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  • January 20, 2015 at 9:36 am #25266
    JeanValins
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    Its juat need big time to miss somebody and in the righ time they will back for sure

    January 20, 2015 at 9:38 am #25267
    Caz15
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    @JeanValins,thank you!

    If he doesn’t miss me which I’m sure he does, this time is for me to focus on my needs & wants.

    Good things come to those who wait and work hard 🙂

    January 20, 2015 at 10:35 am #25285
    Libertine1
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    Do you have him as a friend on Facebook?

    January 20, 2015 at 10:43 am #25287
    Caz15
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    No he deleted me after a week we broke up as he didn’t want to know what I was doing, so when he came back in sept a couple of weeks after we broke up and said he wanted to try we still didn’t unblock me on Facebook, so last time I seen him he told me it was all water under the bridge, so I blocked his Twitter and whatsapp and honestly it has helped, obsessing over your ex’s social media just hurts.

    January 20, 2015 at 11:06 am #25299
    Libertine1
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    Yes, it doesn’t help. I forced her to block me twice. So, what were the reasons behind your breakup? Obviously he did not want to see your facebook unless you moved on.

    January 20, 2015 at 11:22 am #25303
    Caz15
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    You should just block her now.

    No I hadn’t moved on or anything, we had a brilliant relationship, we went through his cancer together, we lived in a city I loved and suggested we moved somewhere else when he got Sick which was closer to his family so I agreed.

    It was going amazing but I started to hate the place I was in, so I met some friends and went out drinking with them once a month and when I got back I would lash out verbally at him not physically this went on for 6 months and he finally said he couldnt cope and walked out.

    After he left I flew home to my family and he came back a couple of weeks later and we tired he said he was madly in love with me, so we flew back and forward for a few months and I was getting the help I needed as to why I lashing out.

    But in December he said it wasn’t working, he loved and cared for me but wasn’t in love with me, we had contact for 4 months, so I send a text 7 days ago apologising for it all and I wanted to let go of the hurt, pain, anger and not going backwards all the time, I got no response and I’ve cut all contact.

    Sorry it’s long 🙂

    January 20, 2015 at 12:52 pm #25327
    Libertine1
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    Woah, it sounds like you guys have been through a lot. I think you will be fine. Just give it some more N/C and allow things to simmer down.

    January 20, 2015 at 1:27 pm #25331
    Caz15
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    We have that’s why I feel I can’t give up! I’m working on me and been out with some very close friends.

    I’m going to do the 30 days but if I need longer I will and then send the magic letter.

    I feel its all gone now though

    January 20, 2015 at 1:36 pm #25332
    Libertine1
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    Well from an outsider’s perspective, I doubt it is over. Come back a better person. You obviously mean a lot to him.

    January 20, 2015 at 1:51 pm #25336
    Caz15
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    I feel it’s not! thank you, but what to you mean I obviously mean a lot to him?

    January 20, 2015 at 2:04 pm #25338
    Libertine1
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    Well, he was very sensitive when you lashed out. You’ve been through cancer together. I could imagine that he was just feeling really sad in how you were acting. It may have broke his heart that you were acting that way. That is why it is important to become that person he fell in love with.

    January 20, 2015 at 2:18 pm #25340
    Caz15
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    It did break his heart! he kept asking me to get help but I didnt.

    I have now and feel stronger!

    Thank you, you have given me the strength to carry on.

    January 20, 2015 at 2:46 pm #25349
    Libertine1
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    Thanks, it means a lot if I can help.

    January 20, 2015 at 2:50 pm #25352
    Caz15
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    You have, I deep feel down now though he won’t be back and I’ve accepted that

    January 20, 2015 at 2:59 pm #25357
    Libertine1
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    I feel the same. But we are both in new territory. Time heals a lot. It’s easy to think we have no significance, but trust me – they still think about us.

    I think you are in a stronger position than me. Just be strong. I think you will get there.

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