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Let me just say one more important thing, 6 days before the break up, on Saturday our new friend was celebrating his birthday, we was there, the night was perfect, I was giving her a lot of attention, we came home and we had s.x, the next morning on Sunday we were looking for a new apartment for us, the monday and tuesday was normal, on wednesday she was very strange and I asked her if everything was okay. She said yes. I asked again, she said again its ok, but very strange, i saw something is not good, tried not to boder her with that, i was thinking maybe she had a bad day
Like I said, she’s a closed person, thursday passed, and on friday she said that we’re breaking up, but we didn’t, I tried everything, so she said she needed space and she hoped it was just a phase.
But it’s very hard to give space to the person you live with so it didn’t work out, and it lasted a couple of days and then came the breakup
What i am asking myself about that situation, how is possible to have a perfect night and only 6 days after she wanna a break up, on that week maybe was something with that guy at work, because she was on wednesday strange
Omg, i am writing her a bible ☺
@patricia12
Yeah it could be a rebound, i will do the NC, while we were still together, it was one day after the job that my ex told me she wanted to go out to the club with this guy, another female friend who works as well in our company, and the female friend who has a child and lives with my ex now at the apartment, I said yes, because I met him and I know he’s ok and nice, I never would have thought he might want to do something with my girlfriend, she asked me as well if i want to go, i said yes why not, and after a few minutes “boom”, she said it was better if I stay at the apartment to babysit, because the second female friend wouldn’t be able to go with them to the club, like she didnt want me to go, It could be that something happened that night.When we broke up, my ex couldn’t be with me at the apartment, so she said she was going to that first female friend’s house, she was almost at her place every day (like now in the lockdown), but I don’t think she actually stayed with her, i think she was at hims place with him, the more time she spent at his place, the more interest she lost in me, you know what i mean?
Like i said he gave her maybe attention and stuff like that and she liked that.And i think my low attention and passion is only an excuse for the break up
I am getting a clear picture in my mind now
What do you think?
I am really sorry for my english, i hope you understand everything, i am trying to write everything in the details so you know what happened reallyAnd the sad thing is he is 45 years old, and she is 25, she likes older mens, i know that because she said to me that she likes me a lot because i am older and bla bla, the guy is really kind, i met him together with her, i am losing my mind!
@patricia12
Yeah hi, me again, i am really sorry for spaming messagesI watched lot of videos about break ups and stuff like that, i jumped in a video that is pretty close to my situation, as well the attention and bla bla, the guy in the video said, if i text her sometimes like i did, she will never miss me then, he said to start NC, because she will never miss me if i constantly contacting her, i gave her attention now and care, with these messages before what you say to send her, and she knows now that, but if i continue to send her messages it will not change anything if she is with the new guy, and i think this guy is from our company who works with my ex, she goes on the break with him outside and smoke together cigaretes, and on the picture what she posted few days ago, she cheked in the location, and thats the location where he lives, i saw on the picture the same doors like on hes profile picture, there is something about them and i can feel that somehow, like the friend said she was maybe once in the apartment, she is never home, i think she is living now there with him, maybe to start the NC, because if i continue like this i will live in some hope and i will constantly thinking how they having s.. and bla bla, cant erase that from my mind and thats not good, i need to keep moving, if she still miss me she will probably contact me, if not her lost, what do you think? I am really lost, dont know if its better to keep moving and try a reattraction and NC or stay in this hope
Sorry Patricia, maybe you are tired about my messages, but like i said i dont have friends here with who i can speak, i dont wanna talk with my family about that so they dont need to worry, you helping me a lot about the situation, don’t mind please
Ok ok 🙂
I let you know what happened, thanks a lotOmg, you are so good in this 🙂
So much stuff goes through my head, sometimes i am thinking to give up and start NC and wait and wait for her, but then i see your message wich encourages me.No, we lived together 2 years and 8 months, only the last 4 months we lived with this female friend
Whats bothering me most now is her last message, why her message so cold is
Hey, me again, can you just tell me what to do if my ex is with somebody other, maybe she found somebody, i am guessing that, you know, he gave her attention and the beggining stuff and she liked that, and thats why she broke up, because i was chatting today with this female friend where i was with my ex, my ex still lives there, but the female friend said she is never home, i think probably she found another guy, what if this is true, should i still text her on weekend or is there something else to do if she is with another guy?
On the break up i asked my ex if she found another guy, she said no, i am not a girl like that, but who knows, 99% of poeple would say no i didnt found, just to be less pain to the other partner
Ok, we will see, thanks a lot!
@patricia12
Over the weekend, ok (so much i need to wait 🙂 i wanna send her more meesages before that, but i know, it must go slowly )
Like i said my english is not my native language, sometimes i need to translate some words, but 90% i understand what word means something, but this one i dont understand, translates me somehow wrong, should i ask her whats new about her or whats with me new?
I am very shame about the messages and advices, like i said i am lost and i dont wanna suck about the situation and what to text, thats why i ask examples 🙂
Thats why i wanna know 100% what to text her 🙂Ok, whats the next step?
When and what to text her?
🙂@patricia12
Thanks for the responseHer message sounds a little bit cold, or she is acting only like this, what do you think?
I asked her about the coffee/walk before that, on friday, you dont remember, you said we was talking like buddys 🙂
@patricia12
I texted her
Sweetie, I’ve been thinking a lot about you since we split up!
I love you and i miss you. Take care of yourself!
LoveShe texted back
Thanks, you take care as wellOpinion?
@patricia12
Ok, thanks a lot, when i text her and see the situation, i will leave her what happened and see if i need still help@patricia12 ok, lets forget the nickname, if you say thats her way to express confidence about her decision to breakup thats not good then
