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@AssassinK Be patient and wait until the weekend to text her. I think you should use your own words. But ask how she’s doing and if anything is new with her. Tell her you whatever is new with you. Tell you would like to stay in touch and if that’s okay with her. Start with her name and also insert some sweet words within the text..
Yes, you need to go slowly for now until you think she wants more frequent contact. Hopefully she will sometimes initiate contact too.
Good luck.
Ok, we will see, thanks a lot!
Hey, me again, can you just tell me what to do if my ex is with somebody other, maybe she found somebody, i am guessing that, you know, he gave her attention and the beggining stuff and she liked that, and thats why she broke up, because i was chatting today with this female friend where i was with my ex, my ex still lives there, but the female friend said she is never home, i think probably she found another guy, what if this is true, should i still text her on weekend or is there something else to do if she is with another guy?
On the break up i asked my ex if she found another guy, she said no, i am not a girl like that, but who knows, 99% of poeple would say no i didnt found, just to be less pain to the other partner
@AssassinK Don’t worry about if she is seeing/dating someone else. Just do your best to be honest and affectionate which is what she wanted. You have a 3 year history with her so that means there must have been something she liked/loved about you.. But she apparently felt neglected because you slacked off from being passionate about her and didn’t give her enough attention..Then she broke up because of it..
Are you saying you shared a house or apartment with your ex and another female for 3 years?
I advise you stop talking with the female friend about your ex!Text your ex with a sweet text this weekend and wait to see how she responds. Try not to obsess about anything! Worry and stress will not help your situations!
Omg, you are so good in this 🙂
So much stuff goes through my head, sometimes i am thinking to give up and start NC and wait and wait for her, but then i see your message wich encourages me.No, we lived together 2 years and 8 months, only the last 4 months we lived with this female friend
Whats bothering me most now is her last message, why her message so cold is
@AssassinK At least she didn’t ignore your message. She was polite. Stop stressing!
Ok ok 🙂
I let you know what happened, thanks a lot@patricia12
Yeah hi, me again, i am really sorry for spaming messagesI watched lot of videos about break ups and stuff like that, i jumped in a video that is pretty close to my situation, as well the attention and bla bla, the guy in the video said, if i text her sometimes like i did, she will never miss me then, he said to start NC, because she will never miss me if i constantly contacting her, i gave her attention now and care, with these messages before what you say to send her, and she knows now that, but if i continue to send her messages it will not change anything if she is with the new guy, and i think this guy is from our company who works with my ex, she goes on the break with him outside and smoke together cigaretes, and on the picture what she posted few days ago, she cheked in the location, and thats the location where he lives, i saw on the picture the same doors like on hes profile picture, there is something about them and i can feel that somehow, like the friend said she was maybe once in the apartment, she is never home, i think she is living now there with him, maybe to start the NC, because if i continue like this i will live in some hope and i will constantly thinking how they having s.. and bla bla, cant erase that from my mind and thats not good, i need to keep moving, if she still miss me she will probably contact me, if not her lost, what do you think? I am really lost, dont know if its better to keep moving and try a reattraction and NC or stay in this hope
Sorry Patricia, maybe you are tired about my messages, but like i said i dont have friends here with who i can speak, i dont wanna talk with my family about that so they dont need to worry, you helping me a lot about the situation, don’t mind please
And the sad thing is he is 45 years old, and she is 25, she likes older mens, i know that because she said to me that she likes me a lot because i am older and bla bla, the guy is really kind, i met him together with her, i am losing my mind!
@AssassinK I don’t mind you giving updates regarding your situation:) Wow, that guy is 20 years older than her. It might be a rebound type relationship..
Okay, you sent a very sweet message 4 days ago and she knows how you feel, but the problem was during the relationship you slacked off on being romantic and she wanted attention and romance. You two were getting along well since the breakup. You sent Happy Birthday and she sent Happy Easter. All very casual stuff..
Anyway, maybe you should try no contact and wait to see if she misses you and initiates a message.
Try not to stress or stalk social media. Focus on your own life now.. If you have any hobbies or like to read, play an instrument etc..
@patricia12
Yeah it could be a rebound, i will do the NC, while we were still together, it was one day after the job that my ex told me she wanted to go out to the club with this guy, another female friend who works as well in our company, and the female friend who has a child and lives with my ex now at the apartment, I said yes, because I met him and I know he’s ok and nice, I never would have thought he might want to do something with my girlfriend, she asked me as well if i want to go, i said yes why not, and after a few minutes “boom”, she said it was better if I stay at the apartment to babysit, because the second female friend wouldn’t be able to go with them to the club, like she didnt want me to go, It could be that something happened that night.When we broke up, my ex couldn’t be with me at the apartment, so she said she was going to that first female friend’s house, she was almost at her place every day (like now in the lockdown), but I don’t think she actually stayed with her, i think she was at hims place with him, the more time she spent at his place, the more interest she lost in me, you know what i mean?
Like i said he gave her maybe attention and stuff like that and she liked that.And i think my low attention and passion is only an excuse for the break up
I am getting a clear picture in my mind now
What do you think?
I am really sorry for my english, i hope you understand everything, i am trying to write everything in the details so you know what happened reallyLet me just say one more important thing, 6 days before the break up, on Saturday our new friend was celebrating his birthday, we was there, the night was perfect, I was giving her a lot of attention, we came home and we had s.x, the next morning on Sunday we were looking for a new apartment for us, the monday and tuesday was normal, on wednesday she was very strange and I asked her if everything was okay. She said yes. I asked again, she said again its ok, but very strange, i saw something is not good, tried not to boder her with that, i was thinking maybe she had a bad day
Like I said, she’s a closed person, thursday passed, and on friday she said that we’re breaking up, but we didn’t, I tried everything, so she said she needed space and she hoped it was just a phase.
But it’s very hard to give space to the person you live with so it didn’t work out, and it lasted a couple of days and then came the breakup
What i am asking myself about that situation, how is possible to have a perfect night and only 6 days after she wanna a break up, on that week maybe was something with that guy at work, because she was on wednesday strange
Omg, i am writing her a bible ☺
@AssassinK Thank you for the details. You wrote:”And i think my low attention and passion is only an excuse for the break up”. I think it wasn’t an excuse, but it was the real reason. 6 days before the breakup you were giving her attention/affection, but she remembers all the time you didn’t. You’re just guessing if she stayed with a female friend or the guy..
Okay, you’ve thought about all this stuff enough! Please stop obsessing and focus on yourself. And continue no contact. I understand you’re heart broken, but it won’t do you any good to obsess..
@patricia12
Yeah, you right about all
Ok, what to say, thank you very much for the patience, answers, time…everything!
Everytime when you wrote me something i felt better, if something happened, i will let you know, so you can have more experience for other people.
Thanks!@AssassinK You’re welcome:) Think about something else happy and have a nice weekend..
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