DRL123

Thank you, the letter was something very nice mate, it is down to her and yeah exactly, she ended it so like I said, she can’t have everything, she can’t have me in her life, she needs to miss me and realising what ending it with someone is, I can’t be her emotional support to get over myself when it was her choice, if I’d ended it with her and had no feelings for her anymore, I could be there to support her because I wouldn’t have any feelings

Maybe you’re right that she would be better off without me, I have tried and tried, hurts me too much to be ignored and picked up and put down when it suits her, if she really loves me and cares for me she will swallow her pride and message me, I swallowed all my pride and she kept on throwing it in my face, I never did anything majorly wrong in the first place for it to happen, if she comes back she comes back, if she can’t find it in her heart to reconcile then so be it, I never said anything nasty, it can’t be a one way street, my letter wasn’t even acknowledged even though she told me she received it, I think if people are meant to be together they will find a way back no matter what

Update guys, we talked and obviously we came back up into conversation, I told her that I respect her wishes to not have me in her life anymore and I will leave her be, she didn’t like that, she sent 4 messages without response and said to me I can’t believe that I am leaving her?? She ended it with me but yet I’m the one leaving her, can anyone understand that??

I hope so, I will not bother her by keeping on but I also won’t bother her by not replying if she messages me, she knows how I feel about her and the boys so like I say ‘you can’t make someone be with you’ even if you could, why would you want someone there that doesn’t want to be, I don’t want that, keep the advice coming and I will keep updating

Thanks,

DR

@patrucia12 firstly can I just say thank you so so much for the reply!!

The falling out in February was her being cold towards me for a while, she would bring up things from the past that I hadn’t done but we had since got past, so basically firing old shots at me.

In early March I was so cut up about just being her friend, I was still in love with her very much but I wouldn’t be allowed to cuddle her or kiss her so I explained that this ‘friends’ situation was just hurting, how can she expect me to be friends after almost 2 years in a loving relationship, as long as we were friends she wasn’t hurting but I was so i said i will give you space and went no contact as I’d read to make her miss me and want me back, I got back to her, I felt happy that she missed me and we were back being loving towards each other (so I thought) but when anything was said, not trying anything sexual but she would throw the just friends in pretty quickly, I feel like I have done the best that I can to make her want me but I feel that she is now out of love with me, this week we have messaged back and forth a few times, nothing about me and her but mostly how she is getting on with her university work and the boys, but she will always just abruptly stop replying to me.

She hardly replies to me now so I know there would be no chance of her being prepared to have a phone call with me, I know that she would of received the letter by now but no mention that she has when we have messaged.

I would do anything to have her back and I honestly would be a new guy by making her happy and more supportive, she is my girl, I just feel it is too late, it is a very true saying, ‘you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone,

Your message wasn’t blunt, just honest and I appreciate that, any further help would be appreciated,

Thank you