FestivalDavid

Well….

Here are a few random Pics from my trip…I got a lot more! but tried to choose some of the things that you asked for, Streets, Art, etc – Click pictures below

https://www.dropbox.com/sh/mmq9cpxy2e2f5q1/AABEoFR-WspES5cbseghK8BBa?dl=0

in the pics you can see Caso Battlo, Barcelona Beach, The Sistine Chapel, Some Statues that I thought were funny, some Art I thought was unique and funny, Tivoli Water fountains, Eiffel Tower, Colloseum

I got a lot more!..but dont want to upload them all! ha

A.z
Yeah its a good thing that you are taking things slow, I dont know how long you been talking to this guy, but its great progress your making 😀

Very happy for you all! x

A.z
awww, thats so good to know that your doing well and you really like this other guy.

I think your doing absolutely great with how you are doing now and not responding to him etc. I cant say what the smiley face could be 1000 different things but I think hes just trying to grab your attention.

You said he TRIED to get you emotional…which tells me that it didnt work? which is great because previously you DID used to get emotional, just like me. He can definitely sense that!..hence the calls and random smiley etc.

Carry on how you are and see how things go with this new guy
Im so happy for you :D.

Ill post an update to my thread in next few days I think

great stuff a.z. :D:D

xx

Welll……..Hello there peeps!

Got back from my 2 weeks travelling on Friday in UK from Berlin on the Thursday Night/Friday morning…no rest for the wicked as I went straight to a Festival for the Fri,Sat :D..So now I can call myself FestivalDavid haha

Going to leave this short and sweet because im absolutely shattered and feel so weak!

but I had an amazing time!…Met some amazing people from all over, aussies, Kiwi’s, canadians, Brits, Brazilians and irish etc.

Had such a laugh, started talking to a group of Aussie girls who were all on a topdeck tour, the group was was 40 girls and 7 guys (That’ll do for me ;)), they loved me so I first met them in Prague and followed them on their bar crawl and then also met up with them in berlin for my final night and crashed at their hostel ;).

Now back to reality! ha

Hope your all still staying strong, I might try to back read if I have some time….but think youve posted like 30 pages! or something haha.

Anyone provide a quick update/summary? I think i saw that some of you are adding each other on FB? Im up for that…not sure how to go about it though ha.

Keep strong people.

My ex has still been messaging me..not sure why, its like shes been competitive, she asked how the travel were going but then she instantly flips the convo back to been all about her and how good time shes having etc lol (I dont actually care, im just been polite)…and today she rang me coz she wanted someone to talk to and pretty much just told me how shes been staying up 24 and 48 hours non stop etc and been doing loads of drugs…I didnt really react if im honest..and I havent initiated contact for at least a month now…we only talk if she messages me

Look forward to speaking to you all again 😀 xx

Hi Rihanna,

I agree with what Raed and Steve said pretty much.

Cant help you money wise as I got no clue myself! im bad at that stuff ha, but if thats where your comfortable go DO IT!

as for not achieving anything your proud of? Hahaha, thats a lie!…your probably just looking at yourself all wrong, possibly comparing it to other people etc.

Doesnt matter if other people think the things youve done are an achievement or not…you must clearly think they are because you did them, so just flip it around :).

Even if youve made “Mistakes” e.g the marriage you said was stupid…they are not really “Mistakes” they are lessons 😉 and learning experiences. After all they are what mould us..you wouldnt be the person you were today.

How about this as an achievement….You called quits on a dead end marriage? LOTS of people dont do that and just carry on etc and would probably just be married for the sake of it and be cheating etc. thats 1 right off the bat!

Im Sure there are lots of other things too if you just write down the things youve done including “Lessons” ;)..then just take a long hard look and dont concentrate on the negative, but the good thats come out of it

I told my ex the same thing, when she was getting all depressed etc when I told her her ex lover of 6 years cheated on her constantly…she got depressed, got mad at me etc…until I pointed out that she “dodged a bullet” essentially by breaking up with him and since then shes been on multiple holidays etc which she never was allowed to do whilst with him.

Im also at the point where im not that bothered if my ex contacts me…she isnt a god, sure shes got a wicked personality!…but theres lots of others out there too. I try not to post updates unless its a big argument etc..when I first came here, i would be worried about every contact she had with me and would post much detail here…now..I dont think much about it or post it here unless its a big argument and most of the time..its for a rant. I wasnt going to post that my ex contacted me until the day I left for my holiday..and only then as a simple update to my thread, it was only because I was replying to this thread that I stuck it in.

Think this shows how far weve come in terms of not been needy :). At this moment in time if my ex asked me to get back…I would actually say no, Ive done my grovelling and begging etc…She cheated etc and tbh think shes done me a favour she would have to do some chasing and convincing to get me back now 🙂

All the best all!

x

Haha, yeah I agree it’s very good that we can all come here and have a laugh…somewhere where people can come to a positive atmosphere but at the same time get a realistic opinion is really good 🙂

A.z, I know what you mean ha, I haven’t been thinking about my ex much either..like obviously I do a bit..but like you I don’t get upset and it doesn’t bother me if she don’t reply. It does seem longer than a week though! Haha. Think it shows how far we’ve all come 🙂

Well…after Europe, going to China for work I think then I still got some holiday after that…but I might not have the money to keep up with what I want to do 😉 ha

Profiles… hmmm well lets see

David from UK, just about to turn 26. Despite been named festival David….Never been to a proper festival as the name came from what my ex was going to at the time and there was another David :).
get told on a regular basis by friends and strangers that I’m a “legend”. Enjoying going to pub a lot! And love my food and sleep 🙂 and laugh at everything

Think the song barenaked ladies “one week” describes me quite accurate

How can I help it if I think you’re funny when you’re mad
Trying hard not to smile though I feel bad
I’m the kind of guy who laughs at a funeral
Can’t understand what I mean?
Well, you soon will
I have a tendency to wear my mind on my sleeve

Hey Guys and Girls,

Im still around 🙂

Been very busy lately going to gym, seeing friends, sorting out my euro trip which I have in less than 3 days!! haha and I havent packed or planned much at all!!

I have still been reading as much as I can but not commenting as much as looks like you all been helping each other greatly and usually when i reply, it takes me like 30 minutes to get everything out that I want to say! haha

Think before my busy weekend, there were only 2-3 pages on this thread, then I went out Fri,Sat,Sun and checked this thread on Sunday night and it was 7 pages! ha

Havent heard from my ex since she apologized for having a go at me, so that was about 4days ago. Then Im going away for 2 weeks, So I not sure if Ill have any updates to post or not 😛

But its great to hear how you are all doing! Seems a lot of us are a lot happier recently,

Hey A.z

Do you remember once your ex said,she thinks when you break up with some one,you don’t know if you want them back or not until they move on and you realize that you want them back??
I remember that.it was in one of your posts on the comment section like 2,3 months ago.i think we should do the exact same thing.if they haven’t moved on until now,they won’t move on until the next few months i guess.
Even if they start a new relationship,it hurts but its better for us.we believe that we had a perfect relationship with them.they will start comparing the new ones with us.and i’m really sure that its not easy for them to have a really good relationship like they had with us.

I certainly do remember ha, good memory ;)…Your post and what you said is currently exactly what im thinking.

She already told me in that text conversation that she cant move on whilst texting us “not yet” anyways is what she wrote..she also doesnt know what she wants etc and so yeah…I think NC is the only way they will think theyve lost us again…and like we both agree…they will certainly come get us when they want us!

The Thing that ive been thinking for a few months and helping me to get past/over the thought of “her moving on” if and when it happens is this….

So what if she sleeps with a guy when we are both single…if she wanted me back after she did that..and I wanted her..I would take her back…but then I think would she take me back if I did the same? I dont know and thats kind of why I havent moved on completely…but if its love surely she would..she did it with her other ex…Love is a 2 way thing.

but then in that conversation that I posted the other day, she actually even told me to move on..and that if she wanted me back, that me sleeping with a girl wouldnt stop her from wanting me back, if she decided she did want me back..and I think that should ring true..whether it does or not..i dont know.

But you are right in that we both should carry on NC and let them realise what theyve lost…if they never realise, well then I dont think our relationships would of worked for the future anyways.

I think maybe the moving on is part of the healing process for both parties, how do our ex’s know that they are the ones when possibly everyone else is telling us that they are “plenty of fish in the sea”…how do they know how great and unique we all are? Until they actually attempt to move on and compare us to the new guy? Like Kevin says in the 5 step plan.

Same for us…how do we REALLY know they are so special until we attempt to let someone else in and give them a chance?

🙂

Rihanna:

Great to see how happy you sound and good to see that you are both still contacting each other and been supportive on a regular basis 🙂
Keep it up!

x

Hi A.z

Ill start off with a quote from Will Smith (Who I absolutely love) and I do keep thinking about this a lot of the time

Dont Chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people -the ones that really belong in your life- will come to you and stay

I can see where you are coming from about you thinking you may have missed a trick about re-attracting him and if you think you have like Giulia says, go for it.
However, My opinion is maybe you haven’t missed a trick…I do think that just because you didn’t set out to “re-attract” him..i still feel he sensed it.
You said yourself, your flirting, your confident etc
Whether you notice and feel this yourself or not..I think you will of come across confident and everything in your communications sub-consciously and will be giving off this confident vibe.

You know when they say Girls and Guys attract the opposite sex when they are in a relationship? and they say thats because they are not looking therefore they have this certain “something” about them, that attracts the opposite sex.

I think you should carry on enjoying yourself like you are doing and he will soon be questioning his decision and realize what hes missed.

You definitely shouldnt have any regrets, so if you do think youve missed a trick, go for it as no matter what we say youll always feel a regret yourself, so you know what you feel :), just be careful not to loop back around into square 1 of the false friendship etc

x