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Hey a.z. I do like the idea of a thread where those who have been around for while can continue to discuss as we use to. Even if its one like me who spend more time reading then sharing and talking.
I wouldn’t feel embarrass that after 6 months you still want your ex back. I think Relationship rewind mentions that in your life you have those special relationships that you know are worth more then others and they are worth fighting for. That while you may be told there are plenty of fish in the sea, there is always something special where they have had a strong effect on you. I’m guessing that your ex, for all the issues he has, still had that strong effect on you.
Hi everyone
I.A – One piece of advice I would give from what I’ve learnt about the letter, is write it out now then sit on it for a week or so and re-read and see if you still like what you wrote. I did this and so glad I did as the first draft of my letter was too emotional and re-reading it a week later, I made a few changes before I was happy with what I had done. Exactly like writing an assignment I guess. I recommend you do the same.
Edward – Dude that is flippin awesome news. So happy for you that you are back together. Well done, hang on to her this time 😛
Dara – One of your posts is cut short.. you wrote “I remember when Brett and Chris!” then it is nothing. Reminded me of a Monty Python scene when the knights are reading the writing on the cave wall and it just finishes with a “urrrgggh….” and the knights have this debate about whether the author had died while writing on the wall. Your post so reminded me of that. Glad you haven’t died on us…lol
Loraina – Sorry to hear about your situation. It must be horrible feeling at the moment to think your Ex has moved on so easily while you’re still struggling. You are making the right decision to focus on NC as a permanent thing. Whose know what 4 -6 months down the track may bring
Day 33 of NC for myself and last couple of days have been fairly standard to where I am at currently in life. Neither up or down, I would say I just feel bland and dare I say it indifferent. I still think about her during the day just it doesn’t affect my emotions as it use. This is a good thing for moving on I suppose.
Great to hear from everyone
Hi I.A
I would say yes give a small compliment on your letter as long as its nothing sexual. In the letter from Relationship Rewind, Ryan suggests you write some of the things that you liked about her and found attractive and show that you noticed things in her life that others don’t. Give them a taste of bliss but don’t go overboard.I know the whole check out what is happening on profiles and it is like a drug that feels good at first, but in the end it doesn’t satisfy and leaves you feeling more hurt and lost. I have to remind myself that people only share the goods things in their life on Facebook etc and so it can be very fake as you are not getting the full picture of what’s going on
Day 29 of NC – For myself. Today is 3 months since my Ex broke up with me. have been surprising good and stable today. Did a bunch of stuff around the house to keep myself busy and went to the movies in the evening and it worked. I feel good today.
Hey everyone – Day 28 NC for me
Thanks for sharing on this thread. I like it already. Tomorrow will be an interesting day for myself. It will be exactly 3 months since the breakup. Today I feel good just tired after a late night out with some guys. Life lesson for you kids don’t have a boozy night on the town when you have to get up early for work the next day. I ready to crash right now
Dara, great to hear from you man and yeah we needed a thread where we just continue to share updates on what is happening in our lives. Both the good and the bad and hopefully this thread can be that. I have been on this website most days, just the past month or so I just felt I’m not in a place to give advice as my personal situation hasn’t turned out the way I expected or wanted. But I’m here reading and decided that one way I can help is be supportive to others going through the same s**t as us. Man its so good to hear you are in a great place and going out with girls and being happy that it is not your ex. That is such a great place to be. I went on a date a couple of weeks ago and it was so flat. It just made me miss my Ex more. However I am getting out a little more compared to the first month of breakup. Last night I went out with some friends to an Irish bar and had a good night.
A.Z. you are a champ with your advice. Thank you for all those encouraging words and taking the time to read and reply to everyone’s post. Kevin may have to look at employing you shortly 🙂 You also seem in a great place to think you would be better off if you don’t get back with your Ex
Ms Marple – Thanks for sharing and welcome to the website. Some of us like Dara, AZ and myself have been here for a couple of months and the community here is very supportive and encouraging. I remember those first early weeks straight after the breakup and my emotions were all over the place. I would start crying anytime. I struggled to sleep and I would zone out. I remember one day at work about week 3 of the break up. I was sitting at my desk and I zoned out and when I came back to it. The guy who sits opposite of me said “welcome back”. I had been staring at the same spot for nearly 20mins with a blank look in my eyes. Its was very freaky and that would happen a lot. its still tough, but things are getting better and I put a lot of that down to the community here which listens to me when I share stuff.
I.A – you have the right attitude. Good one you for being positive and keeping active with sports, rock climbing etc. That’s been my biggest struggle for the last couple of months is staying motivated fitness wise. I have certainly got out of a regular fitness routine. Its my goal for this week, to go for at least 3 runs in the next 7 days
keep it up everyone and sorry for the long thread
So I will start off
My name is Steve and I’m doing NC
Day 26 of NC (Round 2)Very tough day as I was reading the newspaper this morning and the café that we use to go too and had so many wonderful conversations at was mentioned. The barista is in a competition and had made the news. I really wanted to text you and see if you had noticed the article. There was a photo of the café and it hurt as that was the last place I saw you. The place where you broke up with me. We have so many fond memories there and one hurtful one. I miss those conversations we had.
Towards the end of the day I was getting down and I just wanted to call you and ask why? what went wrong? Don’t you miss what we had too? I felt my desperation building
I didn’t call or reach out, thank you Kevin, this website and the bottle of red wine for helping keep focus. I wont say I felt strong as I feel very weak at the moment, but I have got through it.
Tomorrow is a new day
Hi IA
Sadly, I have similar story to Dara. After 30 days of NC I did the hand written letter and delivered it to her place when she was at work. I got no reply from that. I did a follow up text 8 days later with regards to work as I knew she had just finished a major project. No reply. I know she read the letter as that info got back to me through the grapevine of friends that we have.
I’m currently on day 25 (round 2) NC with the intentions of moving on, tough as that is. Its going to be 3 months this weekend since the breakup.
I think all the people who have written the letter and have got back with their Ex are currently engaging in sex and are too busy to write and tell us that the letter work 😛
