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I can’t believe I forgot to mention this but he also sent me a Christmas present in the post.
Was a very random.When I think about it there seems to be positive signs but I can’t help but feel negative, it’s like I’m trying to protect myself from getting hurt again
Happy New Year!!!!
🙂Looking forward to you telling us about your new man as I have no doubt you’ll have one soon 😉
I meant mid January.
I’m guess all I can do is wait and see what happens over the next two weeksIf I wasn’t walking on eggshells trying to be all aloof and cool and sexy etc.! then I’d just ask him straight out what’s the deal with our meet up!!!!
Hi,
Feeling kinda low today, I don’t know why, I guess things aren’t happening quick enough and I’m getting impatient.
Starting to wonder if the whole meeting up thing is just a string he’s keeping me on.
One positive is that I haven’t initiated contact in a while, he’s done all the initiating, at least 5 conversations over the past two weeks.
We spoke yesterday and the phrase “if we meet up” came into the mix.
Well I was under the impression we WERE meeting up mid December, the date was discussed and he was getting back to me. Is he backtracking?
Any suggestions on how I can speed something along?Hi,
I’m good thanks. Hope you had a good xmas and got lots of nice gifts.
Things have developed somewhat my side. We’ve been talking/flirting consistently and we’ve agreed to meet up mid January (we’re long distance). I’m staying over but I’ve told him that sex is probably not on the cards. Have I said the right thing?Hi SM,
Thanks for being kind and helping us all out still 🙂
Yes he phoned me. we’ve been talking since the start of November, gradually and now regularly. We’ve been having a few texting arguments over the last few days. He keeps trying to draw me out on comments i.e. asking me do I miss him. I keep trying to avoid saying anything to feed his ego so get off the subject or stay aloof/make a joke but it’s really hard.
Anyway during one of the arguments I said you haven’t even phoned me in months and the next day he randomly phoned me mid texting.
Then last night he texted me at 3am randomly in response to a message the night before.
He keeps indicating meetings up but will never just come out and say do you wanna meet up next week – It’s like hes teasing me and waiting for me to come out and ask. I said to him that he never just comes out and asks to meet but he hasn’t acted on this.Like you say, I’ll leave it a few days see what happens but today he has seemed really busy with work again. It’s funny every time I rant on here about something, five minutes later I’ll see a text or something on my phone saying im sorry i seem uninterested just busy. Its so up and down with him
Hi SM,
No we used to text and call most days. However interestingly he phoned me yesterday.To be honest I think he’s playing with me but at least I am seeing the signs.
We’ve talked non stop for 3/4 days in a row. Yesterday he phoned me for the first time in months and we talked for an hour and a half.
Then today I was telling him a story/gossip over text and it was loooooong so lots of texts. But he seemed really distant today like he’s now bored and hasn’t responded so I’ve just left it and turned off my phone. Just feel stupid and embarrassed again now because I went fully into texting him and to get no response was a bit shitty. Feel like i’ve done the thing Kevin tells you not to, to not bombard with texts! – but after yesterday I thought he was interested!Hey,
I replied to you on my feed. So he got in contact with you after all!!! Please be careful and don’t let this set you back.
Has anything else happened since?
Another thing, he seems to get angry at me sometimes.
I was talking about being being friends and not flirting and he got so pissy with me. He messaged me saying I wind him up so its only fair he winds me up too.This is all so toxic lol 🙁
Hi SM,
Thought you wouldn’t be back here! I cant believe he wrote back!
Be careful though, don’t let him get back into your head. It’s happened to me.As for me, Well the day after I wrote that message above, he text me first (lots of messages) wishing me happy birthday and we’ve been talking regularly every day or so. I don’t know what to do, I’d love to tell you I’m feeling strong but I’m not.
He’s being consistently flirty and mentions sex and meeting up. I play hard to get, move off those kind of subjects but tease him, control the conversation as much as I can. No suggestions are actually materialising into anything. He hasn’t picked up the phone to actually talk to me in 5 months and he isn’t just coming out and asking me to meet up on particular date, its like he’s either testing the waters or just testing me!
What should I do – I’ve initiated conversation for the last four conversations. Maybe I should just ask him to meet again (not for sex btw!) and see what happens.
Update on my situation
i’ve been in a mess these last three weeks. Phone within reach, hoping for replies. In the last three weeks we’ve talked 9 days out of 21, usually the conversations last all day. Sometimes he’s initiated, but the last few times have been me. Currently 3 days without contact.
I’ve decided I’m bored of this, I’m sick to death of making myself feel like this, it’s been 7 months and I should have moved on by now, instead I’ve put myself back to square one. I read an article about texting your ex which basically said texting is the laziest form of communication so that’s put the last 6 months of texting (less the NC periods) into absolute perspective. He’s hardly phoned.
He doesn’t want me and I shouldn’t have to persuade!
Hope you’re doing OK SM, looks like you haven’t been on here in a while so well done for moving on 🙂
