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Confidence can definitely be worked on, mostly because it’s driven by you! 🙂 it’s hard to believe in yourself but when you do everything feels better! I have good days and bad days when it comes to this.. Funnily enough I’m actually more confident since I split with my ex, I don’t know if it’s because I was constantly seeking his affection and now he’s not here to give it Iv learnt to live without it or what.. With the things he said about attraction you’d think I feel ugly and horrible, but I haven’t felt like that at all! I wish he could see that though because one of the things that used to drive him mad was my lack of confidence and belief in myself, go figure!
I do feel like that’s it now and I’ll never hear from him and it’s breaking my heart all over again.. I thought I didn’t care anymore but I do! So so much! Bad days all round then!@kd1988 I completely get you! I think a lot of my moving on has been a front, even to myself.. And this has shown it! I just feel empty again..
@annakis I guess so! I kinda want him to know I’m thinking of him, and I haven’t forgotten him.. But I don’t want him to think I’m bothering him for no reason..
Why is it so complicated with him? 🙁 why can’t he just be one way or the other.. I honestly thought after we went out for coffee things were looking up 🙁Yeah, I definitely feel like I’m not ready! I don’t want to give up on my ex, I didn’t realise how much I’m still in love with him until this morning! 🙁
I feel awful for date boy (that is what we shall call him haha), as he seemed really interested, and I just don’t know what to say to him!
It really feels like Iv taken 10 steps back! I’m so frustrated!
There’s an event thing we had tickets for for next weekend that we got for Christmas.. And he’s already told me he’s taking a friend, but I’ve still got this hope he’ll say lets still go, even just as friends.. Should I text him and say I hope he has a great time? Or just leave it? I really don’t know!! xYes it went well..? That doesn’t mean we instantly got back together.. We had a catch up and both said it was nice to see each other, but he hasn’t been in touch since and I’ve left the ball in his court.. I don’t want to seem like I’m putting pressure on..
Well I feel shit today! I had my date yesterday and he was lovely, but I didn’t feel anything real, he’s just not my ex! I came home and woke up today wanting him back more than ever! It’s been eight weeks today and he still hasn’t been in touch again! I just don’t know what to think..
I feel like I’m back at square one and have sat in my pyjamas all day, ignoring date boys texts and eating pizza 🙁 argh!! What am I going to do? x@malinda that sounds amazing! 🙂 well done! And try not to think about him not messaging too much.. If it’s going to happen it will take time!
@kd1988 @annakis I’m actually doin okay! I haven’t heard anything from him but I’m at the point now where I’m not upset, I just can’t believe he’s become the person he’s shown himself to be by not staying in touch after he’s been the most important thing in my life for the last 6 years! I’m losing that desire for him I had before.. He doesn’t deserve me!
Also, I have a date on Saturday with a lovely guy iv been chatting with! And I’m mega excited but super nervous! 🙂 x@annakis do you have a reason to be in touch? I think it makes it easier if you do! So like if you have some of her stuff or its someone’s birthday and you wanna send your wishes etc?
@malinda I listened to Cher in the car this morning on the way to work.. That “do you believe in life after love” one.. Look up the words, it’s amazing! I was singing at the top of my voice! Haha..
@annakis you are doing so well controlling yourself! Well done!! 😀 yea give yourself a bit more time but also the fact that your thinking about it and stressing about it less is a great sign! Your moving on, which is all part of the process.. I feel im getting there too! I thought I’d have heard from him today when he got back but i should have known better really..
@KD1988 Wow! sounds like you handled that perfectly! 🙂 x@Malinda @KD1988 Well done both of you for crackin on and getting interviews! Amazing news 🙂
We definitely know how it feels but youve gotta pick yourself up! I know its easier said than done..On the plus side, a positive story, i was talking to my boss today and his daughter has just gotten back with her ex after 12 weeks of not talking at all.. He’s come back begging for another chance! Its funny because we’ve joked the whole time they and me and my ex have been split up that we’re living in a parallel universe.. So maybe, just maybe.. haha!
@malinda you will! And you’ll be a stronger happier person for it!
Hey @malinda try not to feel too down! I had nothing until i initiated contact at day 34 and then very little since – only to arrange the meet up! So just because he’s not been in touch don’t mean he’s not thinking about you! I have a very strong feeling my ex is regretting his decision a little bit already, I’m just not convinced it’s enough to bring him back!
I know what you mean about being in your thoughts! And everyone will say ‘it will get better’ and you’ll want to scream at them, but it will.. I can promise you that! I now don’t think about him as soon as I wake up, but I do get reminded of him about 100 times a day with little things such as a tv advert or a friend or even food, it’s crazy. But it is normal!
So please keep your chin up and try not to think about what he’s doing and thinking, it’s not helpful to your healing and there is nothing can be gained from thinking about it, coz chances are, even if you get back together, you’ll never know! x@annakis yes me too to be honest!
My main thing that makes me feel confident is smiling even if you don’t feel like it.. I work in a hospital so I will walk down the corridor and smile at EVERYONE even if they don’t smile back.. It makes you feel happy from the inside, and if your happy inside you come across as happy and confident outside!
Also, make that extra effort where it counts! Find something that really flatters you and emphasise it! So my skin has been amazing since my breakup so I make sure it’s always looking bright and fresh when I know I’ll be around people that I want to impress 🙂 again, if you feel nice, you come across that way!Frustration is the right word definitely! It’s like why can’t they just understand!
Let’s just say lots of things were said that i haven’t been able to say up to now, plus some added because I was drunk! Massive regret this morning but at least its not over my ex haha!
