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Hey SM.
I’m okay, how are you? Was kinda sad when I read you wouldn’t be coming back!!!
I am now back in no contact yes, third day.
We spoke four times last week, taking it in turns to initiate but it gets to a Monday morning fresh week and he does what he normally does, gets bored I guess and never contacts again until I do.
I realised last week that him replying me and talking to me like old times, is not a good scenario. At this rate I’ll never move on and he probably doesn’t want me to. It’s been seven months, barely a phonecall, one meeting. The rest is just texting. This is a sign he doesn’t want me, I’ve just finally read the sign!!!!
How’s everything with you? Any news?So I initiated contact after 52 days no contact.
We talked day for about an hour and a half and didn’t think it was successful.The next day he initiated contact in the morning.
We talked (nothing to do with relationship – jokes/fun stuff) for about 6 hours – slowly paced through the day.should I initiate contact today or leave it? – Not heard anything from him yet
Chin up 🙂
If u feel like crying let it out and time your tears, I found that helped me
If I cried for 20 minutes, the next day I have to cry less than that!
What was it that you last texted your ex? Maybe it just wasn’t as effective as it could beOkay, will wait it out and see what happens but don’t think enough build up was made, talked for an hour and a half but was so slow.
Until something happens – Day 1 of NC lol!!!!!I feel like absolute horse poop
Was so awkward and slow like chalk scraping across a chalkboard
Not how I planned it to go!!!Not initiating contact again 🙁
Conversation started good for like 5 minutes then just died out so fast – Banter, quick replies, talked a little about work but just felt like nothing there anymore – Felt like the conversation was being strained and pushed a bit
SM I really wish I had listened to you – Gonna go back into no contact but I feel OK – Havent cried or broke down lol so it will be OK this time
Seriously doubting whether I should have done this
Slow jokes not good and dont want to bring up boring topics like work
Any advice?Made a joke with a meme picture.
joke fizzled out and now its just slowwww and awkward!!!! omg.I’m panicking
I contacted him – 1 message – He blew up my phone with like 4 replies, but its dying outDont know what to say!!!!!
I’ve made a few mistakes in my attempt to get him back – The morning of the last conversation (52 days ago) I told him I missed him “today”
He was like “oh 🙁 only today”
and to try and salvage the situation I said “mainly today ;)”
after about 5 minutes he followed up with he missed me tooIt upset me because of the way he hesitated, do you think he just said it to make me feel better?
SM I can relate to parts of your story so much!
i.e. April breakup, 50+ days no contact
Its so frustrating how they do this!!!! i.e. hugging, looking into your eyes
He did the same to me – He hugged ME when we met, he gave ME compliments, he hovered his hand over the table like the whole meeting as if he was resisting touching my face, told me the next day he wanted to kiss me so badly and wished he’d had, yet communicate so irregularly and poorly afterwards
WHY give such mixed messages, why do they do it!!!
Its so unfair and selfish!
The only difference is, and not sure how much of importance it is, but we didn’t meet to say goodbye, we met to catch up and the conflicting things he said was like “I don’t want a friendship to mess up our relationship”. HUH!!!I’ve tried to act as cool as possible, saying we can be platonic friends, but it was a private joke between us and we’d always end up flirting
Can you remind me what was your situation like before you went NC.
What was the last conversation like before the 53 day break.the reason why I am so confused about whether to break no contact or not is because of his mixed messages and mad flirting and initiating contact during the last conversation.
Then hesitancy afterwards waiting for the next contact.Just not clear what he’s feeling or whether he’s being stubborn again
TravelBug – Kudos to you for getting yourself out there, partying and meeting some new people! Good to hear there was no drunk texting the ex!
Hey,
52 days no contact today. Yay but :'(
Weekend was OK – Was tempted to send him a text – The only thing stopping me is not knowing what to say so should be grateful for that I guess. Helps to type on here instead.
The thing that I’m struggling with is that I don’t understand how our last conversation felt so good for me but obviously didn’t for him as haven’t spoke since. We talked all day and flirted to the max, he replied immediately all day, finishing with goodnight – now nothing.
Last time we were in no contact, he deleted my number in a rage and when we were talking again said he regretted it straight away. I cant help but think that – like last time – he wants to text but can’t and maybe waiting for me to make the move.
I know i’m just being hopeful.
