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Its only natural to be anxious, you fear rejection again but it hasn’t happened and may not, stay positive and remember for now you are just friends, keep a cool head and forget what your friends “might” say, its your life not there’s.
Good luckI know, your in a precarious place right now but your so close, think how many people on this site would love to be at this stage, myself included.
Try not to dwell on it, go out get some exercise, distract yourself as only you know how.
Your doing great and were all routing for you.Thanks for your support supertedwin – you are right, I should put things back into perspective. If you want to I can have a look at your story and try help you if I can.
Hey supertedwin, Leslie,
Thanks for following-up 🙂
No news from my ex I’m afraid.. but at the same time we wished each other a nice week which implied we would not be in touch during the week.. In theory I can reach out to her this weekend however some close friends have advised me to wait and see for another week if she doesn’t contact me by Sunday night.. Their rationale is as follows: (i) I have contacted her so she knows I want to be in touch with her and is happy about it however (ii) she is a very slow burner so I need to act friendly but appear to be detached at the same time otherwise I will scare her away again.
She is defo reserved and hard work 🙁 but so sweet and giggly :-). I find it hard at times but I am doing ok.. I was out of touch with her for 3 months and got used to it so..
Will take at your most recent updates guys when I am back home!
Emily.
Guys,
I was wondering why I have been feeling so anxious in the morning over the past week and why I started gradually feeling better over the course of the day. I think it’s because I have been having dreams/nightmares about my ex since I contacted her. Basically I usually never remember my dreams when I wake up, they only leave a slight trace of happiness or discomfort depending on whether it was a nice dream or awful nightmare.
But this morning when I woke up I could remember everything I dreamt of and it felt really unpleasant and still does. I think this is where the anxiety comes from. Is there a technique/way to prevent this from happening? Right now I am really struggling not to text my ex.
I haven’t dreamed for five weeks now probably because I’ve hardly slept, but before my saga began if I was having a bad dream I used to be able to tell myself in the dream that it wasn’t real, I’m not sure how but it worked for me.
Try googling “controlling bad dreams”
Now if that seems like to much I’d suggest having some positive affirmations next to your bed, ones that relate to how you feel about your ex, reach for them the moment you wake to give your self a positive boost and put a smile on your face.Thanks for your advice, I will take a look. Feeling a bit better already, going to meet up with some friends now..
What do you think about whether I should wait until next weekend to contact her again is she does not initiate contact by tomorrow night? It feels so hard not to..
Last text I received from her was last Sunday so nearly a week. I know it’s been long enough but feels wrong at the same time
I’d wait until tomorrow (otherwise it looks like your doing nothing on a Saturday night) and then throw out another casual “hey, hows it going” message and then gage the reply, if you get chatting casually suggest a catch up somewhere like a coffee house,keep things slow and steady and you’ll be fine.
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