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I have been doing NC for 30 days now. Now I feel like everything I knew is from her but she never told me anything in front of me! And my ex is going to China after breaking up with me, which we talked a lot before!

Gosh I feel like driving all the way to Wisconsin now! Why he doesn’t contact me but trust her so much?

A.z. I really want him back.. Still. I still feel like I want to anything to get back with him! 🙁

Thank you a.z.

I actually don’t want to know anything about him! Because knowing nothing makes me feel good! It was just that one of my friends saw I doing great and thought I fully recovered already so she mentioned unintentionally, but our mutual friend, ugh I feel she’s not genuine at all!

I’m going to stop talking to her! I have plenty time before I head home! Thank you a.z. for your words! They helped a lot!

The career season is coming and I am really not allowing myself to cry through this important time for me. Thank you again and I’ll do my best!

Sorry I have to vent it out there… again

My gut tells me our mutual friend did it on purpose. I’ll refer her as W and my ex as R.

W hung out with my friends, and said something like “R said it’s almost impossible. It’s not a good match.” (I can understand this tho, classic post breakup talk) “Oh yes he wanted to go to China. If I went back to China, he would go; if not, he wouldn’t go.”

Guys, she must know that there is possibility that my friends would tell me these, and she did. She knew how hurtful those words are and she said them.

However, I chose to trust my ex here. He’s not going to date her because he’s the type of guy who wants stable, and who’s responsible, etc (I didn’t know how to describe but hope you understand), while she’s the type of girl who may play with guys. Actually the first day they met, my ex heard she have sex with another guy in another room, that guy was dating her best friend at that time! So it took a long time for my ex to be respectful to her. But overall, she’s nice to friends and study/work hard, so they are still good friends. But they never go to bar or party together or something. Dara, do you remember I mentioned that she wouldn’t post photos with me? I feel like she’s trying to block me from my ex.

I feel like she wants to date my ex.

Also, when my ex and I had issues before, she told me something like my ex thought I was lying or something, and when I explained to my ex, he said that’s not true.

I really feel like she’s doing this on purpose! What should I do? If she’s doing everything to prevent us going back? What if she keeps telling my ex to unfollow me on facebook and telling him that I’m not doing ok?

And A.Z, I have another question for you, hope you can help me out I don’t have your email so I’ll post here. I knew law of attraction actually because our mutual friend, she told me once that she used a lot and always succeed. I’ve watched the Secret to feel a lot better and thought to apply that to get back with my ex. But what if she’s using the same to get in relationship with my ex? I’m so confused!

I couldn’t get out of this mind mess!!! It sucks!

Hey A.z

Things are going good thanks, I posted an update in my thread, so my update is in there basically.

But aside from that, Still wonder about my ex etc and she still talks to me..still unsure of what to do, completely cut her off or just be normal with her now as I dont see anything happening with us.

More importantly, How are things going with yourself? What made you tell your ex your dating and how did he take it?

Im curious because throughout all of this breakup we both have been at same stages almost and well Ive technically been “Dating” a girl, stayed at hers, took her out etc, but I dont “Like” her and shes not girlfriend material….my other ex has also been talking to me too!

So yeah, how are things going with the new guy? Love to hear some updates.

How are you feeling about it all etc, as you said you cried for hours etc. I think you know yourself that now youve told your ex your dating, he may become quite bitter and angry and then also try chasing you A LOT!…so be prepared for that 🙂

Thanks xx

Hey a.z

Thanks so much for your help 🙂

Yeah your totally right, I havent gave her anytime to miss me really, because everytime she does, I end up replying to her coz i hate been ignorant. So your post makes a lot of sense and I also spoke to my friend last night

So we were talking last night and he basically said the same as you, stop talking to her and what made ALOT of sense was he said “look at your 2 previous exes, both times you aint spoke to them for 1yr-2yr, but both of them have made the effect to speak to you now, so dont worry about, not speaking to your most recent ex, coz she will probably do the same”

So yeah it made a lot of sense :)…and if she doesnt speak to me…well then its her loss. Honestly the hardest part for me is the “ignoring” not coz im chasing her ha etc…but because I find it hard to ignore ANYONE…like its impolite haha. but im defintiely going to do it now…if she hates me for it…so be it.

As for your situation, im so proud of you where you are now :)…it takes a LOT to walk away, like you said, your not so sure itll work with your ex and its the right thing to do…its actually easier to simply go ahead and jump right back into the “comfort” area with your ex, so props for not doing that and giving this new guy a chance!

Keep us posted with your new guy :)…obviously you wont come back here as much as you used to as now youll be busy etc and thats just normal, but a nice post of how your new date/relationship is going would be so cool 🙂

Thanks a lot! and glad we can be friends with each other and help through the situation, especially since we both opposite sex to each other, think thats a big help haha xx

Hi guys! I hope you’re all doing well. Not like me. In kind of sad these padt few days. I keep thinking that i cant replace my ex. That i cant find another great connection. That i cant love anyone again and no one will love me again on a same level. I dont know im so tired of love and. It’s like i wont be able to find any partnert again. I feel like whenever im trying to hit on a girl. All of a sudden i feel unworthy etc. its like im not confident enough. Im doubting that this girl wont give me a chance that im not on the same level as her. What can i do about this? Id really apprecaite opinions from both guys and girls. Thanks everyone. Recently my ex popping in my head even when im busy. I also dreamt of her last night and we were kissing how bad could that be hahaha. But i aint addicted to her anymore. So i didnt panic and contact her. Be safe evryone. I miss you all! You’re all FB friends now i feel left out. 🙁

Az, i think everything you said was right on point. The intimacy and connection i had with my ex is a high level one. Which cannot be attained in a short time. Thanks for the support. Actually i kind of thinking to use my single status to improve a lot about myself and change a lot of unhealthy things. Somehow i still crave for a partner but i’m trying to see the positive side of being single. I dont want to get in a relationship that is not serious. thank you so much az. Thanks for the support. I wish you luck with your new guy! Congrats he has potential right? As a partner for you? I want to get all your emails! How do i get it? HAHA