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I am in pain right now. With Nc, with being left out without no solid reason and i cant do anything to fix it at all. ? Now im so stress because they are so pissed off and they insist to make meeting to settle down and while im like…im so stress because i feel like there is no chance at all.
Yes dear. I think its better for u to give her space and make urself improve more. Wearing something nice work out. Do not look miserable at all. Perhaps she looks better in u later? Who knows? Anyway u guys in long distance or short?
Erm. I did try to ask people about my letter and it sound terrible. And when im thinking abot letter, he still staying with his family due to his family is not a wealthy people so he really work hard to find more money as far as i know, its very hard to give him a letter. He doesnt want to see me and all so if i write letter in sms, he will just read it. So my friends thinking to do meeting with him and i will be there without his acknowledge. So its lik surprise meeting with him. What do u think? I just want to talk nicely. I just need answers because i deserve an explanation to be honest
Hey there. We are around 24-25 years old
Hey dear thank u for ur reply. I really appreciate a lot.
Firstly i disagree about this meeting because im afraid he will hate me more. Im afraid he doesnt like to confront and im afraid he doesnt like to be quest.
But my friends insist to do this meeting. Because his “used to be” bestfriend which is D, really want to settle their issue together. And he is a bit guilty for involving me in this case. 2 weeks ago one of our friend asked my ex to give her D’s number but then my ex said “i dont have D’s number. He is no longer my friend” and now D seems so shocked about that statement plus my ex didnt contact me at all, so he really want to settle down…
Hey there thank you for ur lovely reply. I just want to know why he do this silence treatment. Is it really because of his bestfriend? I did only one mistake about his bestfriend and its accidentally mistake. I did apologize. Then why he seems so hate me? What did i do now? I want to move on but without explanation? Its very hard. Im 24 yrs old. If he didnt has strong feeling we did a lot together i helped him a lot. If he just use me then why he spend so much time with me tho? I didnt know anything dear. I tried to understand but the way he became so hate me makes me wanna know why? Its like i did criminal things.
“No matter what you say in a letter is going to work.”….why? And how its going to work?
Really? This meeting will be bad idea even after 3 months no contact? I mean…i just need an answer. Its just like normal meeting and not fight. I know its a very bad idea but his bestfriend also want to meet him to settle his problem. Sigh…i dont contact him at all almost 1 month. What if he didnt contact me at all?
I think its better for u to wait her to text u first? Because i think she might be thinking that u will text her and all and if u dont, she might be curious. Perhaps. Because if i were her, i will be curious. Just keep her present for awhile. Or u can like give those present to her family but make sure she wasnt there. Complete ur nc first. What do u think aboit it? Because she said she wasnt ready right?
Well…i feel he hates me more because there is one time my friends asked him to hangout, he said “make sure she wasnt there or im out”. And my bestfriend asked him to go vacation. He loves vacation a lot. But when he knows i will be there and suddenly he said “its ok. Im busy”. Im not sure he truly feel for me or not but as far i can remember, i affect his life a lot, i helped him a lot, we spend a lot together from morning until next days for 10 months. We travel a lot. We story to each other a lot. I hope he can feel me but right now its almost two months he do silence treatment and i also do NC for 26 days now. And its still nothing from him
Yah just delete her number because it helps u not to find her in social media or call. So christmas is ur final 30 days of Nc?
Yes my ex bf give me silence treatment from 30/10/2015 until now which is almost two months due to i made one mistake. And because i made so much contact to force him to contact me and i did read narcissist article because he is narcissist/sociopath. So i try to do NC for 30 days and now is 25 days. Still no progress and no contact from him plus he seems hate me more.
What about u? Is there any proress?
Hey there. No problem. I think its better for u to delete her number first. So that u wont find her in whatsapp when people text u and u have to open ur whatsapp. Its very difficult for me when i try to do the NC thing since my ex bf give me silence treatment for almost 2 months now but i think u should be no problem. I know its hard especially for christmas and new year but i think its better we keeping ourselve busy for during holiday and if ur partners text u it will be great. Hopefully they find u guys to wish. Its really hard to not make them feel annoyed by us right…? So perhaps Nc can help us…
My other friends said he will hate me more for doing this meeting after 2 months Nc. But he is doing silence treatment almost 2 months now. And how long a guy will cool down and how long a guy can miss someone? I did everything to him. And i want everything back to normal.
Is this meeing is a good idea actually? I want to do this on january which means 2 months of my Nc and 3 months he did silence treatment.
Hey there. Im so sorry about your story but then perhaps she might be a bit scared so yah give her some space. How many days u do the Nc? For the whatsapp, im doing my Nc for now for 25 days and I hide my status whatsapp, my online whatsapp, my picture whatsapp and yah my reading tick whatsapp. I just want to hide everything so that my ex wont know anything about my status. Im not sure my ex saw me online or not but for making me crazy to see his status online, i delete his number so i cant whatsapp him. What about u?
Yah. He didnt reach me at all. In fact, he seems even hate me even more. He doesnt want to talk about me when he is with my friends. He doesnt want to hangout with them if i were there.
Here my story (summary)
Long ago, A (my ex bf) was best friend’s with D (a guy)but now D, who doesn’t speak to A, is best friends with K (a guy) who is also the best friend of me. A is jealous of the friendship between D and K but he’s okay with the friendship between me and K because he thinks K is a nice guy. Unbeknownst to everyone but K, D gets sick and goes to the hospital. K wants to go visit D but doesn’t have a ride so he calls me on 28/10/2015 to drive him to the hospital but doesn’t tell me that it’s all about D. At the hospital, I accidentally meet D when I drop off K and everyone panics. D and K make me promise not to tell A that I provided transportation for K to go see D but two days later (30/10/2015) the guilt is too much and I confess to A anyway. A is now giving me the silent treatment from 31/10/2015 until now (its been almost 2 months)
A contacts my girl besties on 1/11/2015 behind my back and he said he was very upset with me because I met D and didnt tell him right away about D’s sickness. But he said to my girl besties it was just temporary and when he is ok with me, he will contact me. So i waited. But its been a month he didnt even pick up my call, my text, my voice note and he didnt even try any effort to contact me. I start to do Nc from 18/11/2015 until now. Almost a month.
Right now, K and my girl besties are pissed off with my ex bf because the way he being silence without telling anything towards me and they cannot stand how painful i am right now. So K want to make a surprise meeting. K will ask some of A’s members to persuade my ex bf to meet D and D is fine to meet for the first time after they have issue to settle everything between them. At the same time, my friends ask me to be there without telling my ex bf. Its like a secret and surprise meeting. Because, if he knew i will be there, they afraid my ex bf will not show up.
The goal of this meeting to break the silent treatment if he still does it and want to settle all the misunderstanding and anger. And i want to know whether he wants me or not. Its not like fighting meeting scenes. We (me, my ex bf, D, K and my girl besties) just sit and discuss on table.
So do u think 3 months silent treatment from him and 2 months nc from me without sending him any letter and do surprise meeting with him, he will be ok with me? Any chance?
Oh God. Im very bad at this. Sigh. Really sorry for asking about this awful letter. I thought i could make it clear about it with him. Yah im doing my Nc since 18/11/2015 and he make silence treatment towards me since 31/10/2015 (almost two months). In fact, he even hates me a lot. I have no idea why. I wont send this letter. But i will make surprise meeting with him through my bestfriend on January 2016 which is after nc 2 months to settle this thing.
What do u think?
