FestivalDavid

Hi Sunny,

Ill be going to Xiamen 🙂

Hey a.z

Thats sweet :), is this the same new guy in you both had a little disagreement about your ex tricking you etc and meeting up etc?

Thats good though, hes cool with it and yeah I totally get what you mean.

its Great news that you are travelling together, where is it you are going?.
It dont matter if you think hes “the one”…I dont think ive ever thought about that with any of my ex’s apart from my most recent (but we knew each other 6+years)….so it just takes time to develop feelings etc.

He may or may not be the one, Dont think it really matters at moment as long as your happy and enjoying spending time with him etc 🙂

Im going to China for 4 days or so on a business trip in about 2-3 weeks…and ive got some holidays to take..so guess what!..im going to be taking a weeks holiday and heading over to Taiwan on my own :D….so Ill have about 10 days or so in Taiwan…got that to look forward to haha.

Youll have to give me your email or FB so can speak to you now and again
xx

A.z

Thats good to know what your doing with the new guy now, I undertand where ehs coming from as no-one likes anyone talking to their ex…Its natural for him to try to hide it a bit as itll be eating him up but wont want to spoil it with you.

Like you said just tell him straight you want to take it slow, its the same with this enw girl she seems very intent on getting a boyf, (she even told me before i took her on a date) but thats not what I want.

Someone told me before, that instead of reading their ex’s texts and feeling bad (like you are) as thats perfectly normal. what they would do is delete the text before even reading it. so they could never know what was in the text!…you cna try that! although I think you would need to be really strong to do that!! ha, I dont know if i could do it myself because curiosity would probs get the better of me ha.

As for my ex, well if shes contacts me, NO!….im not going to reply ;), Im really really going to try and go at least 2 weeks without a reply ha. curse my good natured personality! ha.

xx

Hiya 🙂

Im still here and doing good, been thinking a bit about my ex the past 2 days, not sure why ha

BUt yeah I still been seeing this other girl and thats not reason why I aint been posting, just had no update on my ex since my last post coz i never replied to her and now shes on holiday.. and I have been coming here but no posts really and been busy working!

Hope all is good with you too a.z

xx

Hey A.z

Im really sorry to hear about the dirty trick your ex pulled. I dont care how much he misses you or anything, it was a dirty trick.

At end of day, theres a difference between showing someone how much you care etc and well…just been selfish and wanting something you cant have.

Your mutual friend should of just told him no, and left it at that because as much as he wants to help you both, its not helping you at all. and your ex should respect your decision….”Passenger – Let her go” lyrics

Im sorry and glad to hear about the new guy…Its good that you got to see this side of him before anything serious.
Theres a few things I would like to say from My opinion and from a guy.

Its good that hes sticking up for himself etc and sounds like hes been mature about you needing more time etc, you dont want a bloke been a doormat and I would probably act the same way, Maybe not as angry as him though, but like you said you couldnt hide his emotion (anger) he probably couldnt hide his.

I went through the same thing with my ex (the one im on this site for! ha)..she was with my best mate for 6 years and she was adamant how much she was over him etc and loved me, but I could still see her get angry about him even after 8 years, then when I told her how much he cheated on her and what not, she still felt HUGE emotions!…I know you care about your ex…that will never go away I dont think!…Like both my ex’s care about me, but they are happy in a relationship

But he needs to understand this!..he surely should know if from what you described about him saying something about a relationship for 5 years or something…and yeah I dont know what his personality is like, but you know better then us how he came across in the conversation, whether he was too angry etc.

I think your handling it very well and if things dont go well with this new guy as in neither of you talk again, its an experience…but dont let your ex ruin things for you in this or the next date guy etc.

Was a last resort to stir emotions up in you and if hesaw you cry etc that will give him a bit of comfort.

Just carry on as you were!! Best of luck a.z

cxxxx

Hey a.z

Thanks so much for your help 🙂

Yeah your totally right, I havent gave her anytime to miss me really, because everytime she does, I end up replying to her coz i hate been ignorant. So your post makes a lot of sense and I also spoke to my friend last night

So we were talking last night and he basically said the same as you, stop talking to her and what made ALOT of sense was he said “look at your 2 previous exes, both times you aint spoke to them for 1yr-2yr, but both of them have made the effect to speak to you now, so dont worry about, not speaking to your most recent ex, coz she will probably do the same”

So yeah it made a lot of sense :)…and if she doesnt speak to me…well then its her loss. Honestly the hardest part for me is the “ignoring” not coz im chasing her ha etc…but because I find it hard to ignore ANYONE…like its impolite haha. but im defintiely going to do it now…if she hates me for it…so be it.

As for your situation, im so proud of you where you are now :)…it takes a LOT to walk away, like you said, your not so sure itll work with your ex and its the right thing to do…its actually easier to simply go ahead and jump right back into the “comfort” area with your ex, so props for not doing that and giving this new guy a chance!

Keep us posted with your new guy :)…obviously you wont come back here as much as you used to as now youll be busy etc and thats just normal, but a nice post of how your new date/relationship is going would be so cool 🙂

Thanks a lot! and glad we can be friends with each other and help through the situation, especially since we both opposite sex to each other, think thats a big help haha xx

Joe

Haha, Everyone misses the Sex, but in all honestly I know you said “its sad that I miss the sex the most”

You may THINK that, but I think we are all just associating the sex with the ex etc…Its like I agree totally with you, that I also think Sex with my ex was the best ive ever had!

The things we did together, things I did with her and how comfortable we were together..I think “omg im never going to find that again, she was the best” etc “Omg now shes going to be doing all that stuff with other people and not me” and those thoughts drive me wild!

But lets be realistic, its not the sex you miss, its the closeness you developed, because if it was just the sex that we all missed….no doubt everyone of us would be hitting the streets and getting laid and we wouldnt be here posting.

Why are we all here? Because its the bond we all made with our ex’s and of course sex is part of that but its the bond that made the sex great!

You will find someone else to have that closeness with because the closer and comfortable you are in a relationship the sex will get better imo

All my ex’s Sex I thought was the best, but now I think my most current was the best ;)….but im hoping I can find someone else to beat that too 😉

x

Hey All 🙂

Awww Thanks for the kind comments,

The trip was great, i would love to post more pics, but just too many to pick and choose, upload to dropbox and then delete them on dropbox, as afterall I dont know who can see the photos haha

Ive posted a quick update on my thread I started, Ive held off posting updates as nothing has really changed, but basically its an update for the past 3-4 weeks in 1 post ha

xx