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I am abit confused by your post Jess. Are you pregnant? Planning to be? You said you want to be a young mom. And is he the father of the baby?
To get him back you will need to give him some space from you. You will then have to gain his trust. Read the 5 steps article written by Kevin. Also follow them. They will work perfectly on your situation. It seems like he really loves you. Please learn your lesson on the No Contact period. You must change the liking and almost cheating with other guys. Im sure you wouldn’t like your partner to be liking other girls and letting you know about it. Right now you seem very immature to him. You must know what you want in life. Show him your change and you will get him in a blink of an eye. However if you don’t change and he sees the samething in you. He will leave forever.
Alex give it a try and ask her to meet up to reconnect as friends. On that meeting you will know if she is with someone else. It wouldn’t hurt to try. However let her know you are planning to move away.
Goodluck Alex.
Hey Earnie, I know how you feel. I guess this break up its a rollercoster of emotions. One day you miss her and the next you can care less. There is a point of NC where you don’t care if they comeback. Keep doing your NC and if she ever comesback and apologizes to you then you decide if you want her.
My view of what went wrong is this: she is following her friends pattern of live. She wants to see what being single is. Of course it sucks when you love someone but let her find that out herself. I think that she only wants space to find out if she wants you in her future or not. I also believe she’s doing NC. 🙂 She was probably feeling too overwhelmed everything.
I wish you lots of luck.
Hey Scotch cheer up. Everything will get better, I swear. If you guys are meant to be together, you will end up together. You had to get close to her and try even though you failed.
Have you thought of getting a new hobby to keep busy?
That sounds like a good idea. Apologize for your reaction and start NC for a while. Im sure even two weeks will get you back on track. If I were you, I wouldn’t be afraid of the new guy. Im sure he will end up with his ex again.
If you want her back please follow Patricias advices. You are right about her just giving it a try at moving on. We all know she will definitely move on if you keep giving her ego boosts and explaining anything to her. Right now she shouldn’t even know you are thinking about her and that it hurt you bad. Here is an idea you can tell us your feelings instead of her. In the other hand if you want her to move on and forget you, just keep doing what your doing. Maybe one day you will realize that you are driving her away.
My words sound harsh but I believe you are getting out of control. Since I first came to this board I said Scotch knows what he is doing. I even thought you got back with her. I see you didn’t, but there is still hope for the future. Maybe one day life will get you back together. Let time speak. Don’t overwhelm your ex with your sad feelings. She is also a human and she has feelings. Don’t stress her out or you will never hear from her again.
Scotch you were doing so good. Following Kevins advices. I suggest you do the five steps again. Just never reach out to her. Let her come to her senses. Plus everyone knows you turned into a mess. Im very sorry foreal you sound really hurt. I have been there before. And I made lots of mistakes too, but I knew they weren’t worth it. I never got back because I never tried. This getting ex back its very new to me. I dont know what works, but I do know what doesn’t work. Beggin and looking like the victim. She responded just like I expected she would. She just felt sorry and wish you would move on.
June is your month. You will rebuild your self esteem and have confidence in yourself. You will be happy alone. Im rooting for you. I can’t wait to see an update of the new you. Best of luck!
Thank you for the cheers Patricia. I actually had to contact him a day after my last update because he received an important letter. He kept the conversation going for two days straight. It seems like No Contact is working towards making him miss me and be afraid of not knowing about me. After the second day I decided to say goodbye because Im not interested in his life. Since that day I have not contacted him. I found Im very happy not talking to him. This No Contact is so easy for me now. I love it and I believe its working on me. Its providing me strength and happiness to move on. Cant wait for my next update.
Hi Scotch I back Patricia on her words. Shes right do not show approval. Don’t wave or whatever. When you see their car look away fast so she thinks you didnt see them. Keep up you No Contact. Which means not asking friends about her. I think the less you know the better. To me you sound like you turned into a stalker. Please do not stalk her. Don’t drive by their houses to check out which car is parked. You are hurting yourself more than you should.
OMG! Im very sorry. If she was stringing you along, she is not a very good future gf. I don’t think that you deserve that type of woman. You deserve better. Take this time to build up your self esteem. Just know people can make mistakes. Forgive and live your life. Let her do what she pleases to do.
Scotch Im here for you. I imagine that hurts so bad, but you know that you have to endure it. That pain its only temporary. It is just like losing somebody. In about three months you will accept the death and learn to live with it. Find ways to cope with your pain. Good luck. You can always contact me for a talk. My email is [email protected]
Im very sorry Scotch. You definitely need a second round of NC. In that time maybe that rebound fails idk. With time now you will see whats next. An ex with another man will push you to move on. Our exes just takes us back to square one when they really want to. Thats why trying to win them back it’s a long process and very hard. I wish you the best on these next months. And do not get a rebound just to make her jelouse. Do not tell her anything. You will look like her needy ex. And will push her away.
Another update: The day of my last update I decided to stop answering him and got myself into a next round of NC. I really want to live my life. I need to enjoy being alone and not wishing to be back with him. Everyday Im more decided that I don’t want to be back into this relationship. He shows me that he is not willing to work for my love.
I have been gaining my self esteem back to a decent level. I think I don’t deserve to be suffering for a past failure. I am pretty sure this live is full of oportunities for me. I will find love and suffering again. LOL. Although I don’t care of going through another break up because this is live. You have to take risks to find true love.
I’m going to two weeks in my No Contact. I believe he is also following a NC rule just to leave me hanging in there. He is waiting for something better to come around. I am not willing to wait like a second option. Lets see what happens next. My NC is indefinitely. I give up on winning him back, Im not interested in suffering more than I already have. I know I must go through this pain to achieve real happiness again. My goal is to be happy alone.
Scotch, you sound super sweet. Don’t get discouraged by her actions. I know women. I am one, and sometimes we say things and we really mean others. We are very complicated. You know her more than us. I think you are doing a great job at showing her your love. Another man would just run away and meet other women. She sounds like a very sweet lady too, and worth fighting for. I really hope you guys can be together again, because you sound perfect for eachother.
Patricia said some interesting things but thats her point of view. I do believe that texting everyday has to stop. When you text everyday you tend to get used to it, and when she doesn’t text you miss those msgs alot. Its not doing you any favor. To feel miserable like that. Wishing you good luck. (; update us.
