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@patricia12
Yeah hi, me again, still no contact from her and my side as well, i was really good after your last message on 25. april, i moved on, started to look myself better and positives things, started to learn how to play a guitar, just not to think about her and it helped, and i said to myself maybe its better like this and i “didnt want her back”, i was a little bit angry but on positive side, 2 days ago i started to struggling again, dreamed her, thinking too much about her, drinking a lot, dont know what to do, is it the quarentine i dont know, but i miss her very much now and i want her back, it kills me when i see couples together, some advices please! I would really appreciate it, i am really sad these 2 days, i feel like i cant control myself, pretending i am ok, but i am not, i am just glad i dont need to go to work to see her there, thanks in advance!@AssassinK Glad to hear you’ve been keeping busy and trying not to obsess about her:) I suggest you stop drinking or at least limit the drinking to one per day. Not drinking is a better idea as drinking usually interferes with logical thinking and puts a lot of people into a melancholy (sad) mood. You do have the ability to control your own thoughts and behaviors. I understand being sad about the situation, but don’t dwell on it. I might also suggest you talk to your family regarding the breakup. They love and care about you and might have some suggestions/advice too..
As far as I can tell, the last time you contacted your ex was April 20 which was almost a month ago. She has had some time to miss you, but maybe doesn’t want to be the one to initiate contact. You are the one who needs to show interest, therefore, I suggest you send a nice text, email, or even call her to ask how she is and let her know what you’ve been doing.. Also remind her that you would enjoy going for coffee or a walk when the lock down is over or when she feels comfortable doing that.
Do not be angry and don’t pretend you don’t want her back. Just take it one day at a time and do the best you can to focus on yourself and improve your communication skills.
@patricia12
Ok i try not to drink so much, i am in contact with family everyday, they giving me lot of love and care, we dont talk about her anymore.
Few days ago i saw that she deleted all pictures from us on social media (after that i did the same on my profile) what does it mean? Is it then good to text her, because she deleted the pictures? Should i wait maybe for more time (because its only 1 month NC)?@AssassinK I’m glad to hear you talked with your family and that they gave you love and care.
Only your ex knows why she deleted the pictures on social media.. I suggest you try not to stalk her social media as it will just raise more questions and cause you to be confused.
It’s been a month of no contact and I think you should send a text soon (maybe sometime this week) because if you don’t, she will think you don’t care about her.
@patricia12
I know i need to show her that i still care, but i tried and i got cold answers, is she pretending only like that?
Should i text her like i still love you and miss you or just ask how is she doing and that stuff?
I am 50:50, i want her back, but if she is with the new guy i dont know if i want her back, i dont know if i can trust her anymore and forgive if this is real with the new guy.
And i dont know why i am sad again like on the beginning, i was good at some time@AssassinK I would say she has been polite in her responses, not cold!
You could text or better to call on the phone. Ask how she’s doing. Tell her what you’ve been doing lately and improvements you’ve made. Tell her you love and miss her.
You don’t know for a fact if she’s with a new guy.
Stop drinking so much! It will make you sadder.
@patricia12
I spoke with a friend, he said as well to text her, i cant lose anything, i can only show my kindness and care, i am not so confident to speak with her on phone, so maybe better a text, i was thinking maybe after the texts at the end to send her a video what i created with a beatiful background picture, emotional music and my words in the video, i saw something on youtube, its really beatiful, but with my words, what do you think about that?
Just to mention in the video is our relationship how we happy were, is that ok or?@AssassinK Okay, if you’re not comfortable talking on the phone yet, send a text and the video:)
@patricia12
Hey Patricia, i think i should probably really move on, i sent her how is she doing, whats new by her.
She answered “good you, nothing”.
I told her i am learning guitar, read bible, she answered only “thats great”.
And i sent her the video (in the video is everything, that i miss her, still love her and bla bla) she said “why you’re sending me that I don’t know what to tell you about it”
“Yes we were happy and life is unfair but it’s all their fault”
“and too bad it’s all figured out when it’s over”
“But okay, obviously that’s how it has to be”
I responded to that “Okay, I’m not going to upset you anymore” and she said “Well, you’re not upseting/bodering me”
I hope you understand everything because i tried to translate somehow, whats your opinion about that?
Now i am again like shit š@AssassinK I’m having a little trouble understanding. Apparently she asked why you sent the video and said she doesn’t know what to say about it..
Did she text back all the things below regarding the video??
āYes we were happy and life is unfair but itās all their faultā IT’S ALL THEIR FAULT?? WHO IS SHE REFERRING TO??
āand too bad itās all figured out when itās overā FIGURED OUT WHEN IT’S OVER?? WHAT DOES THAT MEAN??
āBut okay, obviously thatās how it has to beā WHAT HAS TO BE??Maybe you should not have said that you’re not going to upset her anymore. Maybe you should have just sent the video and let her think about it for a while.. One good thing is she said you’re not upsetting/bothering her..
@patricia12
Ok, sorry, i will explain now.
Yes, she texted all that below regarding the video.
It reffers to me, she said that for me, like its my fault because “i” didnt gave attention and passion.
Figured out when was over, like i realized/understood (figured out) what i “had” and that i lost her (but somehow its too late).
āBut okay, obviously thatās how it has to beā, like the unfair life and that this my fault is and that i lost her (like this is destiny).
Yeah i understand, after the video she texted all that, it would not be respectfull to ignore her, thats why i responded that because i didnt know what to write.
I dont know, for me, these messages are somehow cold. Maybe she is acting only like that (cold), if not, she is definitely somehow happy with the new guy.
Beacuse the female friend has two kids and a husband, you think she would keep my ex at her place for so long (lets be honest), like i said, my ex was once in the apartment where we lived together, so, the female friend could say now he moved out, you can go back to your apartment.
2 months to be at someones place who has kids and husband and a normal life but you still have an empty place where to be, somehow i cant believe in this.@patricia12
Update
She changed her profile picture today, red lipstick and a hairstyle that i most like on her (she knows that).
Does it mean something?
I apologize for spamming posts to you and the other people on this website.@AssassinK So she’s living with her friend who has a husband and 2 kids. Maybe she is helping with child care. But it sounds like she has moved on.. I think the profile picture means she wants to look her best, nothing more.
Start no contact again!
@patricia12
I would not say that she is living at the female friends house, she is living with the new guy (i guess), thats why she moved on, yeah i think i will not contact her anymore if she dont make the first move, thank you very much for everything, take care!@AssassinK You’re welcome. You take care too..
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