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Ok so he just texted me. Mind you, we texted on sunday, he didn’t answer until now, wednesday.
Hi, everything ok? sorry i was already at home and then I forgot sorry. :/ (to answer me). About your moms call, I didnt call back because I thought it was you. But she doesnt need to be sorry, its ok. Actually I’m going with two guys from the a motoclube and my friend might go as well… but the event is the entire day : x lunch, boat ride, wine caves, and dinner, and it costs 47 euros… kisses
Thoughts? Thank you!
To me it seems almost like he is indeed inviting me? Like saying I do want you to go, but its the entire day and a bit expensive, and then he says all the wonderful things that are gonna happen on the event XD
He could have just said, I already have company. Cause last text I said like he probably was going by himself so I could go with him. So he could just say like “its ok im going with other people but thank you” and leave it at that. What do you think?
@kaila Yes from his response it seems like he’s inviting you to come, but not doing it directly. Seems like he’s telling you all this stuff to check if you would be interesting in that stuff. And you’re right, he could have just said that he’s already going with some friends, but he described all these activities and how much it costs 🙂
I think you should tell him that it sounds cool and that you’re thinking to come.@nycor Then I think you should distance yourself from him. You say that he didn’t have any intentions but was getting close to her all this time. And also from his behavior it sounds like he was too close to her during your relationship. It’s hard to think of the best advice but I know that I wouldn’t want a connection with someone who’s acting like this.
@Oshi I can only go if I go with him. I don’t own a bike, and its an event for bikers only.
I was thinking of saying something like
“it seems like it would be a day well spent i talked about it because you told me about the event and then I got thinking that maybe you were going by yourself, and since i think i would enjoy going anyway I offered my company, but i dont want to force it upon you, im ok either way”
please help : x
Kaila how did he used to invite you to do things? Was this the way he did it before?
He never invited me to anything!
He already answered!
Made a bit of conversation, used smilies, asked about my dad (I said I had lunch with him today), and asked if I wanted him to ask the price for a second person going on a bike (me in his bike) 😛 it’s looking good! He could have just ignored the issue altogether, but I guess he wants me to go! It’s so weird xD AND today he liked an album of pics I posted a few days ago! He hasn’t “liked” anything on my profile for more than two months! 😀
So I guess we will be together this saturday AGAIN. The. whole. day. Lunch+dinner+boat ride ihey 😀
Hey @kaila, thats great news! I was just about to reply by saying maybe you should ask whos going on his bike with him. But now you have the answer!
Thanks for posting a comment about my situation yesterday. I have replied to you if you get chance:Small break through – Ex says we'll meet in a week or so….What do I do?
Yes! Thank you 😀 I will answer in a bit pixiepie. Do you want me to take a look at your thread dragongirl?
@kaila: I’m so happy for you! that sounds really promising! But as you said you should stay calm and most important take it slow! I hope you’d have a great day with him! I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you! 🙂
I also have an update about my situation. I would appreciate if you’d take the time to read it and tell me your opinion 🙂
Yesterday I’ve texted him asking how is doing. We kept texting each other for a while. I asked him if he remembers his promise to have a drink together, he said yes and then said that it bothers him that I still have feelings for him. I told him that my intentions are just to stay friends and that I already seeing someone. (I’ve met a new guy lately and we’ve been talking for a while) at first his comment was “Wow nice, I’m happy for you” Then he said okay and we arranged a meeting on the same day.
While I was on my way to meet him he called and asked where I am so he can pick me up, I told him that I’m going to be a bit late, and he said that he has another meeting with a friend after this and that it was unexpected.
Turned out everything was closed because of the holiday, so we went to play snooker together. It was fun, he was teasing me like always, after the game we talked for a while in his car. We talked openly about stuff from our relationship. He asked me questions about this new guy I’ve met. I don’t know why but suddenly I had this confidence in me, I was calm and cool all along 🙂 I told him a bit about this guy and then he said that also some girl from his work that I don’t know tried hitting on him and he turned her down. The thing is that I know all his friends there and he always told me if someone tried anything and he even tried to make me jealous sometimes just for the fun of it, so it could be that he’s making this up or trying to make me jealous.Then he walked me to the bus station and while waiting we kept talking, he was smiling a lot and it felt like we both opened up to each other. Before I got into the bus I mentioned something about this guy and then he asked if he’s handsome and nice and I said yes, I could see that he was a bit nervous. Then he said that if he’s not “the one” then I could meet someone else. I said that I know what I want, then gave him a quick hug for goodbye, he said “oh already?” and then I got on the bus.
Yesterday at 2 am he posted a picture on facebook with his friend hugging some girl, (His friend likes hitting on girls) and him on the side smiling, he tagged her as “random girl” LOL and tagged her even before his friend. also posted another picture of him and his friends smiling with some song lines to show how happy he was.
If I’m not mistaken then I think he’s a bit jealous, I don’t know if I did well telling him about this guy, but it definitely changed something in him.
Also I was on a date with this new guy, he is nice and all but I’m not thinking to continue this. found it hard dating someone while still thinking about my ex.@Oshi I think you definitely made him think, at least that. And before he was considering meeting up and then he decided to do it after you said you were seeing someone. And his story might be totally made up yes. Let me know of any advances, I have a sense he will probably start to text you more often.
Ok so, today I texted him asking if he already had news cause I saw in the event the registrations for it were closed already. He said they answered saying the price is the same. I said “ok, what do you think?”. He said “it’s your choice if you want to pay to go bla bla bla, but tomorrow its probably gonna rain x)” “I said yeah whatever let’s do it”. He then said “Don’t take this the wrong way (which wrong way?) but if you are doing this just for me, there are more events similar to this, even free ones bla bla bla (I had to erase the text, I don’t remember right now) kisses”. I got a bit nervous thinking what to say and I was in tutoring, so he sent an “?” and I answered “sorry, I’m in tutoring right now I can’t even think. Let’s do it”
Well…. First… I don’t get it, is he just trying to be my friend? He has always offered to pay stuff for me, why isn’t he like “ok, I want to see if this can happen between us, I like her, I’m gonna pay”?
Second, if he is saying there are more events, maybe it means he wants to do more of these things with me so maybe thats good?
Third, the fact he has a sense I might be doing this for him… Might be a good sign, that he aknowledges and is ok about me trying, and he is letting me try. But also, am I showing weakness on my part?Am I ruining things again? This is too stressful…
I didnt like at all his sentence where he said ‘dont take this the wrong way, but if you are doing this for me, there are similar events which are free etc…’
As if he was trying to say that u should go only if u want to attend the event and not just to see him… As if he wanted to indirectly tell u not to have high expectations from the trip?
I would re-consider the trip…
But U know him better…
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