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How many days have you been no contact and how many NC cycles have you done?
I was so tempted last night, seeing as I was past the 30 days, to text him that I hoped he was okay, managed to stop myself but all the guides say after 30 days you can reach out, xmas seems so long away another 55 days :'(
Do you think he has gone through the hard part now then and that’s why he’s not contacting? Basically he’s moved on
Its been 7 weeks/49 days NC and 6 months since the breakupweek 2, any contact at all, even searching for him on internet = breaking no contact
That message wasn’t very clear sorry
Its difficult to explain things in textWe met up again a few months back and he said that he was upset on the drive home and things were good, followed up with a text saying it was good to see me again – said he wanted to kiss me and that it felt like how it used used to be – SO WHY MONTHS LATER ARE WE IN NO CONTACT
today has all been about thinking about all the mixed messages 🙁 and how stupid I was not to see it at the time
Yes does sound similar to your situation – He chased me for about 6 months till I gave in. He said he fell for me hard but I didn’t believe him. Lets just say he’s had experience and a bit of a ladies man in the past.
Did you get mixed messages? How did you deal with them? I feel like I fell for everything he said without thinking and that’s why he lost interest yet again. Want to build up that chase again but don’t know how.
At one stage a few months ago I felt I had him back interested, he initiated contact three times in a week. He kept reminiscing about things we’d enjoyed or things I had said he was the best at (at the time) i.e. some intimate stuff – A few times I called him out on it to put him in his place a bit e.g. he assumed I still thought he was the best etc. so I’d make the point of saying he shouldn’t assume things. It seemed to affect him and he’d apologise for being egotistical and assuming things and would blow up my phone with responses like he was losing control.
Thank you for your support – I wont contact him – I’ll hold out but honestly i am desperate to type a little something to him right now! lol I think if I did contact him he would reply but probably for ego purposes so you’re probably in the best situation you can be in right now.
Cant help but analyse everything he’s said now!!
I feel like I’ve kinda pushed everything to the side trying to be all positive, working on myself, working out everyday without actually dealing with the breakup and that he’s simply not interested now.
He used to pursue me to the death.A few weeks before we stopped talking in mid September, he said that I was the best he’d had and he “didn’t know how” he was “going to get over it”.
Was he just trying to make me feel better?He said I had been needy the last two weeks of the relationship and that I broke HIS heart!!!
Thanks for the response – I know it’s what I need to do but I’ve hit a bit of a brick wall today, had a bad night.
I suddenly feel so angry that he’s given so many mixed messages since June – Sounds stupid but stuff like he told me he’d get me a birthday present, that I deserve a nice birthday present and said he’d sort something out to come down and see me – It’s like he was teasing me to keep me interested or something and now just not talking like I don’t exist.
I’m angry and upset and it’s taking me all my willpower not to blow up his phone to ask why he said all of this s***!!!This is the reason why I am avoiding texting my ex, for fear of rejection again.
Instead of looking at the negatives though, you should congratulate yourself for having the confidence to reach out and going for something you want 🙂
His loss!!
(i’m 47 days no contact)
Thanks for your reply.
I think I dont have enough confidence! I dont even know how to send the first text (again)
Last time I did no contact for 30 days, contacted first, followed advice to.the.book! – got a meet up, talked for months now nothing again
Not sure if he was trying to make me jealous but he said he was going on holiday with his ex-partner without the kids later this year – So he’s either romantically linked with her now or lying to try to make me jealous
it’s hard but im thinking I should stick this out to 90 days – which is Christmas and past my birthday. If he doesnt reach out hes simply not interested…your thoughts?
