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If that’s how you feel well then by all means do, I plan on waiting until I can accept we can be friends. Maybe 2 months, I will be sending one, I have already started drafting mine because positive have already started and I’ve let go of all the hurt.
Put in that you have accepted the break up and understand the reasons behind it (you need to be in this place before you do) explain that you have done a lot of soul searching and have a lot of happy things going on but won’t discuss them as yet as you both still news space and time this will heighten her curiosity.
Keep it positive and light and ask if you could possibly be friends.
It is very hard when parents get involved she will listen to them. In time I hope she sees how you love her.
It is very hard to let go, she was angry because of the things you had put in your message and then bombarded her, she felt pushed into a corner!
She does still love you but just needs a bit more time and to work on her parents.
Have you sent the magic letter?
Never say never @libertine1, what’s meant to be will never pass you by 🙂
I’m thinking I may have to give it that long also, I’ve accepted the break up and moving forward but I need to get back to the person he fell in love with.
Keep me posted 🙂
Thank you @libertine1, I feel positive just having a moment like we all have.
I’m definitely sticking the 30 days and if I need longer I will do it.
It feels so nice to have this site to talk too.
I hope you doing well 🙂
Let’s keep focused on US and let’s keep eachother on track 🙂 @MarnieMichaels @Nell thank you both for yor words and experiences 🙂
It can! I know its cliche but time does heal all wounds.
Best of luck with everything, your doing amazing and you will keep going from strength to strength 🙂
Keep me posted x
@MarnieMichaels it’s amazing what time can do and putting ourselves before our ex’s, I’m so happy your reconnecting with people and seeing the world through your eyes and the endless possibilities out there for you.
Breaks are horrible at first but once you start to focus on your dreams and goals and stop worrying about theres it’s like the room lights up and you start to breathe and live again.
I also know that once you accept the break up which can take a little while you do tend to feel better and mentally you feel stronger.
I know your angry and everyone on this site will agree with you, it hurts, it breaks you so much that you feel you will never be repaired, I have gone through all of these emotions and still do, it does get easier I promise you that.
I am sorry for saying immature but she will see it has a way that you just want rid of her which I know deep down you don’t but you want to clear the thoughts and memories out of your head and start afresh. I didn’t give them back just put them in a box and out of the way, maybe someday I will look in there and not be heartbroken, sad, angry but smile that I am stronger and moved on.
I thought my ex was the one but clearly not if he could walk away after everything and leave me broken, but day by day is does get a little easier. I’m on day 6 of NC and can already feel the benefits, you don’t feel the rejection time and time again if you stay in contact.
As for the guy she is talking too he could be just a friend don’t let your emotions cloud your judgement, you know her better than anyone, she made just need a bit of support to figure it all out. Give her space and time, not only for her but for you also.
If it helps I have a diary and everyday I write down my thoughts and I don’t re-read but it helps clear the mind, I go for long walks, call fiends and keep busy around the house or at work, focus entirely on you.
I feel exactly the same way, it really does work and helps you focus on what’s important which is YOU! Having the contact and the constant going back & forth with how much we miss and love them just sets you back.
Your doing really well, be strong 🙂
If you feel the letter will give you closure by all means send it to her, giving all the stuff she bought you might be a little immature (sorry) she might see this as you trying to rid her from your life. I put all of my stuff into a box and in a cupboard out of site.
After the letter start the 30 days NC or however long it takes you to find your happiness again.
Hey, I can fully understand your situation, my ex broke up with me and we were perfect occasional arguments but we suited eachother & went through so much.
You need to NC until you feel the time is right to contact her again and won’t feel like it will hurt as much as it is now.
I know this is cliche but time is a brilliant healer, if she is indecisive you need to give her space so she can clear her head and miss you.
Thank you @loreley, it’s been 4 months since we broke up but I have seen him in this time and been in constant contact, I’m moved in with a friend and starting a new job Monday.
I’ve been through so much with him especially when he got cancer and feel it’s all so much to throw away even though I was dumped.
