need advice please

So today at 12am is his birthday 3 hours left, and I’m torn, i want to be with him on this day so bad, I’m having a break down, because i know i shouldn’t text him anything after the hurtful things he said, but at the same time i want to text him and show him no matter what happens ill always be there, being always there never helped me and maybe me not texting him on his bday will be a wake up call for him that he might miss me, but i really don’t know what to do i can’t stop crying

i think you should text him 🙂 i think texting on an occasion such as a birthday is an appropriate day to reach out without looking desperate to talk. maybe it will remind him he misses you, or maybe it won’t. but you’ll be able to know by whether or not he responds and maybe that will give you some peace of mind. good luck!

@Mj321 but he hurt me a lot with the things he said, and he made it clear that day that he didn’t want to do anything with me, i was going through something that day, and i reached out to him because i needed him to be with me through that thing, and he completely shut me out and refused to be with me, and the thing i was going through was major, my doctor suspected that i might have cancer, and they were running tests to be sure, and i was stressed out and reached out to him, i was scared and crying, he called and tried to calm me down, and then after an hour or so i received a text from him telling me that he acted on his emotions when he first heard the news, and i was trying to get him back by doing that, and i only thought about my self that i didn’t wait for the result to inform him, that he’s already stressed out from his work and i just added stress and then he said so many hurtful things, i was freaking out and the first one i thought of at this situation was him, i don’t know if i really did a mistake by telling him what the doctor said before i get the results, but any one in my position would freak out, thats why I’m so hurt that he didn’t stay by my side when i first needed him, and thats why I’m rethinking about sending him a text

i can’t reward him for what he have done to me, its bad enough that he broke things off over a silly thing, and gave up on us so easy, and even though that it was his mistake to walk away i was the one who was apologizing and begging him to take me back, while he’s the who should be doing all of that, i should be mad at him, and unless i don’t change the way i act with him and start to get my self together i don’t think that things will change, he will keep on hurting me thinking that i will always be there and i won’t leave no matter what happens

N im sorry that you going thru rough times but im asking stupid question here, why reward him with happy birthday text or call if he didnt ask about results from your situation? i dunno how long you two was together,but as a guy who still got feelings for my ex i would want to know results,dunno if he just acts cold to get distance between you two because breakup and he might need time. But only time will tell would you two get to back as a couple.

I had interesting day today my ex gf talked to me in FB when i had that open during this evening. She told me what kinda salad she was eating and she opened a little about her going in life that mentaly she was in positive mood, but after it she opened up to me and sayed that she is going to x-ray at wednesday because she was worried she had cancer or something so i got worried asked few questions and sayed to her that after that information she told me i wanted to give her hug and she text: hug back” so will see how that coming saturday goes between us but more i wait wednesday and do i hear from my ex gf after she had that x-ray, im feeling to that i should call her but im fighting for myself and i wait if she reach up to me by herself because she allready know im worried about her..