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Ok so on Thursday night myself and my house mate got really really REALLY drunk and at 4am I rang my ex from my house mate’s phone. We talked for about 20-30 minutes and it was a really good conversation, laughing and joking like old times.
I told him about a mutual friend of ours (male) who asked me to move to OZ to be with him, and he asked if I was going to go and I said I haven’t made a decision yet (I don’t want to go but I pretended to be considering it) and he sounded jealous. I casually told him all about my new friends and dates I’ve been on here and he sounded a bit jealous then too… I told him all about these exciting things I’m doing – starting a blog and writing a book (drunken ideas are the best!) and we had a really good funny conversation.
Anyway at the end of the conversation I told him he and his mate could crash in my place tonight – Saturday – (in the living room, as a friend, NO funny business) if he needed somewhere to stay because there’s a big match on here tomorrow. He said he’d ask his mate if he wanted to go to the match and if their going, they would stay with me and get me a ticket too. I said I’m really happy we can be friends again and he said that it makes him happy too.
Fast forward to today and I texted him to ask if he needed a place to stay tonight before the big match tomorrow and he didn’t reply so a couple of hours later I tried to ring him but he didn’t answer… What the fuck is going on???? I thought we were friends again but straight back to him ignoring my calls / texts!!!
To make matters worse my house mate deleted all the outgoing calls from his phone and he doesn’t remember me ringing my ex so now I’m wondering did I imagine the whole thing? Is it possible that I imagined a whole conversation with him?
Dara – there’s millions of pictures in my albums on fb 😉
A.Z – You’re living the dream right now, two good men to choose from… I’d love just one 🙁
Rihanna – Maybe try the best of both worlds, don’t ring him tomorrow to see how the big day went for him but give it another day and ring / text him on Monday. That way you’ll be giving him an opportunity to contact you first…
Sinead,
That making someone jealous is a good idea in general! I’m glad that you talked to him and he showed some good signs! I have no idea why he didn’t reply to you today!
The last time you talked to each other, he probably got so excited that he dropped his mobile phone in the bathroom sink! He needs some time to replace it now! 😀
The irony was that I received an email saying that Sinead want to share picture with you on Facebook! I was thinking what is this photo sharing? Then I assumed that this girl might be obsessed with pictures on FB! When we became friends on FB, I was like, “only 5 pictures on FB??!!”
Sinead you reminded me of the funniest breakup that I had!
I was dating a very young ambitious chairwoman of the company that I was working in! She was exactly 1 year and 2 days older than me! She had already warned me about getting drunk in public! I got drunk in a companies parties and felt like wanting to text her and say how much I loved her!
I sent her a couple of texts and she replied it really nice and said, “I’m sure you are drunk now but don’t get over-drunk!” I decided to stop texting her by blocking her (drunken idea!)! I was so drunk that I forgot that I had blocked her and kept texting her but did not get any reply! Apparently she received all my texts and I did non!
The next day, I sent a couple of apology text –still no reply!
The day after that I sent another text saying that, “by this you mean that you want to breakup with me! That’s fine and I accept it with grace!”. Yet no reply!
The next week I went to her office and asked her why didn’t she reply to me! She said she replied to me!! I searched internet to find how to block or unblock someone using my mobile!
Finally, I retrieved her texts! She had accepted the breakup and in one of her texts she said, “you are too drunk! Be careful about talking about our relationship to other colleagues!” I was embarrassed and ashamed of what I did!
Since then, I don’t keep my mobile around when I am drunk! Last night, I got over drunk and did a lot of crazy stuff in my apartment but did not touch my mobile!
Dara – I don’t know what the email regarding photo sharing is about… But I do have photos in my albums, can you see them? I don’t really know how to use fb so I don’t know what people can see and what they can’t but I thought my friends could ‘see’ everything…
Good idea about not keeping the phone near me when I’m drinking. After 5 months of NC I hope I didn’t do something to screw it all up…
Thank you so much my lovely oldies :X
Daniel,Raed
Thank you so much guys.He kept texting me and i said what exactly Daniel suggested me to say.Thank you so much xoxoRihanna,
I think you can ask him how it went.Like just a simple text.Its a good thing if you show him that you care about his job,his goals,… .Then again continue not contacting him.Sinead,
I absolutely don’t LOVE the guy i’m dating but i’m not getting back with my ex.Its confusing and its not really easy.
And about your ex,i think he will contact you.HI everyone,
My ex isn’t even giving me the chance to initiate contact with him anymore, I woke up to 3 messages and then he called me and then he said he’s going to buzz me later… I’ve been acting really relaxed and not availing myself to him all the time… He’s been going out lately as well and been sharing EVERYTHING with me, who he meets, about his job like seriously everything the way he used to when we were together…
But he keeps changing destination for his getaway and every time I decline (gently) by telling him it’s inappropriate to go holidays together because of our history he changes destinations hahahaha… REmember when he wanted to go to that cottage where we had romantic time? I said no he’s not going there anymore. Then he invited me to go to a beach destination and again I said it’s not right so he changed again. He said he misses me and wants to come visit me here but I’m not happy about it cos I’m not looking and feeling 100%… Today he’s invited me to go watch a ballet at the Sydney Opera House, something I said i wanted to go when we were together and he KNOWS that I’ll suffer if he goes alone but I can’t! I don’t want to give in… I don’t want to come across as someone who caught a plane to go see him through a play… He should come see me first and explain himself too… Or just come visit me as a friend at least FIRST before I meet him in other places (but NOT for months cos I’m not ready to see him yet)… And honestly, and I’ve said that to him before, I’m NOT the type that would meet a guy friend and act lovey-dovey but we’re not together… I won’t bring myself down to that path, he needs to be very very clear about his intentions as I have with mine… Plus, he keeps talking about how he’s not interested in other women but he sees beautiful women everywhere and does nothing about it, I actually trust him like that cos he’s an open book and very honest when it comes to relationships etc… so he would tell me the truth even if it hurts me. Then, he keeps saying “don’t worry by the time you get married I will be too…” but he’s not interested in dating anyone… very weird and I can’t figure him out! Sorry to babble… I’m sick of it lol
Hi Sinead,
Did you get any feedback from you ex?
I saw your pictures on FB! Since you have tagged non, I had to go to your albums! They were awesome! I am wondering what you job is?
Rihanna,
This time taking process makes everyone sick! Sorry about that!
My friend also had a breakup a couple of days back! Fortunately for him, it’s meaningless to want his ex back because he believes that it would never work!
Stay strong everyone! Good days are coming! 🙂
sunshinegirl or sunnyinthegarden!!! This is amazing! You changed your name?!!
Rihanna, I’m still thinking about a prize for the 1000th friend on my FB! TBH, I had never thought about it before!
Everyone!!
It seems like I am addicted to this website! Still eager to hear about you all! No updates lately? Anyone? 😀
Joe, what did your therapist say about the narcissist girls? I have read small things about avoiding narcissists in your life! In short, someone had divided them into two subdivisions! Group one–insecure deep inside (easier to handle if done in correct way) and group two–sure as ever that they are the gods (impossible to handle and avoidance is the best approach)! I think my last ex belonged to group two!
Hey Dara –
I’m pretty obsessed too! I checked it pretty often, although I didn’t comment as much.Hope everything is doing great! I feel like as time goes by, the very thing that I wanna achieve most is to be an attractive person, not only to ex, but to all people around me, females and males, literally ALL people. And one of the most attractive traits is independent, as well as strong (I’m talking about mentally here). So that’s my current focus. Ugh! // Well actually my biggest focus is finding a job 😀 wish me luck!!!
Oh about that “online meeting/phone” stuff, I’m interested if it’s on! Just bare my accent since I just have been studying here for a year 🙂
Letting go is really important. When we actually are able to let go, we start to focus on ourselves and live our own lives. That’s when we gain the power. “Moving on” and “letting go” are so important no matter you want to get back with ex or not.
Hope I’m right. Good night guys!
Sunnyinthegarden!
I wish you the best in finding your best job and doing well in exams! Don’t get too obsessed about them, it might backfire on you! I am also glad that moving on is much easier for you than some!
Best of luck!!
HI everyone, I finally managed to change my profile name on this (thank you sunnyinthegarden) so I’m very glad about that!
However, I’m having such a shit day, I really miss him now and he hasn’t contacted me at all… What can I do? I still really want him back…
Hi Rihanna, I really don’t know what’s going on with your ex he clearly misses / loves you. Are you interested in doing long distance for the next few months until to move back to Syd? If so you could invite him down south for a weekend or something… how close are you to Melbourne maybe you could meet him there if it’s not too far?
Hi Dara, Yes I’m a disaster with fb so I haven’t tagged anything. I’m not working at the moment but my undergrad is in HR and my post grad is in mediation & conflict resolution
Not a problem saoirse!
Ugh I need help here 🙁
So our only one mutual friend never told me in person anything about my ex! But she would mention those to my friends (also her friends).So now I know that my ex is considering mailing my stuff back. When I knew this I was almost crying! That means I’m not strong at all, and this is after a month already!!! I haven’t heard everything from him, I am so afraid that I may just see a box outside by apartment but never hearing from him… I feel like he’s really cutting me off totally 🙁
I feel like all the strong feel, is what I’ve been faking. I couldn’t let go for real. I want let go because I feel “letting go” would eventually let me get back with him. See, all the time my goal is still getting back with him!
How could he be so cold while he’s the most caring person I have ever known? I have the impulse to drive 7 hours to him right now! Shoot I feel like right after breakup :((((
Ok just knew another thing about him. He’s planning to travel to China during Christmas. We’ve talked a lot about this and now he’s going there alone.
I really don’t understand how he can do this! I have to cut off everything that is related to him to feel ok, and now he’s going to my country?! He is not hurt at all?!
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