Mixed Signals – I am so confused!! HELP!!!

I am so confused right now. My ex and I have had our ups and downs but we have always been good together. Here’s our background..

Been together for almost 2 years. We had a break half way through when our own personal stuff put pressure on our relationship. After 2 months of chasing I started to accept that she was never coming back and I got drunk, had a rebound night that ended up with my ex showing up at 6am to get back together with me but finding another woman in my bed. (I didn’t cheat, we were both single at the time)

I lied to her and said we just passed out and nothing happened. 2 weeks ago(8 months after this all happened) I came clean. She’s obviously very upset that I lied to her. She feels like she was conned into a relationship based on a lie.

Despite breaking up I still saw light at the end of the tunnel with how she’s been acting post breakup. Here’s a list of things that she’s done after the break up..

– didn’t pick up her things until I had to pack them up for her and ask her to pick them up
– deposited $10000 into our joint account a few days after we broke up then a further $3100 only a few days ago.
– I started NC with her and since then she dropped my housemates (female) straighteners over when she could of gave them to my other housemate (male) that she hangs with regularly
– has used my shower before going away camping with my housemate (male)
– after a week of NC she all of a sudden has a very active Facebook checking into everywhere and posting pictures of her having the time of her life etc
– only just took me and my dad out of her Facebook cover photo in the past few days
– checked up on me by randomly showing up at my house saying she’s here to see my housemates

Just yesterday she came over out of the blue to hang with my housemate (male) and watch movies while I’m downstairs. He went to work and she still stayed at mine. She stayed the night in his room while he’s at work. We got talking and she basically said that we will never get back together and should start seeing other people because she can’t be with someone who betrayed her trust. I’m just so confused because there are so many things that would suggest she was still interested just really annoyed.

She did cry yesterday for the first time after the breakup after having a good chat with me so I’m guessing this is the start of her healing?

I asked her if it would make it easier if I stayed out of her life and just let her get on with it and she said from the moment she knew the truth she wouldn’t care either way because she doesn’t feel any different towards me either way (no love for me) but later last night she said she isn’t going to cut communications with me and she will still see me from time to time.

What does all this mean? Is she just confused and hurt or does it seem like she’s genuinely not interested in working out? Just so many mixed signals. I just assumed if you break up with someone you get out of their life and move on but she’s made contact every few days in some way. I mean you definitely wouldn’t put 13000 into your ex bfs joint account who you apparently don’t trust after the breakup…

HELP!!!