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She has really been persistent in asking me to move on.. Probably because she does not need my attention anymore because of him..
How were you able to tell that she still has feelings for me. When lately she just has been telling me to move on. And that her attention now is with this guy. That her mind was refreshed because of him. She even told me that he accepted her for who she is. And i think thats the number one reason why she was able to divert her attention to him.
I’m really depressed now.. I don’t want to live anymore.. It’s like there really is no hope between us anymore.. 7 years.. i loved her that long..
I’m feeling really hopeless about my chances of getting her back. Just now, she admitted that a guy she has attraction to right now admitted his feelings 4 months ago. We broke up 18 days ago.
At first when the guy admitted she did not entertain but told me the attraction was too strong. Then when we got into a lot of fights she told me that those things made her lose my love for me then diverted it to him. My ex is a nurse, he is a doctor. She’s 27, he’s 38.
She told me that she does not love me anymore but wants to be with him, because according to her eventhough they had a lot of fights at work. He still liked her for who she was and told her that he understands why she acts angry around him sometimes. But see there’s one problem. We work in Saudi Arabia. And having relationships like that is strictly a no-no. So she cant be with him because they are not married, they cant show affection in public or things like that.
But i felt envious of what she is feeling for this guy right now, so I gave in. I told her that eventhough I want to be patient in waiting for her and love her discreetly. I still wont stop her if she wants him because it’s what makes her happy.
She also told me that love is not there YET. That maybe it’s just physical attraction. But also told me that even if she may not love him, it does not mean that she’ll be coming back to me. She said no because she’s done with all the fighthing with me.
The last things i told her were from my heart. I just want to be honest because im hurting so much right now. I said that I would wait patiently no matter what. That I would be patient in loving her, even if it means making her happy by her being with someone else.
Am i done for? Honestly. Right now. I’m hoping that i don’t wake up in the morning. My life feels so senseless because now i feel hopeless.
Would NC still be effective if she told me she does not love me anymore, is telling me to move on and find the right person?
And now this, their physical attraction poop.
@LAbound: please guide me through. Seems like you know a lot.
And by pushing my buttons? How?
Too late. I already said in my mind fuck it. She ruined my trust. We’ve been together for 7 years and just after 3 weeks she’s telling me that they both have physical attraction towards each other? Since when?
What stings also is that i was telling her a while ago with compassion that im letting her go and i want her to be happy.
You know what she told me?
“Really? Well you can admit that youre going crazy right now, go crazy, move on then be happy hahahaha”Update: she asked me today if i wasnt checking on her whatsapp. I said no. She asked me if im moving on. I said yes.
Then she admitted that she has this attraction with her doctor.. But told me that it’s purely physical attraction and promised that she does not love him.
She even swore on her father’s grave that she does not love me anymore because when we were still together her feelings towards me already drifted apart.. And that til now she feels a bit of stress towards me.
She even told me that i hope i would find the right on for me in the future. Should i give up now? It’s only been 3 weeks since we broke up.
Is this the time to give up on her? Any advices would surely help. Thankyou.
And i dont tell her directly that im jealous. I dont get mad or even throw a bit of a fit. She knows that whenever i see them both online im already jealous. She actually teases me whenever we meet about that stuff. Im not the one bringing up the topic, she is. Just to tease me. And i dont know why she always finds it funny. Shouldn’t she be annoyed and tell me to stop and move on?
Or is it possible that she’s scared to tell me stop and move on because i might really do it?
LAbound:
She isnt annoyed that im checking up on her. Actually she’s amused. She finds it funny and cute that i get jealous over that guy for no reason and is telling me to relax because there’s nothing between them but still finds my jealousy funny anyway.
I know she checks whatsapp to see if im online because checking up on her is the only reason why i do so. And she knows that. I did not go online at all. But through another phone i saw that she had been online during the hours that she knows i’d be checking up on her. For her right that’s the only way she would know that i still care for her. And she did not see any online status from me.
Right after that i sent her a text asking about work-related stuff. She responded coldly all of a sudden.
Do you think she was acting that way because she might be thinking that im not into her anymore?
How would you make of this?
She knows im online and i know she is expecting it. On whatsapp. Everytime she sees it she makes a move by making me jealous by starting a conversation with a guy she knows im jealous over. I know she does nit have any feelings for him i just pretend that i dont see that.
But the past few days i deleted my whatsapp and used another account so she does not know that im online.
And during that time that she thought i was not checking on her anymore she stopped that conversation with that dude.
But before that she would be online nonstop and i know shenwould make yp any conversation with that guy just so i could see that theyre both online. And she anticipates that. She even said when she saw me online as well she said “i knew it” and then laughed.
If youre a girl whos completely over your ex and you know hes checking up on you, you would have the decency to tell him to stop and start moving on right? But for her no. She just entertains what im doig and. Would just laugh about it.
Need help about this one. Does she still love me if shes doing these things?
From the way i look at it. He already has the tables turned. I mean if you were the one who dumped him and had him chase you that would have hurt him a lot. Maybe during your course of NC that hurting turned into anger. It could be that he’s getting back at you for what happened. From the looks of it, he’s trying to make you feel what it felt when you dumped him, the only uncertainty is, whether he’s doing it before he totally forgets about you or he’s doing it so you can apologize for your mistakes.
My problem is i would not be able to do complete NC because after 13 days exactly we’ll be going back to work, and we’re livif under the same room. I cant move out or even shift to another room because it’s the only choice we have. It’s our sponsor’s rule. So how would i act so she would miss me when she sees me everyday?
She told me she does not love me but barely after just 2 days of NC she was pretending she’s dying to go out and was asking me to be her companion. Even yesterday when i apologized she did not say a word about our argument and went straight right away to asking if i want the camera so i could get it from her. I’d like to see that there’s hope. But i think i need a stronger push.
