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She also called him crawling back to me which he has now done twice but I need to get out of the cycle. So tempted to email but I just need space from everything right now
@dragongirl
Well he has told me I make him more upset than anyone else and affect him more than anyone else…I also have caused him so much anxiety he has had to go to the hospital … Also my therapist noted it, not me.
Therapist also said this stuff w the pics he was codependent too. Anyway I need a break 🙁
I didn’t paint the story to my therapist. I actually fought her saying we were not codependent and she has proved that we both are. Also it is true. I affect him more than anyone else. He has told me this and also has demonstrated this. I have this control over him too. Anyway I no longer want to banter about these things and I do have enough info to know I affect him more than anyone not saying it’s a good thing but I can make him Angry or happy quicker than anyone
Anyways I am taking a hiatus for a bit 🙂
@dragongirl
Well he talked about sexual things and also other things but I do see your perception.
That’s why I have been so anxious actually Bc o want to know what he is thinking and only he can tell me that. He isn’t the type to do anything w anyone without emotional attachment but I agree he was focusing this time more on physical. He’s also codependent though and I’m just trying to break the cycle. Also if I don’t talk e comes back and he has talked about being q me but my roomie has a good point he wasn’t ready and he is still harboring anger like you and finntoga saidAnyway I’m also gonna take a break from here 🙂
Well I know I need to relax and stay nc bc I caught myself falling back. We both need space 🙂 I do know he loves me he has told me so but I fell back easily so for myself I’m taking step back. And yeah I talk to guys as friends I didn’t rule that out but he’s not flirting at this point. But I don’t wanna keep going on that topic. Imma take a week break from here at least as well Bc roomie says it will help me ruminate less : )
He also is more affected by me than anyone else and he depends on me for his emotional state too etc. we’ve been going around the cycle for years I was just trying to break it. He wants me to show I love him Bc he is also super insecure but anyways I’m keeping Bc again Bc we both need more time
@between
He and I both are. You’d have to know our whole story. I have a therapist and she said last week before I fell back that he was being way more codependent than me. My therapist gave me a book on it too and we both are. This role recently is him being perpetrator and me victim and before he was being victim
Also my therapist pointed out he was codependent.
… And she’s right. You should read up on it. Anyway I’m logging off of here.I do know my ex loves me and will come back the problem is I am very insecure and have eating disorder anxiety and depression and I’m in treatment for it. I am just so insecure and I’m working on I sometime think why would he come back even tho I know he will. I have self sabotaged so many times and he always comes back you would think I should know by now but my old ex not this one cheated on me and I had a hard time trusting this ex and it hurts him
He wouldn’t lie to me about that either. This guy has spent 3 years waiting for me and he still wants to be w me by what he said. I hate the girl comments Bc I know him so well and know who he is and isn’t snap chatting by what he has communicated also my snaps were tons of his added ones and I realized later i just didn’t think it was noteworthy
@finntoga
His snapchat count hasnt increased that much and I realized a lot of it was stuff to or from me -.-No not getting defensive just giving you the facts. And you clearly haven’t read tons of my posts due to some of your other comments
And he has told me he hasn’t moved on and wants us to be together so my goodness I really don’t appreciate your responses Bc you haven’t read the whole thread when he has made that part very clear that he wants me.
He also was jealous when I said I had live chatted w a guy friend and I had to clarify that friend was gay..
