Steve

Merry Xmas Oldies.

I thought I would pop in here to see if anyone was lurking. It doesn’t look like it, but just in case I thought I would say hello. Be nice to hear from you all. I really appreciated your guys and girls support during what was the roughest time of my life.

I found out today that my Ex got married last weekend to the guy she started dating after we broke up. It was a little tough to handle, but I know I’m going to be OK as life had moved on and I very rarely think about her now days.

But overall I am very positive and in a great place. Just today I thought about here and wanted just to post my thoughts and see if anyone else was around

Hey Skoll,

Yeah 8 months makes you an oldie 😉 I haven’t heard anything from LABound for a long time. Like most people on this forum, either they get back with their Ex and they stop posting or they just move on and they stop posting.

How are things with you? I just had a read through your old posts about your situation with your Ex. I see you last post was back in Jan so it would be nice to get an update 🙂

Hi Robot and Rihanna and any other oldies.

No one has posted here for a month, I thought I would say hello and see if anyone is around. I guess everyone has moved on with their lives and the Ex is no longer a issue.

Rihanna, have you moved to Sydney yet? I think you mention it was this month you were doing your big move. I hope it goes to plan. How about you Robot, it will be good to get some updates from you and your girl situation. I would love to hear some crazy stories.

The last month has been pretty good for me. While we are still in the middle of winter and it is flippin cold. Yesterday I arrived home from work and got the last minute of sunset. Slowly the days are getting longer again. But the cold. There was a good dumping of snow in the hills on Wednesday

My weekends have been uneventful over the last month except for one weekend where I went on a kids camp with the organisation I help out with. It was the most rewarding thing I have done in a few years. We had 40 kids and did a lot of crazy activities. The dorm rooms where we were staying were centrally heated too, so it never got cold.

At the end I was so tired, but yet I felt for the first time in over a year I am in the right place and I felt really good about myself. I would of never volunteered with youth work if it hadn’t off been for the breakup. Kevin’s plan of getting your life back together motivated me to do this and it has been so satisfying and the highlight of my week. I wish I had done this earlier.

Because of this I feel I am completely over my Ex. The weekend after the camp I caught up with a group of friends. While I have made it clear in the past I don’t really like hearing about my Ex, as it does affect me emotionally. There is one friend who seems to take delight in goading me with the latest information of my Ex. I guess it is like a drug to me. This time was no different. We were all at the bar, when this friend brought up my Ex and mention how she has just done a week holiday with her new man to the Gold Coast of Queensland. That she is so happy and had been posting pictures on Facebook. This friend pulled out his phone and was going to show me some pictures. When I said “I didn’t really care to see any photos or hear what see was doing” I then got up and went to the bar to buy another drink. The truth is that is how I felt. I felt nothing when this guy was mentioning my Ex. My Ex has become just another person I use to know and I’m not interested in what she does now days.

Sure I still haven’t found love and that is getting frustrating as I keep having dud dates. But I know if I keep at it, keep working on myself it will happen.

We are over halfway through winter now and when Spring hits there will be more activities and social events happening

Anyway guys and girls. It will be good to hear from you all

Hi Robot and Rihanna and any other oldies reading here

How are you both doing? Been a couple of weeks since anyone has posted here so I thought I would see if anyone is out there.

Things have been good for me the last couple of weeks. I have been on a couple of dates with different girls and one looks very promising. We are still in contact after our date on Friday and I feel very good about it. It will be a couple of weeks before we can go on another date as she is going snow skiing this coming weekend. But she is very keen to met up again. She has texted me every day since Friday, including this morning wishing me a good Monday. I am encouraged with that.

I went to a fantastic party/ball on Saturday night. I had to wear a full suit and tie and it was held in a 12million dollar mansion on the City waterfront. There was a live band in one of the living room areas. Open bar and gorgeous girls everywhere. The party was in so many rooms and on an open balcony. It was good the weather was actually nice for a change. I talked to so many girls and ended up dancing with one girl for ages. I am certain I could of taken her home that night as she was in my arms at one stage. I also kept getting eye contact from another girl. She keep glancing at me during the night and every time our eyes met she would smile at me. This girl was stunning too.

However I was sober driver for some friends and I had promised to look after them and make sure they got home safely. At 11pm when the party was in full swing they were ready to go home. So I kept to my word and drove them home. It was probably the best party I have been too. It reminded me off the parties from the Great Gatsby movie.

Going to parties like this would of never happen if I had still been with my Ex.
It’s one of few times that I am very happy that the breakup happen as I really enjoyed myself Saturday

Be good to hear what you are up too

Gosh Robot. That’s tough man. I’m glad your friend pulled you away. Maybe grabbing her wasn’t the best idea, especially while she was on the dance floor with another guy. I would of waited until she stop dancing to get a drink or use the restroom. Then I would of approached her. Some place where going up to talk to her would of seemed more natural. But she is also showing a level of immaturity too. It sounds like more trouble then it is worth. IF you see her again at the bar or gym I would just completely ignore her.

I could go on and on with all the things that my Ex told me she did and didn’t like and how she has changed her likes/values with her new guy. I have mention how my Ex use to love dancing. She did modern/hip hop dancing with a group at least twice a week. From what I have heard she has stopped it completely this year. I simply can’t understand that when dance was always her passion. Once again it simply no longer worth dwelling on it. MY emotion state is not worth getting down over something I wont understand regarding my Ex.

Raed – Great to see you posting here again. Give us an update on your life Bud

So I went on a date Friday night with a girl. Overall I thought it went well and there seemed to be a connection and common interests. I texted her the following day to say thank you and I really enjoyed the night. Heard nothing back. Sent her another text today (Monday) wishing her a good week and that it will be good to meet up again. Also nothing back. I know I have the right number as we were texting before we went on the date. I will leave it her hands now. But I just wish she would be straight up with me if she wasn’t feeling anything. A simple text saying she didn’t think anything would happen between us or she didn’t feel the need for a 2nd date would be enough. Why completely ignore a person text, leaving me feeling semi hopefully that she may get back to me sometime. I am a reasonable person and not going to angry or upset with someone being honest and straight forward.

Hey Rihanna

That’s great news you have your ticket booked for Sydney. What day do you fly out? Have you started counting the days yet?

Great news on finishing your course.

What a year for you 🙂 I believe you are ready for a new adventure in the big exciting city. Don’t regret the time spent back at home and with your family. No matter how much they have annoyed you lately. I know it may of seem tough and lonely not connecting with anyone and seeing your sister go through her wedding. But it has been all for the best for your healing.

Haha…yeah knee is getting better. My friend is still texting me lots. She left hospital yesterday but has the next few weeks off work. Last night I couldn’t keep up with the amount of texts she was sending me. Still no idea what I am going to do. She does seem keen on me, but I’m not 100% sure its for the best. Oh well its someone to flirt with at the moment 🙂

Hey Robot,

That’s awesome you got a girl to stay the night at your apartment. I am so happy for you. Only 3 hours sleep, she must of been something in the bedroom bud.

Yeah whenever I go on holiday I always head out to the bars. That’s part of being on holiday. I still think about my last holiday where I meet a girl at a bar and she was getting flirty with me, but I ran away….haha

Still got a sprained knee, but at least I can drive now. You wont see me on the dance floor however. No idea what I will be doing this weekend however.

Hi Robot and Rihanna

Rihanna – Sounds like you are in an unpleasant situation with your family. Sadly because you live under the same roof it will only go to drag things out until you move. Then once you have had some space from your family everything will settle down. I remember when I was 19 still living at home. I use to clash with my mum every day and we had some very ugly fights. The house was too small for the both of us. When I finally moved out and got some space from her. We both calmed down and everything went back to normal. Now I love her to bits. I suppose even during that time I still loved her, just living together when I was an adult made it tough. I’m guessing it is the same situation for you.

Robot – Great news on the car 🙂 I love hearing about all these girls you are talking too.

Very quiet weekend for myself as the knee limited what I could. I couldn’t even drive as I can’t move my knee to change from acceleration to brake. So I watched lots of TV and was on the computer.

Small interesting thing happen that I am happy about. Last night I was on Facebook and one of my friends had updated her profile picture. Her new picture was a group selfie of people including my Ex and her boyfriend. I looked at this picture and it didn’t react any emotions in me. For a good couple of minutes, I was looking at this picture and I didn’t feel a thing. I still thought my Ex is good looking, but there was no emotion response from me. It was such a strange foreign feeling. While I don’t want to start popping the champagne to celebrate. But thinking about it I may be moved on from my Ex now.