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Hi Patricia,
Thank you so much for the reply, well we chatted, but because I wanted her back so much, I never seen any of her flaws to change, it was me that needed to give more of my time which I did.
Yeah I agree, I won’t sit here and lie, before I didn’t spend enough time but once we got back together, I have nothing to feel guilty about or from my point of view anymore that I could of done to make it work. You say the same as all my friends, she is either staying in contact from time to time to either keep hurting me or just in case.
Yes I can’t argue with you there, as much as it would hurt me not to see them again, it is out of my control, she would still tell me she loved me before the break up but to me that was just words, love is a doing or a showing word from my point of view.
I will definitely take your advice, I have even said that I would like things to be sorted but to no avail.
Thank you so much for the reply and advice and I will keep you updated on anything else that happens if that is ok,
Thanks again.
Hi mate, I haven’t read it all but most of it, happened to me not so long back, there was nothing I wanted more than her back but she was adamant, there wasn’t or still isn’t a new guy as far as I know, but have some dignity brother and don’t give her the satisfaction, as soon as I stopped chasing her and went cold, she didn’t like it, she wanted to be friends which I agreed to but then she had it in her head that I was messaging somebody else and said that she couldn’t be friends anymore because it hurts her but she still didn’t say let’s get back, I don’t even want her back now anyway, I have seen her true colours, I think you should do the same, why do you want someone back where another man has been, as harsh as it sounds, it’s disgusting, couldn’t think of anything worse, you can’t force someone to be with you!! Stop looking on her Facebook full stop, you ain’t going to see anything on there that you like, only things that will hurt you, the old saying ‘curiosity killed the cat’ keep your head up and get her out of your life!!!!
Yeah mate, she sounds cold, I would leave it there, I’m ok, wanted to message her a few times but I haven’t, she told one of our mutual friends that we have broken up and it is so sad and that she haven’t heard off me for 8 days, don’t know what to make of it
Alright Lee, I wouldn’t try and phone her or anything mate, just send a text asking her to send your stuff, your phone call that she probably wouldn’t accept but even if she did would hurt you more, she would hear the hurt in your voice, that wouldn’t affect her but just makes you look desperate, I’m not saying that in a nasty way but I wouldn’t give her the satisfaction of hearing you like that, I think you genuinely need to forget about her, easier said than done I know but truthfully for them to say them words, there is no hope there, I’m sorry bro
I am annoyed with myself that I tried so hard to make somebody want me, they should want you in a relationship, works both ways, if she comes back, she will have to change stuff as well now that I don’t like about her otherwise I will just find myself someone else in time who appreciates me like she did when we met before she turned into a different person, head up Lee mate, you’ve got to be the main man with her or without her, don’t put your happiness into someone else’s hands
Yes mate I agree with what you’re saying but I’ve got it in my head now that she knows how I feel about her, I’ve told her all that and I have decided that I will never contact her again, whether she contacts me or not, I will reply but I’ll never initiate contact with her again
Still gutted mate, realising she doesn’t miss me enough to message me so I’m thinking why should I miss someone that doesn’t miss me, how about you??
Yeah boys I agree, keep posting in here everyday and sharing your thoughts, I’m starting to look at mine in an ugly way now, don’t know about you two but her insides seem ugly to me at the moment, no contact with me and obviously doesn’t care enough about me to send a 3 word messaging saying ‘are you ok’
Yeah I agree, good thing is that it is in their hands now, we won’t have any regrets in years to come, they had the chance to right it if they really wanted to
Yeah mate I agree, it just makes me think to myself why do we care and love these people so much that know how much we are hurting and can’t even say ‘Are you ok’ after we have known them for however long, I just get annoyed at the thought that she is messaging someone else and being all smiley smiley to them which was obviously what we were like at the start, but this is her true colours, her excuse to me was I can’t do it anymore because she has changed, she had too many hopes and wants and by her wanting them things it spoilt it for us, why not just give it time to happen
Hi guys,
I don’t know whether I’m just making an excuse to myself and I will look weak but I was thinking about messaging her to see how things got on, before I started no contact the other day she was telling me about one of her friends that was due to give birth but with massive massive complications that I won’t go into detail about because it is not really my business, we had talked about it months before too, what should I do, should I just say I hope everything turned out well etc or will she just see me as being weak and using it as an excuse to message her??
I’m from Swansea pal, yeah mate I agree, I would love to have mine back but only if she wanted to be back…online on what?? Try not to look
Yes mate I was cool all the way through it, apart from being upset etc, never said anything nasty or nothing, just gives them ammunition, even if we didn’t get back, I would want her to think in years how nice I still was when she broke my heart
Where are you from buddy
Yes mate, she knows how you feel, it is down to her, you have laid your cards out in front of you same as me, they have to look at them and decide if they want to play the hand or fold them, their decision, we can’t do anymore, you can’t make somebody want you, if she loves you like she said she will come back, if not she obviously didn’t love you enough as she made out, so what would you want her for I say?? I’m day one of no contact, she said she will contact me in 3 weeks when she has finished with my laptop to get it back to me, so be it.
I only have her on Snapchat and WhatsApp, none of us have removed each other or anything
