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That’s actually what it is, she now needs you and your in such a good place and she hates this.
She will change to suit all her roommates and to try and fit in.
We will get there, keep strong your doing so well
Ok I’m only on 7 day of NC after being dumped in August and saw him up till the first week of January so might not give good insight here.
But it sounds to me she is jealous and angry at the position she has put herself in and you are now positive, to me she’s lashing out because she misses you but doesn’t know what to do.
@atea1234 he mentioned 7 months broken up.
Amazing! Brilliant, gives us all the little hope to never give up on ourselves and put us first.
Best of luck with it all, here to listen anytime! Remember we are all in the same boat 🙂
You should just block her now.
No I hadn’t moved on or anything, we had a brilliant relationship, we went through his cancer together, we lived in a city I loved and suggested we moved somewhere else when he got Sick which was closer to his family so I agreed.
It was going amazing but I started to hate the place I was in, so I met some friends and went out drinking with them once a month and when I got back I would lash out verbally at him not physically this went on for 6 months and he finally said he couldnt cope and walked out.
After he left I flew home to my family and he came back a couple of weeks later and we tired he said he was madly in love with me, so we flew back and forward for a few months and I was getting the help I needed as to why I lashing out.
But in December he said it wasn’t working, he loved and cared for me but wasn’t in love with me, we had contact for 4 months, so I send a text 7 days ago apologising for it all and I wanted to let go of the hurt, pain, anger and not going backwards all the time, I got no response and I’ve cut all contact.
Sorry it’s long 🙂
I would start with 30 days as she has said she can try, do not reply to any messages or phone calls from your ex in this time, she may get angry and question why you are not responding but do not give in! Work on yourself.
@MarnieMichaels it is not absurd at all, you have been through a lot, me and my ex broke up because of poor communication, no break up is absurd, it’s devestating to say the least.
He has not forgotten you and the NC has proved that.
Family and friends are the most important people to get you through all of this.
No he deleted me after a week we broke up as he didn’t want to know what I was doing, so when he came back in sept a couple of weeks after we broke up and said he wanted to try we still didn’t unblock me on Facebook, so last time I seen him he told me it was all water under the bridge, so I blocked his Twitter and whatsapp and honestly it has helped, obsessing over your ex’s social media just hurts.
So is she suggesting there is a chance, you have to give her time.
It’s difficult everywhere you look she’s there but your right don’t do things that remind you of her, she does love you.
But you both have to let go of all the negativity and the past to move forward.
I would start no contact all over again, she’s obbiously still hung up on you but if she is bringing up negativity she’s not ready yet.
If she contacts again Do not break the NC rules you have to let her miss you and erase all the negativity in her mind.
@JeanValins,thank you!
If he doesn’t miss me which I’m sure he does, this time is for me to focus on my needs & wants.
Good things come to those who wait and work hard 🙂
@kiwi @Nell @amy90 @MarnieMicahels it’s like I’ve finally grieved and started to become my happy bubbly friends with the help of my family, friends and all who supported me on here.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
@MarnieMichaels he’s resenting you for your opinions and it should not be right, to have a relationship its to except all flaws, hes angry at the situation he has put himself in, you have done brilliantly, keep being you and showing him what he is missing, I received a brilliant quote this morning “become the hinted not the hunter”Take you time! but in the meantime get a pen and paper and start writing down how you feel and them throw it away, it’s helps clear your mind and to start focusing on you again.
She will not respond as she feels pressured, stick to the NC and let her start missing you and she will then start focusing on the positives in your relationship.
You will feel helpless because your so caught up still. But don’t get up go for a walk start organising nights out with friends.
