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Dara,
I don’t think he deletes texts without reading them that must have been someone else whose ex does that… (At least I don’t think he does!). If I was going to text him, what type of text would you recommend I send?
Also, I want to change my profile name on this website to ‘S’ because I’m getting a little paranoid that someone might recognize me… Does anyone know how to do that?
Hi everyone,
I’m so pissed off again these past few days. The letter is still not marked as seen on fb so he could have deleted it without even reading it and there’s know way for me to know. He has been active on fb and posted a really funny video he took off the ice bucket challenge so he seems really genuinely happy!
I hate feeling like this, it seems like I’m the only one not making any progress here. I don’t think I’ll ever meet anyone else now and it feels like I’ll always feel this way.
I really want to do something stupid and see / call / text him. I know I can’t, but I’m so lonely without him. I can talk to him in a way I can’t talk to anyone else… I really wish I had handled all this differently from the start and we’d be together now! I just want to cry
Dara – Your posts are the only thing making me smile lately. Shouting after that she lacks class was brilliant 😉
Daniel – I’d leave it until next week if I was you and then drop a very casual text like ‘something reminded me of you’ ‘just wondering how the exams went’. Keep it cool, I think!
p.s. why was your nc period 4 months? Mine was 4 months too (badly needed) but I sent the RR letter instead of a casual meeting / text, which I now think I should have, maybe, done instead…Dara – How are your acting skills??? I think when you see her you should treat her like an old friend who you have no romantic feelings for at all ;-)… Work on it…
Rihanna – I haven’t checked my personal email today yet, we’ve been so busy in work, this will be another long week for me, but I’ll check tomorrow ok 😉 In the mean time put on Beyonce’s single ladies and have a dance around the kitchen for me that’ll empower you
Steve – Hello big blue eyes, how’s NZ treating you these days? I was a bit over dramatic saying I lost my home and job because of my ex. The thing is it was only indirectly because of him. My job finished up and I had to move for work so I also had to move house (seeing as I’m in a new city), I haven’t officially lost my old house (yet) but it may just be a matter of time because I’m struggling with mortgage repayments at home and rent here, I can’t keep it up for too many more months… It’s just the timing of all of this linked into when we broke up so I indirectly blame him… I did however realise a lot of my friends were actually his friends so I do feel I’ve lost out there because of him…
A.Z any update since he contacted you???? How are you feeling?
Hi Johnny,
I don’t think you really did NC for the last 2 weeks if you were still in contact with her. I think you should start the 30 days NC now and use the check list on the home page to make sure you are doing it right. The NC period is for you to work on yourself. Don’t worry to much about the bank account etc. you can sort that all out in a month. In the mean time if she wants to speak to you about anything like that keep the conversation short and to the point and try not to talk about anything personal – especially the break-up – during the NC period. If she say’s anything about the break-up tell her you respect her decision to break up…
Hello everyone 🙂
Its sooooo nice to be back! God, I was just away for a couple of days and there are pages and pages and pages to catch up on – it’s great
Rihanna – Yep that’s my email. If you email me I’ll try find you on fb
Steve – I hear u man, I get day’s like that still and they are the worst. Yet, other days I just think fu*k him I can do better anyway and I’m not wasting any more time on someone who doesn’t want me! And the crazy thing is I know as soon as I truly move on and meet someone else (if I ever do) he’ll want me back. I know this without a shadow of a doubt because I’ve only ever been the 1 girl he’s loved. Ever since we were kids, there was never anyone else for him. Even though he’s been back from holidays for a week now and my letter is still not marked as ‘seen’ in fb and knowing him (which I do) he hasn’t actually read it. I think he’ll leave it there for a few weeks and when he’s built up enough courage he’ll read it (fear of it being something bad or desperate no doubt!).
But all this just makes me angry with him because he always drags his heels and I’m always the one to move things along he’s just so fearful of putting himself out there that he opts out you know? His approach to conflict has always been to avoid it at all costs and when an issue does arise he will act sorry but won’t discuss it! I’m the opposite, but he was always like this, even with friends he is like that, actually now that I think about it, his whole family acts this way – just ignore the problem until it until it goes away…
Dara – I lost everything when I lost my ex too. My home, job, friends. It sucks but if she cheated on you your better off without her. Especially if she didn’t tell you and let you try to make her happy EVERY DAY for 4 months… That’s a really shitty thing to do to someone!
Any enough giving out from me 😉 and I hope everyone is doing well today…
Hi Baileyjarb,
I’d say he’s still thinking of you anyway seeing as he blocked you from social media so that may not be all bad…
Are you blocked from his phone? If not I think you could send one of the ‘something reminded me of you’ texts from the home page and wait and see if he replies to that. Good luck!
There’s no need to be scared just try do as a.z suggests and be cool, don’t talk about anything personal and just act like she is a normal friend. Good luck!
Rihanna,
How can I link you to fb? I’m sinead m dunphy@ gmail. com
Also, a.z how are u? I’m curious because ur feelings / symptoms seem similar to mine (before my diagnosis) I know that seems like a shit thing to say because ur situation is yours and mine is mine, but I just want to let you know that I know what it feels likes to be stuck in the hospitalHi everyone,
This is just a quick hello because I’m working very long hours all this week but I hope to read through everyone’s posts on the weekend and hopefully reply to some (something to look forward to :-))…
Rihanna – In what way are you codependent? For example do you ever go to the movies / lunch / exhibitions by yourself? When you move back to Syd, will it be the first time you’ve looked dafter your own finances, bills etc?
Talk soon everyone, roll on the weekend… 😉
No it won’t. The opposite will happen and she will miss you more. Read the article and follow the plan
Hi Everyone,
Sorry for the delay in replying – this post is in response to everyone’s questions from August 14th. But I do check in on everyone here and read your posts daily I just don’t always leave a comment…
Steve – I’d love to have a kiwi friend I lived in Australia for 2 years (Sydney mostly) but I’ve never been to NZ so I’m very happy to have a NZ friend now!
Dara – I’m female, aged 39, but feel, act and look 25 lol 😉 I’m Irish, I love gymnastics, books, going to the pub (surprise surprise) and I consider myself very funny – I think I have Oscar Wilde’s wit :-). I’m a disaster with men having only been in love twice and if I could change anything about myself it would be my extreme independence and stubbornness (both these things may have cost me my two loves).
Rihanna – Sinead is pronounced Shin-Ade so Shin as in shin bone and ade as at the end of lemonade.
Daniel – Yes we are all very cool here in Ireland
