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One more thing, when we are in a group with our coworkers, (we all smoking together outside and before the work as well), she is a bit different, she dont look at me too much, her ex left her 4 years ago, he was working in the same company, so maybe she dont want to go trough the same thing at work with me, or she dont want to show her feelings too much in front of the other coworkers, because they know probably the situation beetwen her and her ex, thats mine opinion, I am sorry for the long text
I met her 2 weeks ago at work, we chated today a bit, and today she sent for the first time some heart emojis like goodnight night I see you today at work (emoji heart)
But my friend said, there is something because she didnt add him, the other friends as well on facebook, because she told me, we are friends now and thats the reason why she added me, maybe she dont want to say the truth, there must be something why she added me and changed the relationship status to single, if she is not interested somehow she would not add me like the other friends, and she would not chat with me, I just dont want to be friendzoned š
So, somehow its going slow, we met, started to talk, chated, now the emojis, she took a picture as well like she is in bed and shes watching a movie
The only thing whats bothering me is, I already asked her for a drink, and she said she dont drink before work, because she cant work when she drinks, and like the pubs are closed, after that I wrote something and straight away I asked like “Weekend?” (Because we are off weekends), so I wrote two messages in a row, she responded to the first question but she skipped the weekend question, did she saw the weekend question I dont know, I will say again, I am really sorry about my english, but I dont want to go again trough something like that, because 9 months ago my ex left me, so till I ask her for a walk directly in real (not texts) I will not know where am I
I hope you understand, thank you very much for the help
An update, we talked today a lot, It came by itself how she is single and me, I explained everything to her, she to me, so she is single for 4 years, and she was devasted from the break up, heartbroken, maybe thats why she is unsecure to start something new, any ideas someone, thanks
Btw I asked her why she added me on facebook, she said only cause we are friends now
Btw I mentioned that status from relationship to single, she was laughing and like i said, everything wase smooth
@patricia12
I see you have a lot experience, i tried to create my own thread, but no response from the admin to approve it, can you help please, i really need an advice– a relationship of 3 years, all 3 years lived together
– went to another country for a better future
– always talked about the future, marriage, children, wedding, etc.
– I’d be able to relax more than once and not give her attention and passion to the relationship because I really believed she was the one
– She was freaking out about it and saying all the time that she misses it.
– after that, I’d get better, but like I said, I believed she was the one, and i’d relax again after a while.
– she broke up because she’s afraid I’m going to stay like that way in the marriage.
– I’ve always been there for her and she knows I’m a very good guy, and she said that herself and that maybe she’ll regret it one day because of that decision.
– she don’t say anything bad about me to other people because she knows I’ve been very good, she say all good about me
– in the last conversation, she said that she still loves me, that she misses me and that she misses all our things and that she has to think about herself right now and that she wants to be a friend and that I can always call her for coffee or a walk
– now we live separately and there has been no contact for a month except congratulations for birthday and Easter
– the current situation is very difficult for me, I wonder if she’s thinking about me and if she might want to reconnect and she doesn’t know how because I told her that once I break up, I don’t want to go back.
– I am 30 years old, she 25When she broke up, we still lived together for a half month and traveled together to work, i was sleeping on the couch, after that half month i moved in another house, and the no contact rule started from the 28.3, the 5.4 i texted her just happy birthday she responded by thanks, and after that she texted me happy easter, i responded as well you too, thats it, whats the next step?
@patricia12
I would not say that she is living at the female friends house, she is living with the new guy (i guess), thats why she moved on, yeah i think i will not contact her anymore if she dont make the first move, thank you very much for everything, take care!@patricia12
Update
She changed her profile picture today, red lipstick and a hairstyle that i most like on her (she knows that).
Does it mean something?
I apologize for spamming posts to you and the other people on this website.@patricia12
Ok, sorry, i will explain now.
Yes, she texted all that below regarding the video.
It reffers to me, she said that for me, like its my fault because “i” didnt gave attention and passion.
Figured out when was over, like i realized/understood (figured out) what i “had” and that i lost her (but somehow its too late).
āBut okay, obviously thatās how it has to beā, like the unfair life and that this my fault is and that i lost her (like this is destiny).
Yeah i understand, after the video she texted all that, it would not be respectfull to ignore her, thats why i responded that because i didnt know what to write.
I dont know, for me, these messages are somehow cold. Maybe she is acting only like that (cold), if not, she is definitely somehow happy with the new guy.
Beacuse the female friend has two kids and a husband, you think she would keep my ex at her place for so long (lets be honest), like i said, my ex was once in the apartment where we lived together, so, the female friend could say now he moved out, you can go back to your apartment.
2 months to be at someones place who has kids and husband and a normal life but you still have an empty place where to be, somehow i cant believe in this.@patricia12
Hey Patricia, i think i should probably really move on, i sent her how is she doing, whats new by her.
She answered “good you, nothing”.
I told her i am learning guitar, read bible, she answered only “thats great”.
And i sent her the video (in the video is everything, that i miss her, still love her and bla bla) she said “why you’re sending me that I don’t know what to tell you about it”
“Yes we were happy and life is unfair but it’s all their fault”
“and too bad it’s all figured out when it’s over”
“But okay, obviously that’s how it has to be”
I responded to that “Okay, I’m not going to upset you anymore” and she said “Well, you’re not upseting/bodering me”
I hope you understand everything because i tried to translate somehow, whats your opinion about that?
Now i am again like shit š@patricia12
I spoke with a friend, he said as well to text her, i cant lose anything, i can only show my kindness and care, i am not so confident to speak with her on phone, so maybe better a text, i was thinking maybe after the texts at the end to send her a video what i created with a beatiful background picture, emotional music and my words in the video, i saw something on youtube, its really beatiful, but with my words, what do you think about that?
Just to mention in the video is our relationship how we happy were, is that ok or?@patricia12
I know i need to show her that i still care, but i tried and i got cold answers, is she pretending only like that?
Should i text her like i still love you and miss you or just ask how is she doing and that stuff?
I am 50:50, i want her back, but if she is with the new guy i dont know if i want her back, i dont know if i can trust her anymore and forgive if this is real with the new guy.
And i dont know why i am sad again like on the beginning, i was good at some time@patricia12
Ok i try not to drink so much, i am in contact with family everyday, they giving me lot of love and care, we dont talk about her anymore.
Few days ago i saw that she deleted all pictures from us on social media (after that i did the same on my profile) what does it mean? Is it then good to text her, because she deleted the pictures? Should i wait maybe for more time (because its only 1 month NC)?@patricia12
Yeah hi, me again, still no contact from her and my side as well, i was really good after your last message on 25. april, i moved on, started to look myself better and positives things, started to learn how to play a guitar, just not to think about her and it helped, and i said to myself maybe its better like this and i “didnt want her back”, i was a little bit angry but on positive side, 2 days ago i started to struggling again, dreamed her, thinking too much about her, drinking a lot, dont know what to do, is it the quarentine i dont know, but i miss her very much now and i want her back, it kills me when i see couples together, some advices please! I would really appreciate it, i am really sad these 2 days, i feel like i cant control myself, pretending i am ok, but i am not, i am just glad i dont need to go to work to see her there, thanks in advance!@patricia12
Yeah, you right about all
Ok, what to say, thank you very much for the patience, answers, time…everything!
Everytime when you wrote me something i felt better, if something happened, i will let you know, so you can have more experience for other people.
Thanks!
