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@shawn you should continue NC..she has done such emotional abuse, she doesnt want you twoo fight or argue in front of people but she does that to you on fb, its kinda tricky and my ex did such things to me too..you dont realise but it makes you feel miserable after sometime.
How many days of NC for you now ?
@sparky I just read the links you given…I did the same things right after the first phn conversation, the things he said to me that we are not matching and he becomes something else when he is with me, I deactivated my fb and whatsapp acc. then he tried to call me and texted me asking how am i and sorry if distrubed then for a week or less I got back on whatsapp to stalk on him and give him the message that I’m moving on and stayed online on it for a long as if I’m talking to others then he sent me a song link I didnt response…then I deleted my acc on whatsapp again after that he didnt call and nothing till I call him after 2 weeks which was a mistake maybe and I pour out my anger told him not good things, the day after I called him again but that time I was chill and relax and he tried not to finish the conversation while I said just calling to say hi and thats it…
It seems like she needs you by her side to support but not commiting at the same time, as if shes using you…so don’t give up I hope she will understand your value@sparky Yea I’m trying so hard to give it a time, it gets easy sometimes but sometimes its just unbearable really…
I hope she will understand your value, keep it up and thank you very much for support I really need to talk to people that are in somewhat same position because most of others around me don’t really feel me.
I did feel awfully terrible yesterday I can’t really put it in words any single piece of how bad I felt..
@shawns thank you so muchToday strangely I feel the way how I felt for him in the beginning, like falling in love with him again, feeling the butterflies in me…just a while ago on my way back home I listened to the songs that I used to listen during the first times of our relationship thats why maybe I just felt that way..
Now making a cup of tea for myself with the cup he gifted to me…it has ugly tall cats on it looking like cheetah.
I will be allright I guessHe is not going to call or anything…just distracting myself…I should better move on maybe and forget all about him..what a pity ughhh
Looks like she doesnt know what she’s doing or wants maybe..you should give her sometime to decide
For me to not leaving him he did that I thought…so that means he didnt really love me in fact..?
Hi Shawns,
Thank you for the advices, I appreciate it.
What did you mean with ”emotional blackmail is a great no for guys”?I believe that it is also upto our personal lifes, right now I don’t have a job and I’m not doing the things I enjoy and I don’t know what to do with my life and all these affects me more because all those happen because of him, I feel miserable and he just finished it while I feel weak in any way and thinking this make me feel worse cuz I was there all the time when he was having hard time with his life and when I thought about finishing our relationship he used my weakness, did emotional blackmail with him becoming sick often…and now I think this if I have a good job and doing what I enjoy, would I still want to be with him and miss him…I dont know I have to be in that situation to tell it I guess but now I’m trying to get there hopefully soon then I will see if my deep feelings are still there for him…
Ah sorry sorry, I just missed it you have already wrote that above…don’t mind please as Im lost
don’t let her treat you like a mug, it will make you feel worse and miserable…you didnt have no any contact during that 18 days ? And did she get back with something to you in any way ?
Yes, they have to learn how to behave us but its just up to us I guess, at least for me it was all my mistakes and what kind of person he became now is all because of me..sometimes I think the same way like giving up on him but then suddenly he just gets me right in my mind or in me somewhere its just hard to explain but you know..
I’m on day 7 of NC and sometimes I miss him badly, sometimes thinking that he’s forgetting me and enjoying his life, not thinking of me at all…he will never commit cuz I made alot of mistakes and it all became overwhelming for him he felt choked, now I realize and thinking about whatever I have done to make him feel that way… its all yucky. sigh
@sparky Thank you for the comment and all the best with getting her back..My ex is a Scorpio and eventhough he kept saying that he is not such flirter at all but I did feel he really is and he is social and real good in relations with people he has some kind of attraction on people specially women Im feeling…and at some times it drove me crazy!
