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Omg emily 🙂 🙂 I am so happy for you 🙂 🙂
You did really well and dont rush. I hope you both get back together very soon 🙂 🙂 all the best. 🙂I am so happy for you both, you have no idea how much, you must be walking on the clouds at the moment 🙂
I can see you two really going far 🙂
It also gives me hope with my situation and you will also inspire many other people on this site to never give up 🙂I will write more when I have a bit more time but once again, well done, I’m so very happy for you 🙂
Thank you everyone! Promise I will keep you posted! So far we have not made any plans to meet up again but are in touch every day. She seems (much) more confident.
If there is one thing I can tell you guys is that this whole thing has taught me a lot about myself and life in general. One should always listen to their dearest friends’ and relatives’ advice but never fall under the influence of any. Ultimately this is YOUR life, YOUR heart and therefore YOUR decision to make.
I don’t know how many of my friends advised me to move on for good and not contact my ex again. Even though they tried to put themselves in my shoes ultimately they gave me advice from THEIR OWN perspective. Because they don’t feel what I feel and most importantly they did not want to see me suffer again. In the end I chose to rely on my heart and my gut feeling whilst my friends’ advice mostly relied on one element of the equation only: self-preservation. There is nothing wrong with trusting your instinct, we are human beings, not machines.
That being said, I think you can only rely on your instincts once you have reached some level of “inner peace”. This is where the NC period comes into place. As long as you are a mess and are not able to step back and put things back into perspective your instinct can only serve yourself badly as it will play tricks on you.
Who doesn’t try nothing has nothing AND good things come to those who wait.
Update on my situation.
We have been in touch by text message every day since our first meet-up post break-up. We went on another date last Friday and it went really really well. We went for a meal and we had such good conversation and laugh that we barely touched our dinner. We then went for drinks and when I asked at what time her last train was leaving, oh well she invited herself back at my place in a cheeky way. So I defo got lucky that night 🙂 She was more confident, told me she had missed me all summer and had never shared that level of intimacy with anyone else. That was so nice to hear and I felt really emotional.
One thing though is that she annoyed me by text message last night. She had quite a bad day yesterday and so after having had drinks and dinner with a friend I sent her a text message that was meant to be kind and thoughtful. She replied to say “that was such a soppy text” and then asked me whether I had a nice evening. In hindsight my message was indeed a bit soppy. It’s a very petty thing but I felt offended anyway so cut the conversation short to say I needed to get some sleep. Am still not totally over it yet (which I know is ridiculous in the grand scheme of things). I don’t think she realised her words were unpleasant to read but decided to leave it. We have been in touch today and hopefully she will ask at some point to meet up this weekend. It’s funny how small things can have such a big impact on your mind.
But anyway, so far so good. Slow and steady is the motto.
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