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I think he is being considerate of my situation. He is actually thinking I’m only going for him. The bad part of that is that might come out really needy. I wouldn’t want my ex to pay more money than he could JUST to be with me. This tells me we can be together other times. It’s the vibe I’m getting
@kaila Could it be that he meant to say this in a positive way? Like maybe he’s trying to be nice and telling you that you don’t have to come if you don’t really want to because it’s expensive. It seems like he’s aware that you’re trying to spend more time with him and still willing to hang out with you. Also he was the one telling you about this event in the first place, so why would he tell you that and describe all these activities if he wouldn’t want you to come?
I think most of what he said was in a positive way. I don’t see the “don’t take this the wrong way” in a bad way. I see it as him like “I know you would like to go and all but if you are just doing this for me, you don’t need to. We can go to other events.” And I do think that’s very positive.
But I’m afraid an oportunity like this might not come up so soon
Also i think its apparent to him I am really willing to be with him and even then he is not trying to stay away from that. He could have just ignored.
@kaila I agree! It seems like it was in a positive way 🙂
he just said there willl be other events in the summer and even another one like this next year. im pretty sure he isnt REALLY thinking of getting back already to the point he is putting the option out there of us going together next year, or even this summer -.-‘
so my guess is he doesnt want me to go anymore
Ok so, I said that last weekend wasn’t enough bike riding and I was already ready for more. He didn’t answer so I texted saying I was going to sleep and that I didn’t know what he told the guy but if I could still go tomorrow to tell me, and “if you want of course. no problem, really 🙂 kiss” He didn’t answer but I wasnt expecting for now.
Well we’ll see. Im kind of freaking out :/ maybe he felt too much pressure or thought yeah she just wants to go for me, I have no idea. I also don’t know what he meant by “there will be events this summer and another like this one next year”. I would like to think he still wants to get back and after all this this past week, even his texts have been more similar with those we exchanged while together (minus the cute names and stuff), so maybe he is turning around a bit and he genuinely considers a big possibility we might be together by them.
I mean I read your ex talking about the future with you in it is a good sign. Let me know what you think guys thank you and sorry if I haven’t been as supportive. It’s been almost 4 months and now that I’m seeing developments, I just want to make sure I do the right things
I guess I’m oficially not going 🙁 another missed opportunity. I’m sure I’m gonna regret this
@kaila Why didn’t you go? Did he say anything again? Because from your messages it looked like everything is set. Don’t worry, you’ll have more opportunities to hang out with him. I was depressed as well on the holiday because we couldn’t meet up, but as I thought of this more I realized that it doesn’t matter and that we would have more opportunities in the future. I think you should wait for him to contact you, maybe he would ask why haven’t you came. Then tell him that something came up and you couldn’t go, so it would make you look busy like it’s not your first priority to hang out with him.
Hey @Oshi. It doesn’t matter now. He said if I was just going for him there would be more events and even free. I panicked and started having second thoughts if I was showing desperation, and this money is more than enough for my gym fee and also the weather was shit. I am kind of glad I didn’t go as the weather really is very crappy, it rained all day and it’s a bike event! It wouldn’t be all that enjoyable and not the best way to spending a good time, creating good memories and bonding, I guess. Still I should haven’t shown any doubts about going and just say yes let’s go. I should have gone, but it doesn’t matter now. I did say at 1am that if I could still go to tell me in the morning, but the event was at 10 am. So yeah I don’t know and whatever doesnt matter now.
And he would have pick me up to go if it was the case. He lives 5 min by foot from me. And of course we would go together
@kaila I think you should have made it more clear to him that you wanted to come. Maybe he didn’t know if you really wanted and thought that you wasn’t so interested in coming. But it doesn’t matter, as you said the weather was not so great and it wasn’t really a good opportunity to spend time and bonding. He was also with his friends so you couldn’t really spend time alone. I’m sure you’ll have more opportunities.
I agree with oshi and what you said. Remember to relax and breath im sure things will be fine. Be positive and just look to brighter things. At least he is conversing with you…. I’ve hit a block and unfortunately I don’t feel it’ll work…. But I’m here for both of you all you need to do is ask.
Hi Kaila, I’m sry to hear of the turn of events. Your ex sounds like he is hot and cold-that would drive me crazy. Have you heard from him at all today?
So he wants to talk tonight…. I agreed to it but I don’t know what to do. Should I follow the plan and try to work it out? Or just be there, become a comfort and slowly make it work? Or do I just leave it be? He has done much to me but my god do I still care about him. Despite trying to be indifferent the past few days, Yesterday he opened that closed door. Even this other guy couldn’t get me distracted from how much I care for him. I know he still cares he’s shown me and told me dreams. I’m unsure of what to do right now. I guess if no one answers I’ll figure it out but you get my drift. Wish me luck. Hopefully things turn out well even if it’s not the end result you know?
P.S I have these tiny wishing boats that you give to loved ones so they can wish something… Should I give him one? It’s a gift from a Korean friend and he said use it for those you care.
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