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Hey @aamls 🙂
My ex and I are still dating and we are going away for new years together. He told me yesterday that he thinks and hopes we’ll get back together. At times he feels that its perfect to be with me and has no doubts but he still doubts it a bit so that’s what’s holding him back. He says he wants to be 100% sure that it is what he wants and that our new years holiday together should make it clear whether we should get back together or go our seperate ways but he says that he wouldnt be going if he didnt think we had a future together. Soooo i’m suuuuper excited and very nervous and also upset because i’m scared that it might be completely over. How are you doing??? 🙂Hey 🙂
My ex and I are currently dating but taking things slow so we’re not back together unfortunately. My ex says that in his perfect world we’d be together and that he thinks that we will get back but he still isnt sure. He says that he is afraid to say yes and then he wont be able to be with me anyways. I feel a bit stuck in this situation and i’m running out of patience. I feel like he should be able to make his decision soon… He has almost agreed to go away with me for new years so if he does, then I hope that will seal the deal..
Everything is going okay for me right now, still seeing and talking to my ex so hopefully i have a chance of getting him back. 🙂
You have two children together so he will NEVER forget you. The best you can do right now is to focus on yourself and the children. Try and not think about every little thing that he does because he doesnt even know half the things he does so they are most likely not done on purpose. Give him some space, dont contact him – if he texts or calls, keep the conversation about the children and sound positive and happy. This will attract him little by little. The worst thing you can do is to fight and argue with him – it will make him pull away even more.
Thanks for the replies 🙂
He texted me on sunday asking if I could help order some vitamins for him and so we texted a little back and forth. I’m seeing him on saturday but I don’t know what we will be doing so i’m kinda nervous to see what he comes up with. I hope something like dinner and a movie so if he texts me to go for lunch i’ll be pretty disappointed but i’m crossing my fingers. He knows that I want a relationship so I highly doubt he said to hang out saturday unless he is open to the idea of us getting back together in the future.
I dont know if I should text him tomorrow or give him a call just asking whats up or if I should wait until he texts me the plans for saturday. What do you guys think?
I just texted my ex asking if he wanted to do something this weekend and he said that he was busy would we could plan something next weekend so i’m seeing him next saturday 🙂 Kinda bummed out that he didnt have time this weekend but i am happy that i’m seeing him next.. I told him he got the honor to make plans so i’m looking forward to seeing what he comes up with.
So he texted me this afternoon 🙂 Yayyy!! Nothing special in particular but at least he contacted me !
Thanks 🙂 But since he suggested that we see each other maybe once before our next date then I don’t really want to start NC up but I am going to try and not contact him before after weekend.
Thanks for your reply 🙂 I have told him that I am not trying to be his friend but that I want us to get back together and he just says that he hopes that we can get back together. So I feel as though I have made it very clear to him what I want but I just don’t think he is ready right now – it is as though something is holding him back and I have no idea what it is. He told me last week that if we start seeing each other again then he’d like to go away with me for new years but still doesnt know so it is as though he is open to the idea of us getting back together at least.
Hey Aamls – SO the situation surely sucks but it’s still not over and i love that you want to do anything to get him back. For right now, try and do your best to concentrate on yourself and your children. Try and apply for the emergency housing as soon as possible so you can be more independent and see if you cant somehow get a job or at least do some volunteer work. This will get you out of the house and let you focus on other things as well as meet new people. I do think you should make an effort to keep the children out of the conflict with you husband – try and not involve them in anything to do with him. It might create more drama with the she said/he said and instead only get information through him. Even though he may not say much, then i guess at this point what you dont know wont hurt you.
I am kinda in the same situation as you and i reached out to my ex through texts and calls every 2-4 days and after 2 weeks and me contacting him 5 times in that timeframe or so he finally began to contact me also – not a lot but a little bit which is better than nothing. If you are trying to win her back then I would contact her if i were you and not wait for her to make contact 🙂
If it has only been a month since you broke up, then if he does start to see another girl then it will be just a rebound and you shouldnt worry about it! I know that’s easy for me to say and so hard to not care about but try not to. I honestly think he still loves you very much and just says he wants you out of his life because he simply still has too many feelings for you and he cant really deal with it and his logic is telling him to push you away. How long were you two together?
