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My ex bf choose someone who completely opposite of me. She is his bestfriend. She is not feminist at all. Im doing nc for 8 days now and i didnt update anything because i want to improve myself like getting slim, taking care of my skincare, be happy. But deep deep inside of ny heart, i just hope he will find me and text me. Even once.
I hope your situation will be better. Remember keep interesting
You have to. Im sure she wants something new on you. Not miserable and sad person.
Dont give up. If its really rebound, it wont last long. Make sure u improve urself and be positive in ur life. After the nc, just be polite, happy and interesting to her but not show like you needy or clingy. Limited yourself to her but u still can support her if she has problem (its like u r more understanding her)
Do you think he will think like that? I dont know how guys think tho. I really hope he will miss me. When he doesnt reach me at all i feel like he doesnt care about me and he is happy with his relationship. I hope its honeymoon phase tho. Yah i try my best to improve myself physically and mentally. I didnt update anything so its sad he doesnt want to know a bit about me.
Thank you and welcome too dear. I know its hard. I really do. Been away from someone we loved and miserable without him like seriously it hurts. But we have to fight. We have to improve ourself to be better. We still remain the same person but better. Its not fair to see someone who left us and become so happy with their life. We also need it. And of course we want to be happy with our ex bf because we were so good when we were together right? So hang in there. Maintain the nc, improve ourself, be cute and happy, contact him after nc with interesting and new strories andddd see how it goes.
Im also hoping that he will contact me during nc for another more days. Its sad when i used to be someone he really cared and now he doesnt
But i felt like my ex bf is a bit different. He seems very happy with his gf now. His social media is about her and not me.
I try to improve myself but i wont update anything and text him during nc. I will update my inprovement and my story after nc. I hope he will text me during nc.But seeing him so happy right now, is it because of this he wont reach me at all?
Be strong. It is very hard i know. Im doing nc for 8 days and no news from him. Maybe they have their own reasons that we dont even know. But u need to be strong. Im sure he wants to see you healthy and strong enough. Be miserable or any weak condition just makes him feel guilty and pity. I have been to hospital and didnt wake up the whole day due to lack of oxygen. He even mad and blane at me because i made myself sick. It hurts me. So i tell myself i wont be weak. I want to be strong and even strong than him. I want to make him surprise that im not needy, weak, clingy and miserable. Im better and i hope he will realize it.
Hang in there dear
He probably will? Even he has someone else? Hurm. Im doing my nc for 8 days now. Still no respond from him or any text
Well you can create story either. Its not about you want to lie. But if you dont know how to make convo interesting, you can create a nice story but not too much. Or maybe you can do based on your experience during nc but with interesting a bit.
Or you can start like
“Hey. OMG, you are not gonna believe what i saw just now/what happened to me just now. Its craaazy but cool”… Then you can say something or storyI tried to do once before i did my NC and he said “sounds interesting. Tell me!”
After that maybe im a bit too needy and keep sms him and he sounds cold.
Remember. Do not send more than one text at the same time. Its more like…you text, she reply and you reply.
After everything its ok with your story, focus on her interesting or Stuff like “haha yah. Btw, how you been? Still doing (her fav activities), i hope”
“I hope” means like you still know about her activities and you still interested to know the further about her activities. Show your support but not too much. I did support my ex but its too much and he just said thanks
Anyway
Your situation almost the same with my situation. My ex and i been together for 8 months and broke up end of october. In early november, he with his bestfriend which he used to tell me that he will never go to her because she is bestfriend. Unfortunately they already couple like a month. He is happy with her right now while im doing nc 7 days now. So far he doesnt text me at all or find me in any ways. Maybe its only 7 days too early or i dont know.Since she still asking about you and sometimes its hot and cold perhaps she still confused or dont want to give you any hope. But we cant control the future. We can try but it takes time. Just keep maintain the conversation interesting. Women like interesting things. Especially something that she never expect you can make it.
After nc, i will try to reach my ex bf. But i hope during nc, he try to reach me. I dont know about guys mind tho
Do you text her with interesting stories? Or maybe meme pictures to keep your conversation exciting?
I do understand. Thank you. 🙂
I try to be strong and keep busy myself (sometimes i dont know what to do either). Improve myself and yourself too. What i understand as a woman, we like something that interesting and not annoyed us. For me, even this guy has feeling for me so much but he keep forcing me and every text just about feelings, it annoys me. Even he didnt text me like months and come back and do the same thing, it still annoys me.
I dont know bout your ex, but by showing her your new adventures and interesting things after NC, maybe she will start to know you again. Because she find that you are interesting again maybe?
Rhis is my opinion 🙂
I know its hard dear. Still soon and like other said we have to take a risk but at the same time dont give up. Continue to do your NC and dont be needy! I used to be needy in fact i feel like i want to break now my nc and contact him to know whats going on in his life but it will be bored for him.
My ex bf fall for me because he said i was different. So i want to maintain ti be me but with some improvise. Not only for hum but also for me. Maybe you should do that so that it will keep you busy. Have some fun! Go to spa or gym. Improve yourself from negative to positive but u must realized if you do any mistakes so work on it by yourself.
Rhats what im doung it. He said im very sensitive (of course im a cancer sign) and very straight forward till he felt hurts. So i try to improve nyself. Im not going to tell hum what im doing now thats why im doing nc.
@Ccltjoo9
Yes. I know exactly how you feel. It is the hardest thing i ever do. We used to text everyday, sending selfie everyday, when i woke up, he is the first person in my mind. Everything was incredible. Laughing, teasing, chilling and cuddling were our things. We also broke up 6 weeks ago because he said he couldnt stand another one more fight and he think we were not mutual anymore. Right now im doing my NC (7 days today) while he is in another relationship for 5 weeks now. Indeed. It is the hardest.
