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Hi Emily,
It went really well thanks, we had a really good time and I ended up crashing on her sofa and spending part of Sunday with her as well. Were not back together as she is very wary of being hurt again and doesn’t want to mess up her degree but over time I’m sure I can convince her of my feelings and that I am now in more control of myself and will not be running off again.
We are still speaking and texting everyday and I’m actually seeing her again tonight, staying on the sofa and spending tomorrow with her as well so she definitely likes my company, it may take some time but I’m sure we can make it work again in the not to distant future.
It also turns out that she never slept with this other guy as she never felt ready and that he started hassling her about it and along with all the other things she dropped him 🙂
Because of all this my sleep is practically back to normal so everything is looking more positive all round.Hows things going with you? I hope things are still moving forward 🙂
Well my ex has agreed to meet on Saturday, I’m going to help her move the fence for the horses and then were going out for a meal, she’s still quite guarded and wary of being hurt but at the same time we have spoken everyday at least once and we text all the time, I guess slow and steady is the way forward and time will tell 🙂
I will keep you all posted and I wanted to say a special thanks to Emily, you have been a great support through all of this and your advice has been spot on 🙂
For AJ, thanks for your kind words, it’s good to know that I’m not alone in the things I have experienced. I have found meditation to be extremely helpful in calming my mind and recognizing potential “freak outs” and dealing with them before they happen. do you have a story on here that I could comment on?
I am so happy for you both, you have no idea how much, you must be walking on the clouds at the moment 🙂
I can see you two really going far 🙂
It also gives me hope with my situation and you will also inspire many other people on this site to never give up 🙂I will write more when I have a bit more time but once again, well done, I’m so very happy for you 🙂
Hi Emily
It went really well, we actually spoke on Saturday and Sunday.
I don’t have a lot of time to write now but will give details later but basically she is very wary of being hurt again and messing up her degree but I have persuaded her to be open to the possibility that we could be together again and that I am dealing with my issues and would never allow them to control me and leave again. We have now spoken many times on the phone and regularly text each other and I’m hoping that we can meet up later in the week or at the weekend to which she seems keen.
It’s more than I could of hoped for and my sleeping has certainly improved since 🙂Extra special good luck for today, I hope with all my heart that it goes well, I’m very excited for you.
Just carry on playing it cool and good things will come.
Let us know how you get on 🙂Thanks guys,I have replied and we’ve had about 15 or so texts back and forth throughout the evening, nothing heavy just talking about work and the like. I guess the conversation will be the real test, also I’m not sure where she’s at with this bloke and don’t really want to ask but I guess I will have to as I don’t want to start a friendship while she is with him and she gets the best of both worlds.
So I got a reply,saying thank you and that she’ll be free for a chat anytime this weekend if I want.
I replied, “Ok, I’ve got one or two things on but will give you a call at some point.”
I hope it didnt sound to cold but I don’t want her to think I’ll come running.
but she did say “Ok speak soon then :-)”
UPDATE
Just as I was typing this post she has texted again telling me about a degree course she has started. I’m trying not to get my hopes up at the sudden change in circumstance.This is fantastic news, I thought as much, she’s definitely keen.
My fingers remain well and truly crossed for you, play it cool and you’ll be fine 🙂No Problem, its early days yet so I’m trying to keep my head. I sent the message about 20 mins ago but she will be at work at the moment so I’m not expecting anything for a while at least.
I will have a look at you post shortly.Hey Laurais13,
I think you might be a bit behind on a few posts, the letter was sent 5 days ago and I’ve already had a promising reply, I haven’t been stalking either of them but have had news from her family and mutual friends that the new bf is into drugs and its not going well.
I appreciate your kind words and point of view.I’m getting excited for you, but just remember not to rush but I definitely think you can ask her about Sunday, later today.
Maybe you need to meditate as well 🙂Hi Emily,
I purposely didn’t message her yesterday despite her invitation all though I was very tempted to.
I have been thinking about possibly sending her a message later today, just something casual like” Hi, not sure if your aware but the weather is going to get really bad this weekend, you might want to rug up the horses tonight as its going to be wet and cold”
and then leaving the ball in her court, I know she would appreciate the heads up but if she’s going to be with him as it is a Friday night I guess I wont get much back.
It’s really hard to make the right call, I guess I’m where you were a few hours ago.Ed
Hi Emily,
I know what you mean, overanalysing, highs and lows, I’m itching to contact my ex again.
I don’t see anything wrong with contacting her on Saturday if you don’t hear anything today as it will have been two days so I don’t think that’s too pushy.
Have you thought that she might be wanting to contact you but is unsure herself if its too much, she may well be waiting for you to contact her.Ed
Hi Emily,
Your right it hasn’t happened yet. Depression is a strange thing, it punishes you when you start to feel a little better about things, The last two days have been better after talking with her brother and then with her contacting me but today just had that slight spiral to it, but reading your words definitely helped thank you, I also went to another meditation class today which helped as well.I’ve just got back from a friends who a load of us visit every week and just found out from the one friend who my ex is in contact with that the new guy is a ex coke head, a current pot head(she detests smoking)and my ex suspects he’s back on the coke again and used the words “don’t know if this will go anywhere”, maybe that’s why she was glad to hear from me? Obviously she is still with him but hopefully starting to see through him, but again I cant allow my self to hope to much, as long as she doesn’t try to be the one to save him from himself or any of that ****.
Has there been any contact at your end today?
Thanks for putting things into perspective
Ed
