things out of anger just be patient and see where it goes.Hello @Finntoga
Thank you for your comments, you’re very right he is not the person who defines my value. I can’t help not looking at his fb and right now I feel this urge to go and check his fb and all stuffs related but I didn’t look any of it for two days now, I’m fighting with myself not to..
And one thing is I’m sure of, if he really loved me and thought I was the one then he would do such sacrifices to keep me, he just simply gave up and it was not hard for him at all as I could see from here and there..I hope everything is well with you.
Its been over two months since I started NC,he just sent two texts and an email which was only a link to show me somethings and that was it. I’m not able to get over, somedays I feel like its been years I miss terribly and somedays I do hate him calling him bad names. It seems like I will have to get used to living like this as hes on my mind all the time, he never really truly cared and loved me. I didn’t answer any of his texts or email cuz they were sent out of curiosity or from boredom just like that you would know and feel if there’s love, sigh..I actually admire him cuz hes smart and living his life in order and not letting anybody ruin that, going on with his mind logic not letting emotions control him, selfish. Over 2 months and silly me still keep checking his fb I feel so dumb and stupid.
Hi, sorry about your break up. I believe it will make you feel better a little writing here letting it out even if you don’t feel like writing here. His friends have given you the right advice, don’t make yourself available to him let him experience the feeling being without you and yes just be yourself and go for no contact and its not too late at all.
I hope so, thank you. Maybe he did in his own way but so far from enough and actually I’m not that strong I’m very weak person, i know what I should do but just don’t have the strength to do. And yes to the insecurity hes very insecure person. Even though i know i have to do it the hard way about moving on and getting my life in order, still hoping for a sign little light a door to carry me to the next phase with passing the difficult one cuz i don’t have enough strength. Wish you the same and appreciate it.
You know there happens one little thing out of blue that thing a help or whatever you call it just pulls you up for the new start or next phase, its just not happening for me anymore. I used to have those blessings before but not for a long time now, or who knows maybe its happening but I’m not able to see them.
@anthurium thank you very much for trying to help and sharing yours. I’ve even read about narcissists before as well as many other things that his behaviours lead me to research and read things cuz it affected my life, turned it upside down literally, and sucked my all energy for life little by little and I did let it happen each time. I’ve realized long time ago and accepted nothing is going to happen out of this but just time waste and he tricked me each time and made me forget what i was aware of and turned it to other way once i had the full confidence to move on, he did it just with his words no any single action. Last time I have not answered to any of his texts emails for 3 weeks and he finally managed me to talk to him again, there is one important point that i have given him an ultimatum about marriage a year ago, it was in fact like this i told him that i understand he is not ready for it or whatever his reason is and i respect it then i asked him to respect my decision too that my intention is sharing my life with him and we needed to separate as we are not on the same page but he just didn’t let go and during each no contact i have done he came closer to the idea of getting married but only with tricky words just to get me talk to him, anyway i got really bored of this game and brought me to the point of saying to myself whatever its I’m just fed up with this crap, you just go move on with your life and leave me alone as i want old me so bad and my life before him. Sigh anyway I’m like this its either black or white no grey cuz it kills me slowly and i hate it, whenever i felt the full confidence he appeared and made it the opposite, and this time he made me feel miserable again and gone now i just can’t pull it up to move on, stucked.
