need of support

Hi,

My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago. It started with him just wanting to have a talk about our feelings and I ended
up telling him “lets just break up” not expecting to him to actually do it but he did. I begged him to take me back!
For the past 3 weeks he’s told me that he’s in doubt whether or not it was the right decision and we’ve been in contact
basically everyday since then. He’s contacted me and i’ve contacted him. 3 days ago i told him my heart couldnt
take the not knowing anymore, and that it was hurting so he told me that he was still in doubt but that for my sake
I should try to move on and act as though him and i are over.
When this happened he still said that he wasnt sure it was the right decision to break up but again that it was over.
He’s mentioned several times that he hopes that we’ll find each other again, and that we’ll get back together
because we had a really good relationship and a deep love for one another. He did also mention a few days after the break
up that he didnt feel like he could give me a relationship right now, and that he was confused with the situation
and didnt know what to do but that he wanted us to stay in contact.
We have seen each other twice since – i went by him with roses (was invited in so he didnt find it weird) and then we went on a date 5 days later.
(he says that the reason for the break up is because i was giving him doubts because he felt like i was always angry with
him and that I didnt appreciate his family enough and so he’s not sure whether he still loves me the way a boyfriend
should love a girlfriend) Side note – 3 days before we were planning a vacation together..
In our last conversation i told him that in order for me to get over him, i would need us to have no communication and that
I wouldnt contact him before i was over him and felt that we could be just friends.
So today I haven’t spoke with him in 3 days and trying the no contact for 30 days.
We were together for 4 years and we lived together. The day after the break up i moved almost all my things out except
the furniture and kitchen stuff and we havent talked about the items we own together. I just told him I’d let him know when i was ready.
Do you think I have a chance of getting him back? And will no contact for 30 days be enough? 3 days ago when he told me to move on, i had just asked him if he wanted to go on another date but he said he didnt think it was a good idea. Am i fooling myself into thinking there is a chance when there really isnt? Is he giving me hope because he’s scared of hurting me? …
I feel like the only way I can get through my day is if i feel a hope that him and i will get back together even though I know that we probably won’t because when he makes a decision he usually sticks with it.
The ideal would be that he contacts me first but since I told him to leave me alone, I highly doubt that will happen (he’s pretty stubborn). And now that I told him that I wouldnt contact him before I could just be his friend it now feels like i can never contact him because i dont want to be just his friend..