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Hi Emily
It went really well, we actually spoke on Saturday and Sunday.
I don’t have a lot of time to write now but will give details later but basically she is very wary of being hurt again and messing up her degree but I have persuaded her to be open to the possibility that we could be together again and that I am dealing with my issues and would never allow them to control me and leave again. We have now spoken many times on the phone and regularly text each other and I’m hoping that we can meet up later in the week or at the weekend to which she seems keen.
It’s more than I could of hoped for and my sleeping has certainly improved since 🙂Hello.
I am very late and I see that things are improving for you —this makes me so happy.
I just wanted to offer you my support. I am a female and although I am not on the autistic spectrum, I have ADHD as well as some sensory and regulatory issues as the result of a traumatic brain injury. We have stories that are very similar.Although my relationship was different and shorter than yours, I too experienced the ‘freak outs’ and crazy behavior that the ‘normals’ don’t quite understand. It’s been a huge wake up call and sobering experience to realize how much damage it’s caused. I am also working on getting the help I need and hope that in time, I will be in a healthy enough place that my relationship can thrive.
As I said, I am just posting because your thread hit so close to home and I really wanted to lend any support I could. Here if you’d like to talk to someone in a similar situation.
Best,
aj
Hi Ed,
This is very good news and very encouraging! The fact things are moving faster than you initially expected means her guard is already quite down. Perhaps let her come to you now and maybe she will remind you herself about the envisaged meet up.
Keep us all posted!
Well done! Glad you are sleeping better as well!
Emily.
Well my ex has agreed to meet on Saturday, I’m going to help her move the fence for the horses and then were going out for a meal, she’s still quite guarded and wary of being hurt but at the same time we have spoken everyday at least once and we text all the time, I guess slow and steady is the way forward and time will tell 🙂
I will keep you all posted and I wanted to say a special thanks to Emily, you have been a great support through all of this and your advice has been spot on 🙂
For AJ, thanks for your kind words, it’s good to know that I’m not alone in the things I have experienced. I have found meditation to be extremely helpful in calming my mind and recognizing potential “freak outs” and dealing with them before they happen. do you have a story on here that I could comment on?
Hello Ed,
Apologies for this very late reply – have been really busy recently. Thank you for your kind words, it has been a pleasure helping you throughout the process! Your advice has proved to be spot on as well in my case!
So, how did it go on Saturday? Did you meet up with your ex as planned?
Other than that, I hope you are doing better and better and that your sleep issues are under control!
Looking forward to hearing from you!
Emily.
Hi Emily,
It went really well thanks, we had a really good time and I ended up crashing on her sofa and spending part of Sunday with her as well. Were not back together as she is very wary of being hurt again and doesn’t want to mess up her degree but over time I’m sure I can convince her of my feelings and that I am now in more control of myself and will not be running off again.
We are still speaking and texting everyday and I’m actually seeing her again tonight, staying on the sofa and spending tomorrow with her as well so she definitely likes my company, it may take some time but I’m sure we can make it work again in the not to distant future.
It also turns out that she never slept with this other guy as she never felt ready and that he started hassling her about it and along with all the other things she dropped him 🙂
Because of all this my sleep is practically back to normal so everything is looking more positive all round.Hows things going with you? I hope things are still moving forward 🙂
Hi Ed,
This is fantastic! It seems that patience when used wisely always pays off! Still work in progress but you are definitely getting there – it is just a matter of time now. If you keep it cool you will definitely regain her trust, let her come to you for kisses and other things.. Also glad for you that she realised that guy was a waste of space!
Have a nice time tonight 🙂
Will update you on my situation on my thread.
Emily.
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