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That sounds like a good idea. Apologize for your reaction and start NC for a while. Im sure even two weeks will get you back on track. If I were you, I wouldn’t be afraid of the new guy. Im sure he will end up with his ex again.
I respectfully disagree with leidy .. You don’t owe your ex an apology for anything! And Kevin’s advice about dating others is NOT a good idea so soon after a breakup. Most often I’ve read where the one who was dumped feels badly after a date with someone else, comparing the two or wishing they were with the ex. Lots of time needs to pass before dating so the hurt feelings have subsided somewhat.. Some date others to try and make the ex jealous, which also backfires. If you’re intentionally passing your ex, stop it. Do what you can to avoid her. Go out on your summer fishing job and focus on that. Don’t contact your ex under any circumstances! Until she leaves her new lover, there is NOTHING to talk about!
Apologizing after what she’s done to you will make you look foolish. Don’t do it!
I agree. I didn’t apologize for anything.
Her cousin and I have been talking quite a bit. She suggested that I shouldn’t have stopped talking to her by closing things off just like that though. That if and when things go bad with this guy, she’ll most likely call me. So I responded shortly, just saying ill be fine. And that I wish her the best always, too.Now I’m going absolute no contact.
Patricia, initially, reading through your posts in different threads, I thought you were sometimes very blunt, and contradicted a lot of what Kevin wrote. But you seem to have a lot of experience and I really appreciate your input now. Kevin is just one person, and his advice is not absolute. All of this is so tricky, with no guarantees. Thank you. Thank you leidy too. I probably wont post much in this thread for a bit, because I’m not planing on pushing any much further for a little bit. At least until after a bit of NC and hopefully this rebound falls a part.
I think it’s good that you briefly responded by wishing her the best always too. But I stand by what I said in the previous post; Until she leaves her new lover, there is NOTHING to talk about! She knows you’re hurting and she knows you want her back. I wish you luck and hope you update us if anything new develops.
It hurts so much more having tried and probably failed. Second guessing everything. If only i had timed thibgs better and not followed everythint precisely
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