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Hi everyone,

I’m so pissed off again these past few days. The letter is still not marked as seen on fb so he could have deleted it without even reading it and there’s know way for me to know. He has been active on fb and posted a really funny video he took off the ice bucket challenge so he seems really genuinely happy!

I hate feeling like this, it seems like I’m the only one not making any progress here. I don’t think I’ll ever meet anyone else now and it feels like I’ll always feel this way.

I really want to do something stupid and see / call / text him. I know I can’t, but I’m so lonely without him. I can talk to him in a way I can’t talk to anyone else… I really wish I had handled all this differently from the start and we’d be together now! I just want to cry 

Dara – Your posts are the only thing making me smile lately. Shouting after that she lacks class was brilliant 😉

Sinead,

He has read it! I assure you! I can’t believe it! I remember you said earlier that he deletes texts without reading them but that cannot be true about an ex and if it true, you should consider moving on!

Don’t worry about the name! There are many Sineads around the world especially Ireland. Plus, not everyone is psycho to look for profiles on GYEBP site!

Oh! Thank you for your compliment!

For me it’s all over now! I knew it long ago! The doormat that I was will take millions of years to be forgotten! She really had low class behavior and I was really compromising by wanting her back!

Hi all!
I’m glad to hear that most peeler are feeling better about things on here!
Dara
Your messages always make me laugh! Your ex seems like a really negative piece of work. I’m glad that your taking the steps to date and move forward as much as you are.
A.z
I hope the date was amazing!!
Sinead
Stay strong! You can do this. Try not to obsess about it- do things to distract yourself. I’d also suggest stopping his Facebook notifications from reaching your news feed until you guys get back onto better terms. I know it hurts seeing the happy stuff he posts! It was the best thing I did for my personal growth and ex recovery.

I’m personally about 3 weeks in to officially no contact and I feel much, much better. I’ve really come to terms with the fact that him cheating and being terrified of my kids are things that I don’t need in my life at all. He still pops into my head but the feelings aren’t loving or longing, they’re mostly a mix of regret for starting anything with him in the first place and knowing that he is going to regret his decisions later when he grows up past his game playing stage(I say this because of how he was adamant about loving me but being scared etc. If its true he’ll kick himself later). I have to see him next weekend at a get together mutual friends are having and I’m not even slightly tempted to talk to him, never mind trying to win him back! I don’t think his gf(the girl he cheated with) is going to be there so that’ll be nice. Fake smiles are not my thing and I know she’ll try to rub things in my face the first time I meet her. It might be better to just get it out of the way though… Kill them with kindness, be sickeningly sweet 😉 I don’t like games so if she starts it I’ll shut her down. I’m also still talking to the ex from a few years ago that popped back up wanting to see if things could start up between us again! He’s made some great changes in his life since we were last together and so have I. I’m making sure we move slow but I’m liking the idea of trying again more and more! I don’t want to start anything serious with him until I feel like I’ve put everything with the most recent ex to rest the way I need to.

Thanks Loraina and Dara,

Dan (on the reconciliation board), just told me that if we are not fb friends he may not have gotten my pm. We are not fb friends anymore, but I’m not blocked either so I thought I could still pm him and he would get the message.

I don’t know what to think now… I’m kind of glad he may not have read the letter so I can send a casual text now; on the other hand if he had read it he might have contacted me by now.

Sinead,
Im pretty sure he got your fb message. Me and my ex arent fb friends but we were chatting on fb last week. As long as you’re not blocked the messages will go through.

That’s fine but I suggest you to elaborate that something. For example name the event/festival/movie/news/whatsoever so that he also make connections with it!

I was thinking of a question instead of, “It put a smile on my face though :-)’”

Like, “Can you believe that the guy responsible, entertainer, manager, speaker, etc. for that event/festival/movie/news/whatsoever lives near our apartment, is a colleague, my father’s friend, dated my friend, is an astronomer, is a cop, was a drug addict, is a living saint, etc.?

Maybe my suggestion is a bit more active! 🙂

Best of luck!

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