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Hey A.z
Great to hear from you, Like Kevin I think you and me are both making the right decision.
I think what he said tell you, that you are making the right decision, the fact that he wanted to meet you, sounded happy etc and how much he loved you…all of this to then say “im thinking of moving country!”?
Just a game tbh!.
I know youll do great carrying on with your plan and I think its good that me and you are both making the same decision at around the same time so we can both support each other hopefully :).
I do think youll hear from him again..just like you said I would hear from mine again (I havent directly heard yet..but ill post an update to the my thread)
Best of luck a.z and keep cool 🙂
x
Hi Joe,
Thats really good to hear, dont get me wrong, you will have ups and down days!…I still dream and think about my ex a lot too and its been 4 months+..but I also feel a lot better about myself the fact im not needy etc and well dreams are dreams…you cant control them!
As for driving by her house, you shouldnt be doing that as you know :)…but your not crazy when it makes you feel good, it makes you feel good coz you know kinda know shes not out with other guys, getting drunk doing stuff etc…thats all normal
As for my background, you can probably find a few bits on the main comments section if you search, I also made a thread on here just recently so you can see what im currently doing. But basically I split with ex in heat of moment and then after few weeks realized and she wouldnt get back with me..also found some other stuff out.
Im 25 (26 in 3 weeks)…Male and from UK 🙂
Hi Charlene,
Im not sure what help/advice I can offer to you, In my opinion its a bit strange that you sent him to this site…as now you and him are reading the same site and probably going to try the same stuff together on each other?
How can you tell the real him and improvement and him just telling you things that he knows you want to hear (since he knows you think the site is a good thing as you sent him it…he knows now what your expecting?)If you get me?
Im also assuming if hes on the site that he knows which post is yours as youve specifically mentioned that you sent him the site?
I think you should do NC for a month and carry on with yourself (since you broke it off) and give a good long hard look at him and the relationship.
YOu would also need to see the improvement and things hes doing rather then him telling you….I would also try to not read too much into what hes texting you as Im a guy..and well to be blunt…we could say anything now to get someone back, especially as you broke it off with him and he knows you think this site is a good idea…if I was him, I would read through the 5 step plan etc and have an idea of what your looking for from me…then use that to my advantage!Also im assuming he may see my reply! ha
Hoping the other guys or Kevin can offer you some better advice as I would think this is a weird situation!
Sorry I couldnt help more
Hi Joe,
Likewise with A.z I didnt reply since my first comment because although I saw your comment afterwards, Dara had already hit the nail on the head about the panicking and the NC.
I dont have anything else to add really, except that In my opinion…I think the fact that you no longer have her phone numbers…that its actually a blessing in disguise!
So Im actually hoping for your sake, that you didnt write down her new number or remember it.
The hardest part about NC for me and im assuming others is, forcing yourself to not contact them!..Ive gone through blocking her number so I cant see if she contacts me…to unblocking it incase she does contact me…then re-blocking..then unblocking coz I think I should force ymself to have the mental strength etc and around in circles I went! haha
…so if you have actually forgotten her number I would say take it as a good thing!..you wont be constantly trying to ring/text her…Carry on the NC and about checking out other women and talking, thats completely normal and definitely not a BAD Thing. Its not been too long so flirting and talking is very good to boost your confidence and distract you…but I wouldnt do anything sexual for at least a few weeks…you dont want to be the one who ends up in a rebound!…but its flirting is definitely good!!
Keep this up and in a month you might make a post here saying “Ive realised I can get other women and I no longer want her etc”…Who knows
Keep it up 😀
Hi Joe,
It sounds like your in deaths door (Relationship rewind) if she has gone to the drastic measures of changing her numbers….1 week seems to me a very quick timeframe to change multiple numbers.
I Think your best chance for now is to follow the 5 step plan on the website, I personally think from reading you should keep up the NC, as although it was you that said you wanted this.
From what you described what she was doing before you 2 finished, she was been quite off with you…I mean if you were waiting for 2 hours!…even if she decided to go home, a text or quick call would of been nice.
Try not to think of anything at all, do the NC and work on yourself and analyse the relationship arguments, me and my ex argued a lot too like yourself but it was also very intense….Doesnt mean that either one of us thought it was the perfect relationship or even right one.
