Giulia

This is my story if you’re interested

my "evil" plan….more like: what I did in NC and what I'll do to have him back

If you have some questions please ask, I’m helping a friend of mine with her pause/break from her boyfriend, so I feel like giving advice

Ehy !

well everything is going great …I think…
We became more closer, friday was perfect.

Finally we could go to his home “gym” and we were both free in the morning because I had to go to a birthday party that evening , so we decided to do it in the morning.
Well I had to do an exam but in the end I couldn’t finish to study for it so I ended not doing it, but since I was stuck at the train station he first said that he’ll pick me up but then he called because he had a problem with the motorbike and so he ask me if it was a problem for me going to his house directly.
So I went there and he told me that he needed to go to the mechanic and if there was a problem for me going to.

So we were on the road and after a bit we passed our old highschool and he proposed to go and say hello to our old teachers. We made the round of hellos and talked a bit with some of our favourite teacher, everyone of them told me how great and beautiful I became and they told him to watch out for other guys because I was a catch, but we said that we were just friends now…. (much for my despair ahahah).
we went to look for our old classes and laboratory and then we went to take he motorbike to the mechanic.

He had to leave it there because it needed something that I didn’t fully understand, but now we were on foot.

We could go to his home now , but he proposed to stay out for a bit since we were already in town. So we went for a walk we talked and joked a lot , it was so much fun.
The mood was really great and after some times he said that we could grab a drink and something to eat ( it was noon), we talked a lot then he went to the restroom and when he came back I said tha we should go and pay( it was like 1/2 p.m ), but he said that he already paid.

When we finally came back to his house we needed to wait for his mother to come back because we needed the car to go to his granny’s house,so we rest a bit.
While we waited I said that I finally passed an horrible exams that hounted me for two years, and I said:
-it’s like an enormous dark negative cloud has been lifted from my back,I’m feeling so free and happy and great right now
and he said grinning:
-I’m really happy for you!, I always told you that you were negative and depressed for university for that exam.

When we finally were in the car ,while on the road , we were having an animate talking about something that I don’ even remember, but at some point he called me “love”,like he used to do when we were together.
He was a bit taken back by it , but he said sorry, and I said sweetly to do not worry about it, and everything went back to normal without being akward.

Finaly we could do what we came for so we went for a run ( I could finally let him see my progress on the fitness side). It was the funniest workout ever 🙂 .
Then he made me do some exercise and we planned my workout….by the time we finished it was 7p.m and we were together since 10 a.m .

He then offered to give me a ride home because he didn’t want me to catch the bus, before I get out of the car I said thanks hugging him and he hugged me back massaging my back. We said bye and he said to have fun that night and I did the same thing…..aaaand he went home.

This was one of the greatest day that we ever had….we had so much fun and we actually looked like a couple even if we didn’t kiss,or hugged o hold hands…

Yesterday our two friends came back from vacation and they invited me to go out to dinner at the restaurant of one of them (the owner’s son ), and the same where my ex work. It was very late so we were like the last people and the waiters were always at our table to chat, my ex included. They actually teased him about me a bit, but well…great night.

We’ll see eachother today too with everyone.

…I think it’s going great, we became closer but I realy don’t want to be stuck in the false F.
So I could ask him that maybe we could hang out ,just the two of us, more and without labes…just to enjoy eachother company like we did and see where it takes us.

He still don’t have anyone …nor a flirt…nothing apart from our friends.

Hey!

Maybe this is stupid but yesterday we went out in group, we were in 5, me ,him, his best friend and two other guys. So yes it was like it was in the good old days of our relationship.

We went to a city by the lake, and the last time I went there was with him a lot time ago,also during the walking around we passed near the restaurant were we had our first anniversary.
The last time we went in that city we saw that it was closed for good, so when I saw that it was still open I pointed it to him.
So the night went great ,I touched him casually and with affection but did not overdo it because I don’t want to scare him away, so it was just touching his arm when beginning to talk to him , or hit him softly and joking for something stupid or some joke that he did.

I noticed something that I don’t know how to read …

A week before the break up , he came to talk to me to have some kind of a break….he said that he didn’t want to break up but thing couldn’t go on like this and we needed time which he set it at 1 week.
I accepted more for him than for me because I just wanted to make things right that same day, but I let him have that week.
Before he went home I gave him a necklace that he always liked and he asked me many time to gave it to him as present because he really liked it.
I gave it to him saying that it was so that he could think of me, but I never said that he could have it forever, I mean I didn’t think he would leave me at all…so….

Well never see it again.

During the beginning of the NC I talked about that to his mother who was a great help during hard times. She said that he was using it but as a keychain on his backpack.
I was happy that he was using it.

So yesterday I was in his house with his friend and we were waiting for him to get dressed. When he was time to go , I saw that he was wearing it!…

I gave him a bracelet as a gift for an anniversay and he almost never wear it, but he wear that necklace?
I mean….it doesn’t have a great history behind, at least for me…it wasn’t a great time, and yet he wears it..? and it was the first time he wear it after we reconnected

Do you think it could be a good sign…?

hey..

sorry I was feeling really down before, don’t know why …must be the wheather ahahah.

I talked a bit with the other girl-friend of our group (which is the girlfriend of one of our friend, and she is often in contact with him ), just …I needed someone to talk to.
I made clear with her that I was not feeling down for the night that I spent with him, just a bit under the tone about everything, but not for that because it just something that happened and that’s all.
And I didn’t sound pitifyl,needy or other bad things or about the plan …..just some talk on the matter with him.

I discovered that yes, my friend and him talked about that night, but she only knows that he just said to my ex that he expected him to told him because he knows him long before me. My ex said to him that he wanted to just wait when he was alone..and that’s it she doesn’t know the rest if there was any.

She said a thing tho that made me feel better : she said that everything seems nice when we go out all together and that he often tell her that he finds me well and great and that everything is nice when we go out all together.

about the him contacting me…
I know…I know that I have to wait him to do it, but I know he will not do it…he never did because he never think about it..nor with me and nor with the others, we always had to be the one to contact him first o call him. He may be the one to call back if he doesn’t want to write too much or if he see a missed call.
Don’t get me wrong,I’m not sending tons of text, no no I know that’s wrong and even if he didn’t respond ( which he didn’t have to do it since there was no question) I didn’t sent him anything to make him answer me really.

I’ll probably text the others for matters related to the group, but I know that he won’t text me out of the blue like that, because he never does that with anyone

Is it a good move if I ask him about his work out?

He is very egocentric and vain and he always asked me how he looked or if his muscle were visible ahahah

Now he is very in shape, and I’ve already said that to him and he was happy to hear it.

Now I’m too in great shape since he broke up with me, and I feel really good .
I wanted to ask him to …uhm I don’t know …maybe help me plan my new work out? He is not a personal trainer but he knows enough and I don’t want to spend 20€ , that’s what I’m planning to say to him.

Like maybe when he can we could go to his gym that he built in his granny’s house and that he said he would let me see it because he’s very proud of it.

Maybe he could be the beginning of the idea of eorking out together

also a silly thing happened…
before we went out for a walk and after the cinema we stopped by his home because he needed to pick up something I don’t know.

He came back with an apple because he was hungry. Ahahah we laugh a bit and I asked if it was a green one he said yes and I said yumm( those are my favourite).
ahaha he asked me if I wanted it ahahahah and I took it from him saying : but I don’t want to grab the food out of your mouth since you are hungry ahah

he said that it was fine he eat it a bit and then lent it to me to eat.

When we were in his car, I was in the back seat , back the driver (him) ( when we were together I was often in the front), I passed my arm between him and the window to let him have another bite if he wanted, he said it was fine and that he was already full.
When we went to pick another friend I asked him if he was sure about it and again lent him the apple, he took another bite and then I finished.

just a silly thing that happened..

Hi!

I lost it a bit yesterday. Sorry.

We went out with everyone to go to see a film. I actually was seated near him. During the film we talked a bit joking about it( it was comedy) we had a great time and we laughed a lot. Sometimes he was the one to come near me to talk and sometimes I was the one to do some comments about the film and to do that we had to be really close to do not disturb.
Omg his smell was intoxicating.
I wanted him to touch me or grab my hand so much that it was almost hurting.

After the film who ended late, we waited for two friends more and we went to go for a walk in the city. Nothing big happened just talking and joking as always.

Those two suggested that we go to the same party as the one from “that night”, so we made arrangments to go, but as always the others went home so we were just me,him and those two….like the other time.
In the end we didn’t go but we stay out talking a bit more, just a few more laugh and then we went our ways home. He asked if I was ok going home alone since I seemed pretty tired, but I live near so I just have to do like less than a km and I was driving so….yeah no problem thanks.
We said goodbye and he went in his car and I went in mine….and that’s it.

I don’t know I think ecerything went well, but I can’t shake off the feeling that maybe something should have happen…? Or maybe not and everything was fine…
I don’t know I’m a bit off today and I feel a bit voulnerable…

Oh god I really want him back… But I feel like I’m drowning